#and if you’re overly anxious or scared right now PLEASE take care of yourselves

[napping-sapphic]

I'm a transfem and really scared.... I just wanna feel safe and secure and small but I'm scared of all of it. mostly my hormones, because without it things won't go well for me :(

Oh yall are breaking my heart, like actually really truly fully breaking it

Please don’t stess yourself too much right now, don’t over consume the news right now or get trapped in all of the negativity. Don’t get lost in panic. I know, I KNOW everyone’s on edge and scared of where the world is and how much bad is happening everywhere but I promise you - I PROMISE you that we can get through it. No matter what happens you are you and no one, no matter how loud they can be, can take that away. Like the world can be as loud as it wants and get as bad as it pleases and it may be hard sometimes but it will never be able to take away all of the people who are rooting for each other.

Take a deep breath, calm yourself down. You’re still here and you’re okay and you have people on your side. I’m here on your side too and that won’t ever change.

[danganheckimagines]

ndrv3 boys with a s/o that is always being criticized by their mom?

I’ve rewritten this imagine three times, so I hope this draft is to your liking! (Also I made it long again so under the cut it goes!)

~Mod Angie

V3 Boys with an s/o who’s constantly criticized by their mom!

Shuichi Saihara:

-You two lean on each other a lot since you both don’t think highly of yourselves.

-You have a nice little support system going on where you try to build each other up.

-Still, your mom always manages to reverse that progress with her criticism. 

-Shuichi’s taken notice.

-He’s worried about you.

-One day while you’re sitting together, he asks you about why your mood consistently seems to change from one day to the next.

-You get anxious and try to brush off his question.

-”Please, s/o, you can tell me. I’m not going to judge you, I promise.”

-He’s got that look in his eye that he gets when he’s interrogating people, but it’s much softer with you.

-You cave.

-You tell him how it’s no big deal, your mom just always seems to find something wrong with you.

-Shuichi lets you talk, nodding in understanding.

-He takes hold of your hand and tells you that all the things your mom tells you to bring you down are wrong.

-As time goes on, he makes sure you know that.

-He gives you plenty of compliments and soothes your nerves whenever your mother’s words start getting to you.

-He does a little bit of research to see if he can get you out of that situation.

-He wants to help you heal, and is going to try his hardest to make sure you do.

Rantaro Amami:

-Rantaro’s always been careful with you.

-He keeps his voice steady around you so you don’t get anxious, comforts you whenever you get anxious about making a mistake, and spoils you in general.

-He wants you to know how much he loves you.

-Yet all your mother’s criticisms keep repeating in your heard.

-You’re cuddling at his place one day when you tell him.

-”Rantaro?”

-”Hm?”

-”Do…do you really love me?”

-Of course he immediately begins to reassure you, listing off everything he loves about you in the process.

-He loves every single thing that your mother would rag on you for.

-You appreciate his words, but…

-”It’s just, my mom says that…”

-He holds you a little tighter as you explain everything that your mother would tell you.

-Once you’re done, he kisses your forehead and tells you that your mother was wrong about you, and how it was horrible that she would even think of saying those things to you.

-He tops it off with a really sappy speech about how much you mean to him.

-He pampers you more from there, and makes it his mission to teach you how to love yourself.

-He also wouldn’t back down from a chance to confront your mother about her behavior towards you.

-The thought of someone actively trying to bring you down disgusts him.

Kaito Momota:

-He tries to help you break out of your self-conscious shell!

-He’s already trying to teach you to have more confidence and that it’s okay to make mistakes.

-He’s always in your corner, cheering you on!

-He’s a little dense so he doesn’t notice the hints that someone is tearing you down for a while.

-So he finds out about your mother when a more obvious tell comes by.

-You ended up pushing yourself a little bit too hard during training.

-Kaito had to intervene and make you take a break.

-Now he’s concerned.

-It was nice that you were trying so hard but he doesn’t want you to go too far!

-While you’re catching your breath, he asks you where this sudden determination came from.

-You explain that your mother had insulted your weight and you wanted to live up to her standards.

-Kaito instantly gets upset.

-What kind of mother is she?!

-He asks you how she could say such a thing.

-You end up telling him all about how your mother always criticized you for anything that you’d do.

-Okay now he’s angry.

-He goes off on a rant about how terrible your mother is, but he calms down once he notices that he’s scaring you a little.

-He rests a hand on your shoulder and gives you an encouraging smile.

-”Your mom doesn’t know what she’s talking about! You’re not doing a single thing wrong, s/o!”

-He pulls you to him for a big, warm hug.

-You thought he was supportive before? Now it’s cranked up to 11.

-He’s determined to give you all the positive reinforcement that you can’t get at home.

-He totally spoils you with affection even moreso!

-(Lowkey would fight your mom).

Kokichi Ouma:

-Y’know how Kaito was dense? Yeah the opposite of that.

-Kokichi picked up on all the signs right away and put the pieces together.

-He knows you’re having some issues with family, specifically your mom.

-For a while, he doesn’t bring it up.

-He just goes a little bit easier on you than he would others.

-He makes sure that all of his jabs at you are clearly jokes, and even then his teasing isn’t as harsh as it would be normally.

-Overall he’s…softer with you.

-Everyone assumes it’s because he’s your boyfriend, and while yes that’s partially true, he also doesn’t want to strike a nerve.

-(It took a bit of trial and error to find out what he shouldn’t mess with you about).

-One day, he notices you aren’t in a good mood.

-He tries to make you laugh, and you do, but he can tell that alone isn’t making you truly feel better.

-So instead he takes you outside.

-”What did your mom tell you now?”

-You freeze.

-”H-how did you know?”

-”You’re really bad at lying, s/o~! Now, what’d she say to you?”

-You’ve been found out, so you just go with it, telling him all about what your mom would tell you.

-Kokichi’s surprisingly mature about the whole thing.

-He holds your hands and looks you right in the eyes.

-He deconstructs all your mother’s criticisms flawlessly.

-Afterwards, he grins and latches onto you, nuzzling his face against your neck.

-”She’s more of a liar than I am!”

-He makes sure you know that you can come to him if your mother’s words start getting to you again, and he’ll chip away at them.

-Your relationship doesn’t change much since he’d already known this for a while now.

-However, now that he has confirmation, he’s going to try pulling a couple of strings.

-He doesn’t want anyone to get away with hurting you like this. Not anyone.

Korekiyo Shinguji:

-He’s noticed how you dive head-first into your studies.

-He thinks that’s great! He wants you to succeed, after all.

-However, he’s noticed other things that he thinks are…less great.

-Your anxieties, your extreme fear of failure or mistakes, your rock-bottom self-esteem…

-Something isn’t right.

-No matter how many times you try to say that you’re fine, he doesn’t quite believe you.

-He wants you to shine, yet your light is stifled.

-There has to be a reason.

-He figures out that it’s probably family problems, but he doesn’t get the specifics until you tell him.

-One evening before a test, Korekiyo studied with you.

-He was already prepared for the test, he was just going to help you study and also wanted to make sure that you got to bed at a reasonable time.

-You took to his advice, studying your hardest.

-However, any time he offered for you two to take a break, you declined.

-He didn’t mind at first, but he eventually started pushing for you to please just take a break already.

-Eventually you snapped at him.

-”Mom’s gonna go after me if I don’t get an A on this test!”

-So there was the family problem.

-He insists that that’s no reason to neglect your health like this, and reassures you that a five-minute break isn’t going to cost you an A.

-Finally, he convinces you to rest for a few moments.

-He takes this chance to ask you more about your mom.

-It turns out she expects you to be perfect in every way–not just grades–and puts you down when you aren’t.

-Korekiyo can’t help but feel a little disgusted.

-He rests his hand on your back and tells you that no one can be perfect, and that it’s your imperfections that make you wonderful.

-Your mother’s demands for you are too high, and he insists that you don’t push yourself so hard just to please her.

-If you really want to be perfect, you’re already perfect to him. Flaws that your mother hates and all.

-After that evening, he gives you more compliments, and generally makes sure that you know how much he cares about you.

-He also checks in with your mental state every now and again, wanting to make sure that your mother’s words don’t take root in your mind ever again.

Kiibo:

-He doesn’t notice that anything’s wrong at first.

-He just accepts all your little quirks as part of you and never questions it!

-He already gives you plenty of support since he wants you to be happy.

-His more logical reasoning is very good at soothing your nerves whenever you get anxious.

-However, he’s no miracle worker, and your mothers words still sink in anyway.

-Kiibo finally starts to notice this pattern of how you always get more self-conscious after leaving home.

-He consults the internet for answers.

-Oh? An overly-critical parent, maybe?

-He needs to touch base with you to be sure.

-So one day, he confronts you about this.

-”S/o, does your family criticize you often?”

-You tense up. Sure, you figured you’d have to answer a question like that eventually, but still…

-”I mean…my mom does sometimes, but it’s okay, really!”

-You end up saying how all your mom’s criticisms are your fault anyway since you’re the one “messing up” and “being a bad person.”

-Kiibo interrupts you by grabbing your shoulders.

-”No, s/o! That’s wrong! That’s not okay!”

-He expresses how he hates seeing you so miserable all the time all because of your own mother.

-He then asks you what things exactly your mother said to you.

-You list off some things, and he counters them all.

-”You’re not the bad person, s/o! Your mother is!”

-After this, he’ll check in on you often, making sure that you’re doing okay.

-He tries to give you more affection and compliments and just spoil you in general, though he’s a little awkward at it.

-He wants you to know that you’re wonderful and that he loves you, no matter what your mother says!

Gonta Gokuhara:

-He already spoils you rotten with more affection that you know what to do with.

-What kind of gentleman would he be if he let his own s/o feel sad?

-Besides, he loves you lots and wants you to smile and be happy more than anything in the world!

-If he even suspects that you’re feeling down, he’s gonna suddenly sweep you off your feet and shower you in compliments.

-Yeah he aint subtle at all.

-But still, you keep getting upset again.

-You also get really anxious whenever you make mistakes.

-He wants to know why!

-Is someone doing this to you?

-Who must he fight.

-He can’t figure out how to ask you, though.

-So for a while, things just continue like this.

-Finally, when you’re both bug-hunting in the forest, he just kinda blurts it out.

-”S/o, is someone hurting you?”

-You’re confused. Hurting you?

-He elaborates as best he can. He wants to know if someone is hurting you mentally.

-You tell him that it’s fine, but Gonta brings up how you keep getting so down and how you’re always so hard on yourself.

-You can’t lie to those eyes of his.

-You confess.

-You tell him about your mother.

-Gonta immediately bristles.

-”S/o’s own mother hurt s/o?!”

-You reassure him that it’s fine, and that you’re used to it, starting to get anxious.

-Gonta notices that he’s scaring you and calms down, immediately apologizing.

-He just can’t believe it! How could she say those things to you? It’s awful!

-He doesn’t even know how he can help you.

-You just say that as long as he’s by your side, you’ll be fine.

-So he stays by you as much as he can!

-He tries his hardest to reassure you that the things your mom tells you aren’t true whenever that topic comes up. He’s a little awkward about it, but he does his best.

-He shows you plenty of bugs too, saying how they aren’t perfect, but they’re still beautiful and he still loves them! 

-Just like how he loves you!

Ryoma Hoshi:

-He knows something’s off about your behavior, but he doesn’t question it.

-Everyone has their demons, including him and including you.

-Why should he intrude?

-So he doesn’t bother you about your anxiousness or low self-esteem or anything.

-Instead, he just reassures you when those things pop up.

-”You have to be a pretty wonderful person to want to be around someone like me.”

-However, he learns of your mom’s critical words eventually by complete accident.

-You’d ended up not getting as good of a grade as you’d like to have gotten on an essay, and you were freaking out about it.

-Ryoma ended up noticing and quickly rushed to your side.

-”S/o, s/o, look at me. Look at me. You’re alright. What’s wrong?”

-You blubber out your answer.

-”I didn’t get th-the grade I needed on this project! Mom’s gonna get me for this!”

-What.

-”S/o, what do you mean?”

-You explain how if you don’t get the highest possible grades, your mom berates you for your failings.

-Ryoma’s face hardens, but he doesn’t say anything.

-He keeps trying to comfort you to the best of his ability.

-After you’ve calmed down, he tells you that your mom’s opinion shouldn’t matter to you if that’s how she acts if you don’t meet her standards.

-”She’s setting you up to crash and burn, s/o. Do yourself a favor and don’t break your back for her sake.”

-He lets you know that if she starts getting on your case for anything else, he���s always going to be there for you.

-After that situation, Ryoma sticks by you more often.

-He’s not good at giving affection in the first place, but at the very least he holds your hand more often.

-He would confront your mom about her behavior towards you, but he doesn’t want to make a scene.

-Or make you feel like you needed to pick a side.

-He helps you to the best of his ability, at least making sure you don’t stress yourself out over her words anymore.

-He wants you to live for yourself, not live bound in your mother’s chains.