#and i'm sorry but that doesn't invalidate transness

[unbotheredgoose]

we should stop treating things like they're permanent.

nothing is permanent. time passes. the world changes. people change.

when i was younger i didn't want kids. now i do. it's this simple, actually.

[velvetvexations]

the thing with dipper pines is that he literally just doesn't see masculinity as a 'prison'. in the main episode that it's discussed, he's embarrassed because he feels as though he cannot be a 'real' man, and that any indication of femininity he has invalidates his status as a guy.

Like during the conclusion of the Dipper vs. Manliness episode he says:

"So maybe I don't have muscles or hair in certain places, and sure, when a girly pop song comes on the radio sometimes I leave it on! Cuz' dangit top 40 hits are in the top 40 for a reason...I guess I'll never be a man."

And then he goes back to the diner all mopey, and ya know what makes him feel better? Grunkle Stan calling him a real man and that he stood up for what he thought was right.

How on earth does that imply at all that he doesn't want to be a man?

The point of that episode was that Dipper wanted to be a true man by emulating all the things he thought men had to do, but he doesn't have to do any of those things because he already is a man.

This is a show for child ffs. Characters just having issues with masculinity doesn't automatically translate to they hate it or don't want to perform it.

the funny thing is that they acknowledge all of this and it's literally just "but then Mabel would LITERALLY be a TRANS EXCLUSIVE RADICAL FEMINIST" that they object to

they are trying so hard to invalidate as much transmasc expression as they possibly can which extends to digging into these contrived arguments when they find a completely foolproof case

nooooo but then Mabel is LITERALLY A TERF!!!!! SHE'S A BIGOT IF DIPPER IS TRANSMASC! IT'S SO DEPRESSING!!!!!!

no actually every time you headcanon a character as transmasc they kill off a canon transfem

you thought there was a problem with trans women always dying in fiction? that's just because of the transmasc headcanons, the authors don't have a choice, they get phoned up like "hey we know you wanted her to take over as the protagonist but...well...I'm sorry, they transed Dipper Pines...yeah, they made him a trans man so she's gotta die"

I'm trying to not post excerpts ahead of time because I'm on like, the very last scene or two of being able to post the first bit of my serial novel, but a major theme is that things like that are not ontologically evil by default and may be something the trans person in question does not really care about at all, much less to the degree that most would.

Like, I really do mean it when I say one would expect TRFs would understand Dipper might not consider it a burning knife in his heart since they're so blindingly fast to say trans people AFAB will turn on girlmode at the drop of a hat. Most trans men would be really upset about it, but the fact that one wouldn't be is entirely consistent with their worldview!

[intersex-support]

Hey whatsup! I have a question about intersex identity. I am a cis woman and supposedly I've had a full blown beard since about 13 yrs old just because of PCOS. But my beard is way fuller than any other PCOS bearded person I've known, although so far I've not had any doctor indicate any other intersex indicators. Should I consider self id as intersex possibly or is that exclusively a medical term that is a closed label? I'm so wary because when I've looked into trans and nonbinary communities it's so focused on internal feelings which isn't an issue I have at all, so I've had some pushback from using labels that aren't "for me" but I don't really have other words to use without saying I'm nonbinary (which isn't even true, I am a cis woman with a big bushy beard, at least according to Drs I'm cis, since it's only a secondary sex characteristic) I've always feelings-wise identified as a cis woman without question, but having a beard is just part of that not separate from it or despite it. It's like it's always an assumption that I must shave my beard, or that if I don't then trying to feel feminine while not actively despising it is delusional. Idk. It's such a weird place to be where my biological reality doesn't fit in transness or cisness, it's almost like my opinion on womanhood is invalidated by both some trans and cis people because my cis biology doesn't fit a binary? Idk, I'm mostly just curious how an intersex person feels about someone like me maybe wanting to either be a part of or just be involved with the intersex community but I don't want to step on toes if I were to start using a term like intersex. Sorry if this is too rambling, just wanted to get this all out there.

Hi anon! Many intersex community spaces, including this blog, view PCOS as intersex. You can look through our PCOS tag for longer posts and more information about it. I know several other intersex cis woman with PCOS and a beard, so you're definitely not alone. And I know a lot of intersex people who for us, our intersex identify can play into how we feel about our gender, so you're definitely not alone with that either!

You're right that intersex is different than other LGBTQ identities in terms of it being an umbrella identity for intersex variations that impact your physical body, and that it's a little more "closed" than other LGBTQ identities just because of what it means to be intersex. But as far as we're concerned, you're absolutely welcome to identify as intersex!

[miamayhemthespider]

Is it wrong that my best friend, who's a trans woman, is against saying she's a female? like, I'm not arguing, she just refuses it and that she's not ashamed of being a male, because "she's fought too hard to become who she is today to deny her own reality" and how "her femininity doesn't equal womanhood" which i think is a very brave and uncommon way to think nowadays. she's very vocal about it and she's gotten a lot of backlash because of it, like people calling her a traitor and "not really trans", her blog got termed several times and she had to quick twitter. it's not fair, because she's not wrong or saying anything absurd is she? like, with all due respect, but trans women are male by proxy, that's why you go through that whole process of transition. it's not a crime to acknowledge reality. like im sorry if this is disrespectful in any way, when i met her she was like 5 years into transition already, so im not trying to leave my own lane..... but it's very tricky. what's the right way to see this situation?

Your friend shouldn’t have received any of the harassment that she received. Honestly that is truly awful that it happened to her. Please send her my best.

Now real shit time. I hope you actually read this to because I like you so far. I am more then willing to admit that there are aspects of my anatomical existence that are “male” I bet many trans women would if... we could have these conversations without invalidating our womanhood. Becuse here is the other side. I say their are aspects of my anatomical existence that are undeniably female. I think of transness as a physical disability in that way. My body has had portions of male anatomy inflicted on it by nature. So I think if we could all just accept that trans women are women we could have a very interesting conversation about how sex and gender actualy interact. Please feel free to dm me any time. You seem lovely go in peace.