#and i mean. this coming from a femenine non binary person

[iamurpaladin]

To be honest, I love the headcannon of non binary pidge, but I think it's such a tragedy that there isn't more content of pidge being reacquainted with feminity. Like, her and allura bonding cause pidge actually quite likes dresses. Pidge growing her hair out again cause she misses brushing it. I think people forget that's you can be badass and cool and still like dresses.

[hedgehogcryptid]

thoughts on gender expression

Okay, for starters, I’m a woman. I’m a cis woman, to be more specific. I don’t know yet it that’s gonna be relevant as I keep the thought going.

I had a lot of self esteem isues growing up and have been lately finding a style I feel comfortable with, and getting comfortable with myself regardless of what I’m wearing. I used to run away from anything remotely femenine, or pink. I didn’t like wearing dresses. It was hard to decide what to wear when I had an event that required dressing up. I usually ended up feeling bad anyways. Now I wear dresses when the mood strikes, and have a couple that I like. And now I’m also happy wearing big ass hoodies and big shirts that hide the fact I’m not wearing a bra (before, I wore wide clothing just to hide myself. Now I actively like them, pick the ones with designs I find cute or cool, instead of just the cheaper ones. The bra thing is a bonus).

I’ve also discovered a thing for flanel shirts, and once I dressed as a fancy skeleton for halloween. I’ve been awaiting another chance to wear a waistcoat and bowtie ever since.

I bought a pair of skinny jeans for men because I was sick of lacking pokets. My new pants have so many good, satisfying pockets!!! And they look so cool. My girl skinny jeans look nice and pretty but I wear the boy ones when I want to feel cool (those are the ones I’ll wear next time I dress in my waistcoat and bowtie).

I recently cut my hair boy-short, because my hair was pretty ruined and fucked up and I was tired of puting efort into making it look good (wich didn’t work all that well and I hated the look of it a little more every time). And cutting it short was something that I wanted to try since I was little but never had the guts. So I said “fuck it, it can’t end up worse than it is right now” and asked my sister to cut it all to hell. Wich turned out to be fucking awesome. Looked myself on the mirror and didn’t have even half a second of incertainty before going nice, VERY nice. I’m keeping it forever, no take-backsies.

All this to say that one day, dressed in my cool pants and a nice flanel, a friend told me “you look very non-binary today“, wich I took like the compliment it was meant as but got me thinking. I’m not sure yet what exactly I’m thinking about it. It’s not like I identify as non-binary, even if I wouldn’t mind being referred to as they (I wouldn’t much mind being referred to as a he, either). And that got me thinking too. What is the relevance of my gender identity? (please, I’m talking about me, specifically. I don’t mean to dismiss anyone else’s, so please tell me if it comes out that way, and I’ll try to fix it) And I think it doesn’t matter much? I’m aroace, with no real need to have a queerplatonic partner as long as I can hug my friends every once in a while. So I don’t think it’s relevant how other people perceive my gender, as long as they treat me with the respect every person is owed, because my gender does not really have an impact on my relationships to others, since I won’t have a romantic/sexual relationship with anyone. So, I identify as a woman to myself, but don’t really care how others identify me. At least not now that I’m happy with the way I look. It would have destroyed me to be confused for a boy when I was already uncomfortable in my own skin, let alone my clothes. Now, someone could confuse me with an old man and I would consider it nothing more than a funny story.

Now that I know where I stand with myself I’ve come to realise that I don’t mind as much where I stand with others, and that aplies to a lot of things, actually. The only criteria I now have for choosing my clothes and my relationships and the ways I spend the time is to choose the things that make me feel good with myself, that make me go “good for you!!!“, with a disclaimer or two to not make people feel bad about themselves. And that’s pretty much it.

(I get the feeling this got disproportionately long for how much I actually said)