#CONVERSATION

[princessfaerygia]

No fire for me please. Rogers daughter Suzy is pyromaniac. She's a Scorpio. I'm Leo sun Scorpio moon enuff fire already. Can you believe the California fires were set ablaze by man? That's frickin rude.

If I could do girlhood again, I’d ask

to be scarier. Less whimpering—more pyromaniac

urges, more flirting with kerosene.

— Sally Wen Mao, from “Drop-kick Aria,” Mad Honey Symposium

[readtrovert]

"I am so mad at him, yet I wanna kiss him so bad."

"Ah, that delicious dilemma!"

[rapplesart]

Jason : Dick, I need your help.

Dick : Oh my god it's finally happening my little brother needs help!

Jason : Dick listen-

Dick : Alright so you know how to bury a body and make it disappear. You're good at cooking and stuff so no household help. You definetly don't need a pickup after drinking...... So what kind of emotional mess are We in?

Jason : First of all, rude!

Dick : You'd hang up on me after said "I need", I am nothing but polite here!

Jason : Well you're not wrong.

Dick : See?!? So, emotional mess?

Jason : Yeah OK listen, I did a Bruce.

Dick : You did a what now?

Jason : A Bruce. There's a kid sleeping on my couch and -

Dick: Oh my god. Are they an orphan?

Jason : Yes? No? I don't know.

Dick : Black hair, blue eyes?

Jason :..... Yes

Dick:..... Well,.... Are you gonna let them fight crime after they discovered your secret identity and/or force their way into your nightlife by being a sidekick you never asked for but can't get rid off any more?

Jason : OK Listen, he came like that!

Dick, whispering: Oh my god, you did a Bruce.

[synticity]

if you feel like you're always getting talked over, or if you feel like you're always accidentally interrupting people, you should consider looking into some of the linguistics research about conversation style and turn-taking. lingthusiasm podcast has a great episode called "how to rebalance a lopsided conversation" that goes over some of this research in a really accessible way; Deborah Tannen's book You just don't understand is an early book¹ that's aimed at general audiences on the same topic.

the thing is, when there's conflict in how a conversation flows, often what's going on is a mismatch in norms or expectations -- not that one person is necessarily acting "wrong" and the other person is "right." the mismatches in norms/expectations can and do align with existing power structures in society, but being more aware of them can really help you as an individual trying to navigate them.

you can train your brain for more linguistic awareness! start listening for pauses, intakes of breath, or back-channeling that's meant to support, not interrupt. try it out!

¹ I am linking to the wikipedia page for the book rather than a link to buy the book because it's kind of outdated and the criticism section on the wiki page is pretty reasonable. If you do read this book, be prepared for uhhhh period-typical gender essentialism that, to my knowledge, Tannen has not particularly updated her views on in the intervening time. But it is an influential and important book, just read it skeptically imo

[museify]

[yeesiine]

The intimacy of deep conversation.

[balkanparamo]

The Art of Conversation: René Magritte

[princessfaerygia]

yes... Mine is very often pictorial sometimes cartoons I've never seen play in mind. It's wild!

And when I smoked marijuana oh my gosh. It's like I was in the deepest most silly and strange conversation with myself.

I’m sorry I just don’t believe that most people have an inner voice in their head that speaks their thoughts for them. that sounds made up. why do you need a voice. just think in silence like a goat or a dog, it’s better that way

[akwardsilince]

Person A: "I could give you the world!"

Person B: "The fuck do I do with that."

[facts-i-just-made-up]

could i get some facts about me to recite when new people ask me to tell them something about myself and my mind goes immediately blank

This is a problem that happens to many people with much on their mind. Here is a set of things you can tell people, no matter what the occasion:

I am not made solely of pine-wood or pine-derivative plastics.

I have between zero and four thousand limbs, inclusive.

I contain several liters of my people's water.

My name is comprised mostly of real letters (Musks may differ).

I am unaware of the contents of soil on most exoplanets.

My spleen is smaller than the Chicago metropolitan area.

I am not, have never been, and may never be you.

Telling people these facts will always put them at ease and quell any concerns they have about your normality.

[deloveusion]

sex after tough conversations >>>>

[princessfaerygia]

ah so it is my friend . Not too bad i guess. A bit noisy for me and cray cray for me but not too bad.

Fry end! Boom e$plosion! U happy with this monetary divinity?

Imagine if the tumbirina feminists spent as much time talking about building muscle, gaining wealth, and learning tactical skills as much as they do talking about a lobotomized popstar and her stupid album cover.

[reasonsforhope]

"A recent World Meteorological Organization report called heat waves the “deadliest meteorological hazard” from 2015 to 2019, affecting people living on all continents, and setting new national heat records in many regions.

‍Canada’s top weather event in 2021 was British Columbia’s record-breaking heat, according to Environment and Climate Change Canada. The temperature in Lytton, B.C., hit 49.6 C on June 29. The following day a wildfire destroyed 90 per cent of the town, killing two people and displacing 1,200 others.

Heat waves also exacerbate existing health issues, including cardiovascular and respiratory disease. They’re associated with increased hospital admissions, psychological stress and aggressive behavior, as well as excess mortality.

During heat waves, the highest temperatures are often found in urbanized areas. Urbanization is almost always associated with an increase in paved, impervious areas, and often a decrease in greenery. Concrete and asphalt roads, and other built materials readily absorb, store and release heat, raising city temperatures, a phenomenon called the urban heat island.

Many studies have shown that urban forests can reduce the urban heat island, and many policies focus their attention on large green spaces.

Small green spaces, such as yards, rooftops and small parcels of undeveloped land, can make impressive contributions to lowering urban heat, but they are often overlooked when developing strategies for urban cooling.

The effect of small green spaces

Cities rarely have the opportunity to add large green spaces to help counter the effects of heatwaves. Smaller vegetated spaces, however, can still meaningfully decrease local land temperatures.

Small green spaces, such as yards, rooftops and small parcels of undeveloped land, can make impressive contributions to lowering urban heat, but they are often overlooked when developing strategies for urban cooling.

A recent study in Adelaide, Australia, found that tree canopy cover and, to a lesser extent, grass cover decreased local daytime surface temperatures by up to 6 C during extreme summer heat conditions. Further inland, suburban yards and gardens can decrease local surface temperatures up to 5 C.

At a quite small scale, on the order of tens of square metres, trees reduced daytime surface temperatures twice as much as grass cover. But grass and other small, low-lying plants, grow relatively quickly, compared to trees.

Cities should adopt short-term and long-term strategies to respond to extreme heat, including the replacement of paved and impervious surfaces with grasses and turf, and increasing tree plantings to boost canopy coverage.

Amplifying the cooling effect

Furthermore, when managing small green spaces, city planners and foresters can select tree species based on their ability to cool the environment. Green spaces with a high diversity of tree species have a greater cooling effect in spring, summer and fall. They also have a larger maximum drop in temperature in the summer, compared to spaces that are less diverse.

For example, tree canopies with large leaves and high transpiration rates — the evaporation of water from plants occurring at the leaves — could provide more cooling.

Planting a variety of species, of different heights, can have a larger cooling effect than tall trees alone.

The structure of green space may also influence its cooling efficiency. In summer, a plant community with multiple layers of trees, shrubs and herbs can further decrease air temperature by 1 C on a sunny day and 0.5 C on a cloudy day, compared with an area only dominated by tall trees...

But overall, trees usually have a stronger effect on cooling than grass. Planting trees in groups, not individually or in lines, is recommended for regulating the microclimate (local climate conditions near the Earth’s surface).

Small green spaces can offer a lot of summer cooling in cities. And cities can learn to manage the configuration of small green spaces better to get more cooling benefits and minimize the trade-offs."

-via GoodGoodGood, July 4, 2024

[readtrovert]

"What do you want?"

"I want to want you, need you, see you, hear you, breathe you, feel you, own you, kiss you, fight you and most of all, I want to love you."

[agirlwithglam]

Ok guys so I no longer preach being only interestED in conversations. Hear me out because if you find that you’re still not able to hold a conversation, like me- this is what was most likely holding you back.

THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING ABLE TO HOLD A CONVERSATION

(and it’s not asking questions!!!!)

Okay so listen up. I know many people tell you that all you need to do is keep asking questions about the other person and keep them talking the entire time. Once upon a time, I thought this too. Then I tried it out. I kept asking others questions and being interested in them but I just couldn’t understand why they still didn’t seem so eager. But then I looked at other people and the way they had conversations and I realised… they tell stories too.

And that’s what keeps a conversation going. Tell stories about your own life. Talk about yourself as well! I say ‘as well’ because you need the right amount of talking and listening as well.

People want to listen to you too, they want to listen about your interesting life! When talk to them about something you’re passionate about or something that happened to you that relates to the conversation, they’re actually interested guys!!

Stop thinking that you have nothing interesting to say because people do find you interesting. A lot of them DO want to listen to you talk.

When you tell others about something in your life, they will want to learn more, they will be curious. Sometimes because they’re actually interested, or because they’re like you and they want to make you happy and keep the conversation going.

But what I’m NOT saying is to talk about yourself all the time. If you yap about yourself the entire time, others will start to get bored. Listen, people do want to learn more about you, but they also love to talk about themselves.

Make it a conversation where you’re both chipping in and also giving others space, time and your attention while they talk.

Remember: you are interesting, you are worthy of attention and being listened to. Once you understand this, conversations will come easily to you!!