#dealing with disability

[mythicalcoolkid]

You don't wish your disability was worse or more visible, you wish your disability was taken seriously. Please stop confusing the two, I guarantee you would not get the support you need JUST by being more severe or more visible. Please listen to visibly disabled people when we tell you it isn't better on our side

[swordsonnet]

i'm sorry but i don't think we should call this the "autism website" when there's still posts with tons of notes mocking people who:

struggle with social skills / have anxiety around social settings

are unemployed / unable to work certain jobs

have intense or "age-inappropriate" interests

haven't had certain life experiences that are deemed universal/essential

struggle with personal hygiene

don't have any friends or dating experience

don't go outside much or at all

take things literally / don't get sarcasm/jokes

have unusual ways of speaking

generally aren't "normal"

[marshmarlowee]

What’s the difference between fatigue and being tired?

My heart is racing and I’m breathing heavy after walking up or down a single flight of stairs.

Eating a meal is tiring.

I can sleep 10-12 hours and wake up and feel okay for about 30 minutes, maybe an hour, and then I’m exhausted again.

Mentally stimulating tasks are difficult, I can’t focus on reading.

Showering is so hard. I stand in the water and space out because it’s hard to lift my body parts to clean them properly. I need to lie down or sleep after showering because it is the most physical strain I will have in a day.

Other chronically ill and disabled people are invited to add their own examples. I’m so drained and I have to vent these feelings, it might as well be in a way that could potentially be useful for other people.

[mollysunder]

Hindsight is 20/20, but I don't think you needed to be psychic to guess that destroying ALL the shimmer supply was a bad idea.

In Act Three it took three whole doctors to save Vi's life after she gets slashed by a Noxian blade across the chest. Yet in s1 it took a single drop of shimmer to save Vi from the deep stab in the gut Sevika gave her without any other form of medical intervention.

There's just a really gross sense of irony that Caitlyn and Piltover at large took away Zaun's main source of medical care (as controversial as it may be), and then put it's people through a meat grinder battle while withholding such care.

It doesn't help that the meat grinder battle was useless ploy for Jayce to get close to Viktor and so a lot of people, specifically Zaunites, died for nothing.

[lgbtqforeverything]

everything about lydia finally being able to rest and not rage anymore (and even how the bad kids and specifically kristen approached her this season!) feels like a disability metaphor to me. the feeling of getting to rest after years of rage and how it can so easily be read as finding the right medication or accommodation. the way kristen immediately tries to get the gem out and how obvious lydia’s relief (and disbelief tbh) is at her immediate trying like how finding a doctor that actually wants to work with you is like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

[tuckedawaytulip]

What if Jon was left handed until his hand ended up burned by Jude Perry and he was forced to end up using his right hand because his left never quite worked as well after as it used to? Like his ability to use his hand is just another part the fears have taken from him

[halorvic]

[transslycanthropy]

Nobody gives a shit about disabled people when we can’t work or when we are denied access from buildings or when we’re begging people to just wear a goddamn mask so you won’t kill us/make our conditions worse, but as soon as AI comes into the conversation all of a sudden people are INSISTING you are ableist and hate disabled people if you think the art stealing- false information spreading-earth killing-machine might be bad actually.

[cyberpunkboytoy]

I see a lot of people in the Mouthwashing tag frequently listing 'keeping Curly alive' in the list of crimes Jimmy has done, implying or sometimes outright saying that not mercy-killing Curly was a cruel and unusual act...and would like to caution against that.

There's a long history of abled people deciding someone's quality of life is too horrible to merit letting them live (usually to nonverbal or otherwise 'low functioning' people lacking a clear means to communicate) and condoning the murder of disabled people under the guise of kindness. Curly is an extreme example, and one could argue he might prefer to be 'put out of his misery,' but it's important to note that we don't know, no one asks, and there's no attempt to communicate either which way.

How extreme pain and 'low quality of life' are handled are very nuanced and complicated topics, but you can never decide for someone else what kind of life isn't 'worth living.' Curly is obviously a videogame character, but these attitudes can and do affect the lives of real people & are worth being aware of.

[uncanny-tranny]

Hey, if you have speech impediments, you are so amazing.

If you stutter or have a lisp or misspeak easily or you have a flat affect or a limited verbal vocabulary or if your voice is AAC or if you just have a difference in your vocality, you are so incredibly important and amazing.

Just know that your voice is yours. Nobody will ever be able to truly take it away. Your voice is part of you, and you deserve to make it as true to you as you deem fit. I hope you have the space to grow with your voice and whatever about it makes it unique.

[rookflower]

warrior cats is often extremely weird about its disabled characters dont get me wrong but to be honest i do think the argument of "why do these characters struggle with their disabilities in the books when disabled cats irl are barely hindered?" is a little flawed because of the way the books anthropomorphise their characters. im not physically disabled so dont take my words to heart on this but i think the point is less about the logistics how the characters would be able to move or thrive in a realistic physical setting, and more about what the books do with the themes of disability from a conflict and narrative standpoint.

[transmasccofee]

really hes an icon

[iliothermia]

I wish that as a disabled artist with no other option for income I didn't have to shed tears multiple times a year from the stress of multiple social media mass exoduses as its owners / staff do something that seems completely illogical jkdgfhhhhh

[gemharvest]

wyd!Boyfriend (Beef) References

notes under the cut to save space

Design Notes:

5'6" (168cm) at adult height. 5'3" (160cm) at 13. Consistently chubby through most of his life.

Palette is flexible, idm seeing him colored in unique ways; the colors used in his ref are his base/ canon colors though.

Piercings are on his left ear only. The heart stud was gotten after he and Geef started dating seriously, and the triangle stud was gotten several weeks into him dating Peeks again.

Base color for his hair is the darker blue. Cyan can be interpreted as just a highlight, or as a secondary color and his hair is just Like That, idc.

S/h scars on his outer thighs that could be visible in swim wear/ shorts. Wears long pants the majority of the time though.

Misc Notes:

AuDHD, BPD; noticeable anger issues.

Cocky/ confident persona when out/ doing things. Way more laid back around those he trusts.

As a kid, had a tired/ timid demeanor. Wanted to make himself as unnoticeable as possible.

Generally sweet/ caring, he's just got issues LOLL.

Can be kinda oblivious to others' feelings sometimes, though when not caught up in his own, he does his best to be aware/ emotionally available to those he cares about.

VERY passionate about his hobbies/ interests. Feeds into his confident "rap persona".

Want to know more? I have a whole document going into so much more depth. Please help me he won't leave my brain.

+ His personal character playlist (on YouTube + Spotify mirror, though some songs are only available on YouTube).

[terrainofheartfelt]

many pitt thoughts I loved loved loved it

beers in the park hell yes

abbot casually taking off his prosthetic what a king

ok how it is the finale and soooooo much was revealed about the characters?????

like whitaker!!!!!!!!! i want to rewatch now for him! (like how you think he's giving Sheltered Farm Kid in his interactions with unhoused patients but then his compassion with The Kraken and then he immediately signs up for the street team???? baby boy!!!!)

santos really had one of the most interesting days to watch and you know what? i'm a fan now

obsessed with santos going to her first shift intern year and collecting a roommate that's so meredith grey coded of her <3

everytime Walsh or Ellis was on screen I was like wife wife wife wife wife wife

Myrna being an icon!

Mel working like the craziest day and then she has to care for her sister and show up for her sister yeah! it be like that!

dying @ Robby laughing "this is your first shift" god bless

UTAHHHH

idk yall i think its maybe walsh and abbott with the bed chem

it was not appropriate for the moment but when abbott and robby are talking on the roof I yelled "KISS" at the screen

having therapy on pitt day is Quite the experience bc during That Santos scene I was weeping

and also when Dana said "give yourself some grace" ohhhhh how i cried

and after 14 episodes of cliffhangers I just LOVE that they tied up as many loose ends as they possibly could. like I still have questions and they end the character arcs on question marks (because that's what a season finale does) but they are like, normal, gentle "?" as opposed to "?!"

[demisofphoenixdrop]

So I'm thinking about Laurance again-

Mostly his blindness.

I choose to think he has something akin to Diabetic Retinopathy. Basically, it's blurry vision with dark spots.

When Ungrth pulls him out of the nether, I think he's fully blind. Full stop. The blood vessels in his eyes are shot. Aphmau getting Irene's blessing mends some of them, but he's still very visually impaired.

Laurance spends the next several months re-learning how to navigate the world with blurry, spotty vision.

Am I projecting? Maybe. What are you gunna do about it-