#Confidence Is Key

[eclaires-world]

Toot that thang up

[superficialcore]

Your not ugly. You just lack confidence.

If yall need any tips, lmk. ♡｡ﾟ•┈🎀┈• ｡ﾟ

[kiwibirbkat]

Alright, people have been telling me that self confidence is important, so

(He's around 20 feet tall while I'm about 5'3)

[the-foley-knoll-horror]

I've found that the trick to making people like your OCs is to just, keep making shit for them. Constantly. Keep drawing and writing them, for your own fun, and people will eventually start to be drawn to them.

[iamnietszche]

what makes Liam Gallagher so interesting is how he walks and talks like he is the coolest man alive, and the fact he genuinely seems to believe that is what, to me, makes him the coolest man alive

[ibelieveinunicornz]

Sometimes I think my outfits are the reason people stare at me so much but I recently came to the conclusion that I'm just a pretty angel.

[netscapenavigator-official]

My cat is currently chasing a bug around the room. However, she's doing a very bad job at it.

The bug is one of those large, hard-shell black beetles. Not a stag or anything, but it's still pretty big. I guess because it's so big, she isn't interesting in swatting at it or trying to play with it. So, instead, she's following it around, occasionally moving to a new seating spot so she can watch it from a better angle.

Any time she gets too close to the bug, in an attempt to smack it or eat, it turns around and begins walking directly towards her. She then gets scared and twists and turns and runs away, and then the cycle continues. So, basically, my cat has taught a beetle confidence and the beetle is now weaponizing it against her.

[ogpuckbunny]

I’ll go deeper into things you can say and do to actually catch their attention soon, because trust me, there’s a way to do it right and a way to ruin your chances completely. 😉💋

Girl let me get my 📓 ready!!!

Haha but fr im living for all this

I want to hear good and bad things to say

Like how do you get a player to approach you at the bars/clubs

Haha I love that you're already ready to take notes. Trust me, there's a lot you can do to catch their attention without looking desperate or like every other basic girl at the bar. I'm gonna spill the tea soon on how to do it right. there's a way to stand out without being over the top.

When it comes to the bars/clubs,The biggest and most useful tip is confidence. Don’t be the girl who’s chasing after them or staring at them from across the room. Make sure you’re acting cool and confident, like you don’t need them but are totally open to having a fun night. They’ll notice that. If they catch your eye, just casually smile and maybe even turn away. mystery is always intriguing. Don’t make it obvious you're interested. And definitely don’t be loud and obnoxious like the other girls: they’re not into that.

Dress to impress as well. Don't go out looking like you just rotted in bed all day or like you through on whatever was in your hamper. LOOK PRESENTABLE. Have your hair done nicely, Do your makeup, Put on a hot ass dress or outfit. That is what guys look for. They don't want someone who doesn't look put together and doesn't care about themselves.

I’ll break down more about what to say and what NOT to say soon, trust me. Just been trying to settle in and get back into the groove of being on Tumblr phew. But don't worry bunnies all the tips and advice will be coming !!!!💋

[thevegaedit]

✨ Men Don’t Fall for the Woman Who Gives Too Much

Attraction Principle #10:

When a woman doesn't give in easily and doesn't appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.

In her book Getting to 'I Do', Dr. Patricia Allen emphasizes the importance of maintaining traditional masculine and feminine roles within relationships. She posits that every successful partnership consists of a leader (masculine energy) and a follower (feminine energy). According to Allen, a woman who embodies feminine energy should prioritize receiving over giving, allowing the man to take the lead. This dynamic aligns with the idea that men are natural pursuers or "hunters" in relationships. By not giving in easily and refraining from appearing overly docile or submissive, a woman presents a challenge, thereby stimulating a man's intrinsic desire to chase and obtain her. Allen suggests that such an approach not only respects traditional gender roles but also fosters a balanced and fulfilling relationship dynamic. Why Allen Supports Traditional Gender Roles:

Men Are Natural Chasers – Allen emphasizes that men thrive when they can pursue and provide. If a woman assumes a traditionally "masculine" role (chasing, initiating, leading), she disrupts the natural attraction dynamic, making the man feel unnecessary or even emasculated.

2. Feminine Energy Attracts Masculine Energy – She argues that when a woman embraces receptivity, softness, and the ability to let a man lead, she allows space for his masculine energy to emerge, which makes the relationship more fulfilling.

3. Balance Prevents Power Struggles – If both partners compete for dominance (both being in masculine energy), it leads to power struggles and disconnection. Similarly, if both are in feminine energy (passive, waiting to be led), nothing happens. She suggests that a clear balance of roles makes relationships smoother and more fulfilling.

4. It’s About Chemistry, Not Submission – Allen clarifies that embracing feminine energy doesn’t mean being weak or dependent. Instead, it means allowing the man to take action while the woman remains in a receptive position, creating the romantic chemistry needed for long-term commitment.

5. Men Need to Feel Useful – She points out that men derive confidence and purpose from providing, leading, and protecting. When a woman is too independent in a way that excludes men from fulfilling these roles, it can diminish attraction and motivation on his end. Allen’s Key Quote on This:

"If a woman is too giving, she robs a man of the opportunity to give to her. And if he can't give to her, he will stop investing in her."

TL;DR – She doesn’t argue that women should be weak or dependent, but rather that they should understand how gender polarity creates strong attraction and healthy relationship dynamics.

[eclaires-world]

A few wise words from these bad girls

[superficialcore]

I realised bitches will laugh at you simply because they cannot do what you do. They lack the confidence to even reach the level you are on. So, in return, they try and make you feel as insecure as they might feel being around your presence.

Let me inspire you જ⁀➴ ♡ ‎⋆ ˚｡⋆🫧

#itgirlshii ｡ﾟ•┈🎀┈• ｡ﾟ

Simply that girl 彡

[amandalaeffect]

WHY CONFIDENCE IS SO IMPORTANT !!

Okay, let’s talk about confidence, the ultimate life upgrade. Confidence isn’t just about walking into a room like you own it (though, that’s definitely part of it). It’s that feeling of self-assurance, where you trust yourself to handle whatever life throws at you. It’s a combination of how you feel about your abilities, your self-worth, and your ability to tackle challenges. But what exactly goes down in your brain to make you feel confident? And how does it impact how others see you and how you behave? Let’s dive in!

THE CHEMISTRY BEHIND CONFIDENCE?

At the core of confidence, we have the brain. Seriously, your brain is like the CEO of confidence, calling the shots on how you feel and how you react. When you’re feeling confident, your brain is doing some cool stuff behind the scenes. It’s releasing feel-good chemicals like dopamine and serotonin that make you feel calm, positive, and ready to take on the world. Your brain also taps into the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for decision-making, planning, and processing emotions. When it’s working in sync, you can make decisions with clarity, trust your instincts, and go after what you want without second-guessing.

On the flip side, when you're not feeling confident, your brain might get a little stuck in "fear mode," activating the amygdala, which is your brain’s alarm system. This could lead to overthinking, anxiety, and feeling like everything is a big deal when it's really not. So, confidence is literally a chemical cocktail that happens in your brain—and the more you practice feeling confident, the more your brain gets used to it and can help you feel that way naturally.

DOES IT AFFECT PEOPLE'S PERCEPTIONS?

Now, how does all this brain chemistry impact how others see you? Spoiler: it totally affects it. When you walk into a room, people can sense your confidence (or lack of it) based on your body language, tone of voice, and the way you carry yourself. Think about it: when you feel confident, you stand taller, smile more, and your posture is open. You’re less likely to shrink away in social situations, and more likely to engage in conversations or express your opinions. These nonverbal cues speak volumes, often louder than words.

Others are naturally drawn to people who radiate confidence. It makes them feel like you’re someone they can trust, someone who’s competent, or someone who’s got their life together (even if you secretly don’t). Confident people tend to get more respect, better opportunities, and are often viewed as more attractive. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about owning your uniqueness and being comfortable in your skin.

'FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT' , DOES IT WORK?

Confidence doesn’t just show up on its own. It’s a skill that you build, and you can start practicing by behaving in ways that reflect how you want to feel. Ever heard of the phrase “fake it ‘til you make it?” Well, there’s actually some science behind it. By adopting confident behaviors, like making eye contact, speaking clearly, and asserting yourself in conversations, you signal to your brain that you’re in control. Over time, your brain will start to believe that you’re confident, and you’ll feel that way even when you’re not consciously trying.

Think about how you act when you’re super sure of yourself—maybe you’re more decisive or willing to take risks. When you behave confidently, you start seeing opportunities instead of obstacles. And that, in turn, makes you actually more confident because you prove to yourself that you can handle things. Plus, people pick up on that energy and respond positively, which creates a cycle of boosting your confidence even more. It’s like a confidence loop—you put it out there, and the world reflects it back to you.

A SUMMARY OF CONFIDENCE !!

In short, confidence is a mental and physical state that originates in your brain but shows up in the world through your actions and how others perceive you. It's about balancing your inner belief in yourself with the way you present yourself to the outside world. You don’t need to be perfect to be confident. In fact, confidence is all about embracing imperfection and owning who you are—flaws and all. When you do that, the world will see you as strong, capable, and magnetic, and guess what? You’ll start believing it, too. So go ahead, rock your confidence—it’s all in your head (and your body), and it’s waiting to be unleashed.

★☆★☆

[inbabylontheywept]

Too Confused to Interrogate, Too Confident to Question

When I started my first job in the DoD - in a facility where missiles components are tested - the address they gave me had some software glitches associated with it. If you put that address into apple maps, it takes you to the facility, which is at the end of this unreasonably long winding dirt road through the middle of farmland. It's literally ten miles from my job to the nearest gas station, and then another ten miles until you hit the city limits, and then three miles and I'm home. But if you put that same address into google maps, it takes you to the end of that road while it is still in the city limits. And that end of the road is another classified site, but it's for the IRS. I don't know why they put two classified facilities in the same tiny town in the middle of BFE. Now that I'm thinking about it, I don't know why the IRS has classified facilities at all. Some kind of genetically modified accountant program? God help us.

Anyway, they didn't warn me about the directions bug so for my first day I showed up at the IRS building. They obviously had no idea who I was, but I told them that it was my first day and I didn't know anything about anything except that I was supposed to be there and that I didn't want to be late.

And they let me in.

Because I asked. Because I was that just right blend of too-confused-to-interrogate, but too-confident-to-question. I spent thirty minutes inside of this IRS building before realizing I was not supposed to be there. And instead of telling anyone about this, I just went back to my car and drove off. I have no idea what the consequences of this were. There probably weren't any. I could have stolen a whole filing cabinet of secret genetic templates for our modified accountant program and gotten away scot free. I then drove to the correct location. Apparently, under normal circumstances, I was supposed to be let in by another coworker but because I was late they were all already in the building so I had to call the guard shack on base and do the same song and dance again. The guards are not supposed to let people in. They aren't allowed to. Their sole job is to keep people out. But I did it again, that same superweapon combination of too-confused-to-interrogate but too-confident-to-question and they sent a guy out to get me in. When I arrived on site, I beelined to see my manager (who at that point had become slightly worried about my wellbeing - I was driving on dirt roads in the middle of snowfall after spending my entire life in the desert), and the first thing my manager asked me when I got to his office was

"How the hell did you get in here?" And then I got to explain to him how I had been illegally let into not one, but two secret sites in one day just by being extremely insistent. He was impressed. He was not pleased.

[ohwyrmies]

saw a post the other day about how tagging posts with #(name) rambles or #(name) yaps is a small way that we downplay the worth of our thoughts and feelings and I was gobsmacked. its right.

anyways I'm tagging my posts "thus spake the wyrm" now

(tell me what your tags are too!)

[reallyunluckyrunaway]

My first digital (grayscale) portrait.

Trndsttr.

[ibelieveinunicornz]

U can't see those rolls with the lights off tho.