#howiepost

[stacksolotl]

Out of our four usual fronters, I (Howie) have been around a lot lately, and it's just kind of funny to observe why. Especially when thinking about cognitive sympathy vs empathy and how it's distributed across the system.

I mean... Doc is high emotion/low empathy, so of course, she needs an assistant like Kim who is (repressed) low emotion/high empathy. So it makes sense that Manny, who is high emotion/high empathy, needs someone like me who is low emotion/low empathy. None of this being stuff we did on purpose, of course--just stuff our brain automatically had figured out on its own.

It also makes sense, then, why I'm the assistant out of the two of us who has been around more than Kim. Kim's emotions eat her up late at night, and just kind of fester the rest of the time. Especially when it's Jimmy (in our partner system) who is distressed by something. Sometimes, her strong desire to fix everything and care really hard is great to have! But I guess that's just the thing... lately, it's had us paralyzed. So then it's Howie to the rescue, I guess, because I honestly am not as phased by anything happening as Kim or anyone else is. Even when it's my boyfriend (Jason) struggling, it doesn't seem to bother me very much.

But, on the other hand, I do still care. Which is really the answer to the nagging question of "What am I even here for, when we have people like The Ladies who could do this job as well?" Because they can't do it *just* as well as I can. I am mostly Schizoid with some Cluster B traits, but it's really mild. The Ladies, on the other hand, are much stronger Cluster B traits--some might even say the worst* of us, in that regard. However, that makes it harder for them to care on the back end, as well as the front end, and a lot of them wind up unable to do anything with our problems because of it.

I don't know if this makes sense, but... For example: Vivienne is probably the next closest person to doing what I do. She's pretty textbook ASPD and is really good at stuff when she wants to do something. The trouble is, a lot of the time, she just doesn't want to. She gets bored and drained so fast. Me, though--I do whatever I want to do, but I actually *want* to do things and help. I still get bored a little easy, but not if there's sufficient enough dopamine involved for me. Viv gets bored of stuff even if she likes it and wants to do it; that's one of the hardest parts for her. It makes her way more impulsive than me, and that's saying something.

I dunno why I'm writing all of this out, except to help remind myself why I'm stuck here a lot lately. Because I've got just the right recipe of brain parts to tackle things right now and not get overwhelmed. I think I should be proud of myself for that. It's funny how much "character flaws" can actually benefit you when you learn to stop being so ashamed of your neurotype. I still have my struggles, but it's far from always being a bad thing.

[sparklecarehospital-archive]

Sorry for howieposting

[somethin-stupid-67]

can’t sleep so you best believe I’m staring at the ceiling thinking about howard. like, there’s still so much I don’t know about him. what’s his favorite tea? man wears knit ties, but why? does someone make them for him? we know those of other characters… what’s his middle name? why the hell did he take up boxing???? what was he like in law school/as a new attorney? was there something else he was passionate about and wanted to pursue or was he always destined to follow in his father’s footsteps when it came to his career? how often do you think he went to visit chuck’s grave, and how long do you think he stays there when he does? none of these are exactly burning questions but it’s so late and he means absolutely everything to me, just had to ramble for a bit.

[skylerwhitefanclub]

rest in peace howie i miss you every day #namast3

[sporkkles-irl]

i hope howie knows i would die for him

[beetlelunch]

howieposting

[gearslips]

i don't use reddit much but i really love r/howieposting having "fuck r/howardhate" in the community description. and r/howardhate declaring war on r/howieposting despite having a fraction of the members of that sub. it's so funny. the howard hamlin reddit wars.

[somethin-stupid-67]

this! the “I have very high expectations of you” parent, “I’m doing everything I can and it’s still not enough” child dynamic is incredibly frustrating on its own; add on top of that the forced pursuit of a law degree and it’s plenty obvious where anger issues would stem from in a guy like Howard. I’d like to think he was encouraged to try yoga or meditation or something like that when he was younger but all the self-reflection and attempts to understand his emotions only made him more frustrated with where his life was headed, so of course the next best option was boxing. it helped, a lot. that scowling, angry young man doesn’t come around too often anymore, but when he does you definitely do not want to be on the receiving end. even still, his bursts of anger are very few and far between, resolved almost instantly with an impromptu yoga session, affirmations, etc.

he’s working on himself and we love to see it!

I feel like Howard took up boxing because he had anger issues when he was younger. Yes, he said otherwise and he grew to enjoy the job, but he was really unhappy about being forced into the lawyer business by his father, and he needed a release, y’know? And what better release than beating people up? The yoga came later, at Cheryl’s insistence they do something together. Funny enough, within a week, she lost interest. He did not 🖤

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[somethin-stupid-67]

happy howie hamlin monday to those who celebrate!

[somethin-stupid-67]

a teeny tiny little guy!

he is so so itty bitty

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[somethin-stupid-67]

why did these questions go from 0-100 like oh my god? note to self do not post about howard hamlin in the early hours of the morning you’ll only end up hurting your own feelings

can’t sleep so you best believe I’m staring at the ceiling thinking about howard. like, there’s still so much I don’t know about him. what’s his favorite tea? man wears knit ties, but why? does someone make them for him? we know those of other characters… what’s his middle name? why the hell did he take up boxing???? what was he like in law school/as a new attorney? was there something else he was passionate about and wanted to pursue or was he always destined to follow in his father’s footsteps when it came to his career? how often do you think he went to visit chuck’s grave, and how long do you think he stays there? none of these are exactly burning questions but it’s so late and he means absolutely everything to me, just had to ramble for a bit.