#* system things

[unknownecosystem]

One thing we noticed is when there's an alter who uses glasses, the body start having the feeling that there's something missing in our face.

Just a silly observation hehe

Laura - She/It

[azureansys]

r/fdc is like

"disorder salad"

and its just a list of disorders that are comorbid with each other

[ourrainbowsystem]

If you are dating one of your alters in your system as the host, here are some things to remember:

No, you are not dating yourself.

You are not in a relationship with yourself

No, you don’t “have feelings” for yourself

You are dating your person:)

They make you super happy

I hope you know how loved you are

You are special

Happy Valentines Day<3

Let them hug you in the headspace if comfortable!

It’s okay to be happy

I’m supportive of your relationship with your alter

[deceitful-appearance-system]

Felt 😔

~💙✨🃏

Can we talk about how lonely it is to be a plural system in the dating community?

Like all I want to do is give someone my love and affection, but it seems like every time I get into a relationship and they know about my plurality. They talk to me for a few days and then completely ghost me. They sometimes even block me or delete their account .

I feel sad. I’m wondering if I’m doing something wrong. Is there something that just turns people off of wanting to be around me?

I wish I could find another plural system to be partners with,. I just want someone who understands what I’m going through, and doesn’t leave me because I have all these different personalities in my head.

Someone should make a dating app for plurals 

[evilsystem]

being immortal and having DID must be crazy. yeah our boy Carlos hasn't fronted in 300 years and just woke up to the sound of Uptown Funk and started screaming

[boyswillbedogz]

trauma so bad my coping mechanisms have names and pronouns

[fetty-fazbear]

“Stop thinking of alters as separate people” this and “alters are each there own different entities that shouldn’t be blended” that

How about we let each system decide what feels best to them and stop policing systems that are already dealing with a very complex and varying disorder

[thattheater-kid]

Here’s my metaphor for systemhood that I tell my singlet friends.

Imagine you’re playing a first person video game. You have the controller, you control your character. It’s a normal first person game. You are an alter, the character is the body. This is fronting.

Other people live with you. Sometimes, they come into the room and sit and watch while you play. They sometimes try to guide you, give you advice on what to do next. They don’t always agree, and they can argue with each other. Other times they scream at you that you’re doing everything wrong and you suck at this game. This is co-consciousness.

Imagine how distracting it would be for people around you to tell you what to do, or to scream at each other or at you, even if they have good intentions. It wouldn’t be easy to focus on your game, would it?

Then sometimes, something happens in the game that prompts you to hand off the controller to someone else so they can play and you get a break. This is (some types of) switching. This can be good.

Other times, someone rips the controller out of your hand or fights you for it. This is (other types of) switching. And sometimes, six other players hook up their controllers, but there’s only one character to play as. So all of you have your controllers, but you’re all trying to play the same character. This is cofronting.

Imagine how difficult that would be. Imagine how hard it would be to try and play a game while someone is trying to take the controller from you, or while six other people are trying to play too.

There are also times that nobody is playing, or you can’t decide who should play. What’s happening to the character in the game? What are they doing if no one is playing? This is dissociation. The character is doing nothing. They’re stuck.

This is the best metaphor I have come up with for being a system. It’s something a lot of people get because they’ve played games before.

[collective-of-otto]

Taken from reddit

[edible-emerald]

saw this on pinterest and thought it might be something traumagenic systems who struggle with thinking their trauma isn't enough need to see

[pplatonic]

about a cofront today

[thecreepycrawlersss]

being plural means a headmate pulling you into headspace to cuddle with you and help you go to sleep because of your& insomnia

being plural means smiling and laughing at a joke one of your headmates made, or having witty banter with them as you make a meal that you'll both be able to enjoy

being plural means a headmate going "its okay, you don't have to do this, i can do it" and you thanking them because yeah, you cant do that, and thats okay

being plural means thinking about your headmates when buying new clothes, or seeing a shirt or pair of pants for sale and going "they'd love that !!"

being plural means making one of your headmate's simplyplural profile, and spending lots of time perfecting it so that it fits them to a T

being plural means knowing you aren't alone

being plural means knowing that your headmates, your friends, your family, are always there for you

being plural means love.

THIS POST IS INCLUSIVE OF SYSTEMS OF ALL ORIGINS !!! DO NOT BRING SYSCOURSE ONTO THIS POST.

[killsterrrr]

shout out to those alters that fronted once then dipped🙏🙏

[lightlysaltedsalt]

"Worst thing about plurality is the amnesia" "worst thing about plurality is in-sys fighting" LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER worst thing about plurality is the strain on our bank account trying to accommodate eight different fashion styles

[freakthatdoesthekissing]

shout out to plurals who’s frequent fronters change all the time.

shout out to alters who are afraid of not fronting all the time, either because theyre so use to it or they’re afraid they wont get to front again.

shout out to systems who wish they had a more consistent rotation of fronters and wish it wasn’t so come and go with system members.

shout out to alters who like fronting.

shout out to members who get frontstuck regularly.

and shout out to systems trying to find a middle ground between being front stuck and having completely inconsistent fronters.