#dip rant

[scrapperjoe]

The thing i notice nobody really mentions about disability...

Especially if youre "high functioning" and can "get everything done despite your pain" nobody really considers that despite the surface, it takes a lot out of us. Yes i can work a 40 hour week and get my chores done, but by the time im done with that i hardly have the steam left in me to clean myself or even socialize. The only reason im able to feed myself most days is cause i meal prep for this very reason. How much energy daily life can take out of folk living with disability is something i wanna see in rep. Too many times ive been called lazy when really, im doing just as you are but with a boulder tied to my back. Even if im "high functioning", i am still winded by it all much faster than an able bodied person.

I despise the "stuck in own body" trope that's extremely ableist. I hate when people insist on doing everything for disabled folk out of pitty and the such. We are human beings. We are capable of doing things on our own. All my post is calling attention to is that we are not lazy. We get worn out faster and need rest. Rest.

[ironyscleverer]

Listening to Dan and Phil on Shut Up I’m Talking and man, I love how grown up they are. Like actually, literally, behaving like mature adults who talk about business and marketing and gatekeepers and long-term career choices. It feels good that they are real functioning adults and they make the content that they do, because it makes space for me/us to be real functioning adults and enjoy the content that they make.

Because they’re right; there IS a sense in society that “Dan and Phil” and “YouTube” and being “chronically online” and participating in fandom is juvenile. But guess what? Being fun and silly and weird and gay and hopeful aren’t juvenile qualities, they’re just things capitalism society doesn’t want grown-ups to express. Because being an adult is antithetical to joy, apparently.

But Dan and Phil have created a safe environment for being both grown-up and indulging in joy. Hearing them talk like mentors to younger internet folks like Tom and Jack, and hearing them speak so professionally about their careers really brings out the maturity of their content and I really appreciate that.

[itsflipperdips]

Y'all..... The community I was in, so short story and all, I just decided to check to see what was going and some of my fellas seems all shock and had some literally shock like comments/post, I was confused and curious and shitless ass scared that I had to scroll and to my fking in disbelief A FKCING 🟠⚫ BOT POST AN AD- 😭😭😭😭 THAT I GOTTA POST THESE FELLAS THAT ID DRAWN FROM BEFORE AND NOW THEY HAVE USE NOW-

I was so fking baffled, scared, shock, disgusted I could literally list down the reaction I have just seeing that post from the 🟠⚫ bot.....😭😭😭

[proudsnackeezowner]

What do yall mean #phan #< for the bit??? BIT?? Guys this is our culture, our history, our legacy. Reject modernity embrace tradition and what not. You're a phannie, own up, tag phan without remorse or shame 🗣

[ingydar-phan]

I think people are misinterpreting my stance on dangender. So let me say more, I guess.

- I am not indirecting anybody. This is a wide topic with varying ideas in it. My stances aren’t about the participants, they’re about the topic itself.

- I do not think having this stance is inherently harmful, transphobic, or unethical. I think some aspects can be rooted in harmful things but believing in dangender doesn’t make someone a bad person.

- My issue isn’t about boundaries themselves or crossing lines DNP have set. I know some people agreeing with me are making it about that, but that’s not what it’s about for me. I am super icked out by people who think they’re doing some sort of holy work by “protecting” their “innocent blorbos” or whatever from other peoples opinions/speculation. I’m not trying to be like “how dare you! If he saw this his feelings would be hurt!”. In fact, I think if Dan were to see dangender posts, he’d probably giggle, tilt his head, and be like “hmm yea ok I see what you’re saying!”. Im not trying to decipher what lines DNP have laid out themselves about what’s ok and what’s too much. Nobody can do that accurately besides DNP themselves, and this is a fandom space, so that’s not what I’m worried about, even though people seem to think it is.

I think it is absolutely true that having queer people in the phandom pre-BIG discussing DNPs relationship and queerness was a huge part of empowering Dan to come out. He’s said it in BIG, he said it in TIT, he’s said it a lot. Their community being nosy gays is how he found the space to come out. I know this. I affirm and agree with this.

My issue is there’s a difference between laying ground for mind-opening, and acting like there’s a confirmed secret being hidden from us when it comes to Dans gender. So, the difference between thinking “maybe if Dan really dug into what his gender could be, knowing it’s a safe space, he may come out with an idea of something more complex than cis” and thinking “he is for a fact trans/enby and already knows this, he’s just hiding it, and trying to hint it at everyone through these secret codes.”

All the jokes about phyuri and DNP looking like lesbians, the calling Dan “she” or “wife”, wanting DNP to watch I Saw The TV Glow, transmascs seeing themselves in Dan, that IS the community opening our arms and saying to be free to feel however you want to feel and express yourself however you desire. That’s so beautiful.

Collecting evidence that you surely know better than Dan himself that he’s actually secretly trans and hiding it is just, different, and is what makes me uncomfortable.

Lest we not forget that gender and sexuality, that queerness as a whole, are intertwined. A young confused traumatized Dan feeling urges to express femininity is just queerness itself, not specifically transness. Queer men are often inherently viewed as feminine, and going outside of strict gender expectations is a part of gayness for many gay men. Feeling like you’re different from your peers, like you want to express yourself outside of the norm, is tied into all forms of queerness. Dan is gay: he knows he’s gay, he’s worked hard to call himself gay. Gayness is queerness, and queerness is unique expression. His complex feelings about non-masculine expression tie into his gayness because he is a queer man. Him having those complex feeling about expression and self image do not mean he’s trans. They mean he’s queer period. What type of queer is up to him; and clearly the expression and label of queerness that he finds most accurate to himself is gay man. You can be a cis gay person and still have your queerness attach to your gender without it making you trans.

May he one day in the future find that that complex expression of queerness goes into his gender to the extent of transness? Maybe! I don’t know! Would I support him? Of course! Would I look back regretfully? No! I’m not attempting to prevent anyone from building a welcoming space. I just don’t like this assertion of specific labels and the idea that you know better than him. That is it.

[emo-protagonist]

EITHER MAKE IT GAY OR NOT WHY DID SUPERNATURAL TO A WEIRD IN BETWEEN BRO LIKE

[colouredbyd]

should i drop a 6.5k word regulus fic tonight…or a 7k word james soulmate au fic…

or both (if i can stay up and edit + proofread them)

[shitpostingkats]

It always cracks me up that no one in the main cast ever learns who Tadashi is. Like as far as Reki is concerned he just got run over and kidnapped by a rich morally dubious man who coincidentally is also the worlds biggest sk8er hater

[little-saw]

CW : Mentions of shame regarding SFW use of dips/pull ups, bladder control issues & wetting, rantish but not really.

Sometimes, I wish I could have a pull-up. I just feel like it would make me feel secure and little. But I wouldn't wanna actually use it, like just wear one.

Although I have a feeling I'd accidentally use it because I do have issues with bladder control, and I don't know why. And the shame of already accidentally wetting myself on my own is horrible, let alone while wearing a pull-up.

Also, because of nsfw, i would be uncomfy, and feel gross. I support padded reggresors, but I have these thoughts that if I do it, I'm gross and weird, and I hate it.

I wouldn't like to just wear a pull-up, I'd wanna like wear it beneath my skirt or pants and have it peek out so I know it's there.

I dunno it's complicated =_=💧

[cremateyourlife]

Endeavor sucks so here's a rant cause i've seen too many people say he isn't that bad lately

(CW / TW for abuse, ptsd mention) going in best order of episode events, but also including manga spoilers (sections are indented so you can skip the manga parts)-

this is pulling from source material but also very opinioned based. I get people saying he's an interesting character (kinda) but i hate seeing people excuse what he did because "aww he feels bad now." like him if you want but hating on other's for not liking him is just stupid.

it will also be long, but I have a lot of thoughts, hope at least some people agree with me lmao

i started typing this around when ch 390 came out so i know this has all been said before but with the new season coming out and like i said more people defending him i wanted to finally post this

"The Boy Born With Everything."

"That kid of mine will beat you some day, I'll make sure of it. That's why I created him."

Endeavor admitting he only had kids to be heroes, ones better than All Might, shows he does not truly care about his children. He only wanted them because he couldn't handle his failures. He sees them as a tool, not as his own kids, not as people. That's obvious in almost everything he says to and about Shoto.

And while I hate him, he isn’t a failure hero wise. He’s literally the # 2 hero out of however many hundreds there are. He’s simply mad he can’t beat AM? What is he a child who thinks he deserves everything he wants because he’s never been told no?

When Shouto finally used his fire Endeavor yelled about him finally realizing his “purpose.” More proof he sees his children, Shouto specifically, as tools. They aren't humans to him, they don't have their own feelings or goals, they are a means to an end. A means to his end. Shouto overcoming his own guilt (guilt caused by Endeavor) doesn’t matter to him. What matters is he now feels Shouto is worth something.

Class 1A vs 1B (i dont remember the exact episode names)

the flashback we get after Tokoyami talks to Shouto we hear Endeavor say, “Touya was close… Come on Shouto you’re the only one who can master this move.” Endeavor was putting the weight of his dead son's “failure” on the shoulder of his 5 (?) yr old kid. Making the kid who just lost his older sibling feel like he has to be better, or he could die too.

“Quit pretending to be weak.” Bro that is your very young kid. He is weak. Train him early, sure, whatever, but this is just abuse. You aren’t training him. Pushing your kid to the point of throwing up isn’t just training. It isn’t him being weak. It’s abuse.

I know this show is very flashback heavy in the first place but I really do interpret all the flashbacks Shouto gets of his dad as PTSD. Often times when fighting and in battle, after getting hit, he has memories of his dad. Sure, this could just be his motivation but I think it’s more than that.

"The Unforgiven."

"I thought if I saved you, that you might never say a word to me ever again." Aka Endeavor saying, "I should save my son, so he maybe likes me again." Natsuo my beloved. I love when he is an ass to his dad. His own son is saying he could never forgive him because why does he "need to be the one to make an active effort to change?" and that even though Endeavor wants to make up what does he think he can do now? Natsuo will always see his dad as the one who killed his older brother, and I don't blame him. Because that is who Endeavor is.

"He literally says in the episode he doesn't want forgiveness." And? He doesn't deserve it. He doesn't need to make Natsuo feel better for hating him when he has every right to after what his dad did to him and his entire family.

Sure, this episode is us seeing a "change" in Endeavor because he wants to be better, however, this is my post so I will say why I have a problem with this lmao. When did we see Endeavor start to change? After he became the number one hero. After he realized people were going to be looking at him even more.

The only good thing he does is realize that in order for his family to be happy he cannot be in the picture.

"Dabi's Dance"

Not including all the scenes I want to bc if I did, I'd just insert the entire ep lmao

"Oh, but he is changing. He regrets his actions." Why didn't he have regrets years ago when, to everyone's knowledge, his 13 yr old son had died? Endeavor didn't start feeling "guilty" until he became the number 1 hero. (as stated before)

And yes, we see and hear how upset Endeavor was over Touya’s death, but did he change? Did he stop being abusive and neglectful? Did he apologize and see his faults? Nope. So how bad did he really feel.

Dabi himself called him out on this during "Dabi’s Dance" when he said, “Is that why you finally decided to try to bond with your children? Keep looking toward the future and you can be a better man?"

On top of it all, Endeavor didn’t even step in to fight. Yes, he was shocked seeing his dead son in front of him again, but do you not think Shouto was shocked seeing his dead brother? He still fought.

Chapter 350

Many people say Dabi was born in the fire. However, that isn't true. Touya didn't die in that fire. He died and Dabi was born 3 years later when he went back home and had seemingly been forgotten about. He woke up in a strange place, covered in burns and sounding completely different. He wanted to go home. He wanted to apologize for all the awful things he said. He was told that he has been severely injured and once again that he was a failure. He was scared and alone. So, he goes home thinking he will be accepted with open arms, that maybe everything would be better, and everyone will celebrate yet he gets there, and his dad is still the same. Abusing his siblings and his mom is gone. Not only that but to Touya's POV, he has been replaced by his younger brother.

Plus does that not show you who Endeavor is as a person? That even after pushing his son to death he didn’t change.

"The Wrong Way to Put Out a Fire"

i won't include any clips or panels from this bc it is very intense and while this post will talk about it i still don't want to include those pictures

Going ahead and getting this out of the way because people love bringing it up for some reason, while what Rei did to Shouto was awful, obviously, it is not even close to being on the same level as the things Endeavor did to the entire Todofam. Rei was scared to look her own kids in the eyes because when she did, she saw Endeavor. She saw Endeavor's rage and feared for her safety, and in a moment of a clear panic attack and mental break defended herself, because look at Rei and tell me that woman doesn't have PTSD.

If the entirety of this ep didn't make you hate Endeavor and see he is incapable of change then idk what to tell you. Him convincing his very young child that his sole purpose is to be the next number 1 hero. He then finds out his kid physically won't be able to do that he tells him that he simply isn't good instead of sitting down and talking to him.

Buying Rei because he wanted to create his perfect child, then forcing her to be some baby machine. (Random fact that always haunts me is that Touya and Fuyumi were born in the same year.) Abusing Rei repeatedly. As well as, hitting her in front of the kids with a very young Shouto between them while the other two hide in a corner. Blaming Rei for Toya continuing to train when it is his own fault. Then on top of that, not going to Sekoto peak. He could have shown up for 2 seconds but no.

We also see another instance of Rei seeing Endeavor in her own kids when she tried to stop Toya from going and training like when Shouto came to check on her when he was little.

When Touya had a breakdown and tried to kill Shouto, instead of seeing the pain Toya was feeling and realizing his own mistakes, Endeavor just isolated Shouto from his siblings. Didn’t let him play with them, by what Natsuo said at dinner he monitored what he ate and when.

Also, I don’t wanna her “Dabi was insane from the start” after trying to kill Shouto. That was an abused child, turned neglected child, asking to be seen. Begging to be looked at. He, like Rei later on, snapped. He realized that if he wanted to be seen then the only one his dad cared about needed to be gone

Chapter 390.

Shouto finally shows up and brings Dabi down. Somehow Dabi is still alive and this is where he states that everyone, including him, should die. Endeavor then apologizes. Sure, he apologized, better late then never, whatever. However, it just really feels like he is speaking over Dabi. Dabi could be dying, could be saying his last words, and Endeavor starts talking. I will say I like how he acknowledges exactly what he did in some way. That he "pushed Rei past her breaking point", "put everything on Fuyumi's shoulders", and "abandoned Natsuo." It just all feels so empty and really doesn't mean anything with his entire family burned and scarred and Dabi lying on the ground, as well as Shouto passing out.

Endeavor’s “I’m sorry” only goes so far when his son is lying almost burned to death yelling for them all to die, Shouto over working himself to stop Dabi when even his dad couldn’t, and his non hero family standing on the battlefield as well.

In conclusion, Endeavor is an abuser. He pushed his 13 yr old son to death, pushed his wife past her breaking point then sent her away, neglected his other two children because they weren't what he wanted, and only felt bad after he achieved his dream. After he got everything he wanted despite it being built on a broken home and the victims he created along the way.

Like I said if you want to like him that's fine, but don't get mad at others when they don't like him. The Todoroki subplot hits home for a lot of people. It is a very serious and real situation. Take away the hero aspect and Endeavor is just another abuser in the world, something many people have been through.

Anyways if anyone read all of this hope you enjoyed. Hope some people agree. If you didn't leave an ask or comment lmao let's debate.

[whaleiumsharkspeare]

Not that anybody cares, but my absolute biggest gripe that I have with The Princess Diaries 2: Royal Engagement is that Mia’s mom misses the entire wedding/Mia breaking off the engagement to stand up for herself and change the law requiring queens of Genovia to be married. She misses that entire thing because she’s changing her baby’s diaper. Like are you kidding me??? You’d miss your daughter’s wedding to change a diaper? A royal wedding??? Get your husband or one of the royal maids to do it! Or maybe don’t bring a baby along in the first place? I’m sure Genovia has daycare. (And before you say that having Mia’s stepfather miss the wedding is the same as having her mom miss the wedding, um, no. Like I’m sorry but her former teacher can afford to miss the wedding more than her mother and that’s the tea) And how does changing a diaper take that long??? And then when you come back from changing the diaper, you go “what’d I miss?” YOUR DAUGHTER’S WEDDING! YOU MISSED YOUR DAUGHTER’S WOULD-BE WEDDING-TURNED GENOVIAN LAW CHANGE!

[aquariumgraveleater1205]

Rant about people who feminize MLM ships

(this can be applied to really any ship that has this happen)

Just because one gets feminized alot in the fandom doesn't mean you can turn around and feminize the other one, it's still wrong no matter if it's the "usual" one or not, I've seen this happen with ships like dip so often, people will be like "oh I made Damien the girly one instead of pip teehee" ...that's still wrong to do. It's a MLM ship there's no woman in it stop, trying to make one 🙏

[pines4thetwin]

Stan and Eda as divorced besties where they have a lil reunion when both of their world ending crises are over and Eda realizing Stan is in love with his brother and she's just like nods "I get it". Eda is in love with Lilith and I'm not taking criticism on that.

Anyways Raine = Fiddleford

[paroroland]

if you wanna ship dip you gotta make sure you don't feminize pip for no reason. people who actually pay attention to him know that he's a chad and not a little wuss puss that damien has to save everytime he gets bullied. i mean, come on. he literally SAVED a girl from danger. and not just any girl, but a cold-hearted high standard having kinda girl, and he even changed her heart. and also, just because he's nice and polite most of the time doesn't mean he's a little uwu bottom girlboy.

[the-real-bruce-banner]

DIP Camille Bordey Meta

I realized the reason that I don’t like Camille/Humphrey in later season is because my girl loses the light in her eyes. Which there is a more obvious reason why, but I just missed when she was having fun and bringing the best out of Richard. Like, they really brought the best out of each other and were written in many ways to be the perfect partner for each other.

It’s nasty work that Camille hears Richard’s voice when she can’t figure something out because he rarely did that, if at all when they were together. They didn’t exactly agree on many things but they learned to listen to each other and try to connect their separate pieces together.

For example, in S2 E3 Camille is explaining to Richard how she heard that Mrs. Dupree might’ve been having a “lovers tiff” with one of the other guests, specially Paul Vincent, he asks her if she believes him. Almost as if, “what is your gut telling you” and you can tell that she’s thrown off by the question but he doesn’t say it in a negative way. Like, Richard has grown to trust her instincts and navigates it in a way if they should follow that lead any further.

Even in S2 E5 when Camille is clearly distraught by her friend’s death, she calls herself “useless” and is automatically reassured by Richard that she’s not. (I have so much more to say about this in terms of confirmation of Richard’s feelings but that’s a different post, if anybody even wants to read it).

TLDR; Richard and Camille were written to bring out the best in each other and when they tried to do the same with Humphrey, it made CamiChard all the more lovable.

[fight-nights-at-freddys]

having a swarm of emotions, but I just wanna spread positivity, hope y’all out there are doing well and are happy <3 just remember that you are loved. Things sometimes might seem like they’re getting worse, even if they are, there is a bright side at the end of the tunnel 💜