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💔🧘‍♀️ From Longing to Liberation: Healing Limerence and Toxic Shame

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Limerence—a consuming, obsessive form of infatuation—can feel like love, but it's often a symptom of deeper wounds like toxic shame and emotional neglect. This piece explores how to break free from the cycle of longing and fantasy by addressing the root causes and embracing healing practices.

Healing is possible when we confront our inner wounds and choose self-love over illusion.

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I am married and have a make married friend that I have known socially for 10 years. Within the last year I’ve developed an all consuming intense crush on this man. I confessed this a few weeks ago after a drunken evening where the feelings were reciprocated to some degree. We decided to be adults and not have an affair. However, I can’t stop thinking about having an affair. I’m at a loss.

Hi there,

I’m so sorry for the late reply. Thank you for sending your ask! I think that because you and your male friend has had a decade-long friendship, you guys may have naturally developed feelings for each other over the years but just didn’t realize it or say anything in between those years because you guys were afraid what the other would say or didn’t want to ruin your friendship. So you guys grew up and got married to different people. I think it was a very smart choice for you guys to respectively not take that kind of risk while you both are married. I want you to understand that you and his feelings are very real for each other because you guys have a close bond but the fact that you both are married means that you guys should also respect yourselves, each other, your partners, and each other’s partners. *IF* you guys ever did anything to cross that line, how would you feel afterwards? You’ll probably regret it and say you made a big mistake. Because it’s not just yours and his heart at play here. It’s everyone’s. I know you guys have not done anything yet but I’m just saying in theory if you have ever considered on taking any action. Just remember that everyone is part of the bigger picture. Of course, you guys are all adults so everyone is responsible for their own words and actions. There may be some consequences that we will face, rather we intentionally meant to do something or not. So, you two confessing for each other was done respectively in a real moment but now that you both know how each other feel, you guys have said all that you guys did and both decided to be adults and leave it at that. That’s it. Just remember that you guys have chosen this decision and to not go back on it because then it will contradict what you both have decided: to not take any action and respect both of your lives. It doesn’t mean that you guys still can’t be friends. You guys will always have that friendship bond but of course know and understand where the line is to not cross it. Sometimes in life, we always have that one person from the past we think of that if everything was different and if you were with them but the thing is, you chose your life and your partner for a reason. If it was “suppose” to be other way, maybe it would’ve happened already but in this present lifetime and reality, you both have a life of your own. I think this is a great time for both of you guys to look at your own lives and reflect, realize, and accept who and what you guys already have. What more can you do to become more active in your life and fill it with your own peace, love, joy, and health? If you feel like you’re “missing” something or that someone, than most likely, that someone is just a byproduct of what you need to find within yourself. You just have to look and ask within yourself what is it you truly want in your life to be at peace with yourself? Take some time to think about your life and meditate on what your heart is trying to tell you. You will get your answers. Thank you so much again for being open and telling me your story! I hope that I was the best help that I can be for you. If you have any other questions or comments, feel free to contact me whether through ask, dm, or email to limerencerecovery@gmail.com. Whichever you’re more comfortable with. Take care. I wish you the best. ❤️

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Hi everyone,

I am grateful for all of you who have come cross this blog and have messaged me before. During this 4-weeks corornavirus lockdown/quarantine, I hope everyone is being safe and healthy. If anyone needs someone to talk to, I am here to listen. My email (limerencerecovery@gmail.com) is still open too if you guys want to talk there than on tumblr message/ask. Please take care of yourselves and focus on doing things that make you happy. ❤️