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It’s actually not the introverts who don’t know (or don’t want to) how to socialize, (in fact, some are good at it) but it’s the environment that makes them feel uncomfortable and alienated. Therefore, they sometimes can’t figure out how to interact with others, and end up believing that they’re weird. Plus, a scenario which is likely to happen to some: the more you try to adapt the more weird you feel. We all know, however, humans are naturally social beings. So then, why does a group of people have a sense of awkwardness to something considered natural to humans? In that case, I would question the environment around them before the introverts.

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Self-acceptance is the first step of self-confidence. No matter how much you imitate confident people’s moves you can never be confident like you imagine. Accept your acnes, height, weight, shyness, coldness, sensitivity,weirdness, abilities and other physical and personal traits you have. Accept yourself as a whole. Don’t hesitate to face with the real you. If any improvement needed, do it for yourself, your health and well-being not to impress others.

Some introvert.

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I have an encyclopedic mind and inability to articulate my knowledge.

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MBTI Question: Introversion & Extroversion

The image below demonstrates the 6 most common personality types in females and males.

Seems like exrovertion is more common in females than males, but that is not what I am interested. Aside from that when you look at the percentages, introverts are more populated in both parties.

Has anyone ever thought:

Why do we feel like everyone’s extroverted around us?

If you have never thought that way, ignore it. 

Not everyone, but the majority of people

I need to hear something that stimulates my brain. I, of course, have an opinion, I may previously have mentioned what I realized about it in the blog, but I want to know what others think about that.

(Note: I know what the function stock is, but I’m trying to understand something here. You are not the creator of the MBTI,  and cannot resurrect Carl Jung to lecture me. Other than that I’m open to any idea. (This particular note is not for those who follow this blog. You guys are cool.)

(Note2: The picture is not mine)

(Note3: I’m not discussing the accuracy of the results, but it’s still a data.)

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BEING AN INXJ

•“Ni” is so dominant that it rules your life.

Intuition > thoughts+feelings.

•Full of empathy but lacking sympathy.

Meaning: Understanding their condition. Seeing things from their point of view but not being able to feel their pain as your own -until you yourself experience a similar incident. You can’t really tell how sorry you are for instance. (I need to explain this in a post like “empathy vs sympathy” because they are interchangeably used.)

•Motto: “I’ll be there for you, but don’t let feelings get involved please.”

•Everyone runs to you to talk about their problems because they know, you would always tell them the truth, but end up being discontent and claim that you’re so cold. Some even ask why I don’t just tell them what they want to hear. (?!)

•Wanting to help others not because I feel sorry them. It’s because I have to correct that particular mistake. Some ridiculous sense of “I’m here on earth to fix things because I know better than them(?!).”

•Superiority complex mixed with the idea of “accept everyone as who they are”.

•Eventually your thoughts and feelings learn to communicate with each other, and yet your thoughts love analyzing your feelings.

•Collecting patterns from every corner of life regarding human behavior or existence. Creating abstract puzzles with the collected data and spending your time solving the puzzle.

•Asking yourself frequently “I understand everything but why can I not relate to any of those?”.

•Being able to tolerate other’s feelings at some extent, but no tolerance for stupidity.

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Why do introverts always have to compromise acting like extroverts while extroverts don't make a single effort to understand what being an introvert means? That's what annoys me the most.

Some Introvert.

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Intuitive Introverts: Perception- Object recognition-Familiarity

This is just one of my "how would it be like if...?" works.

Considering the dominant functions, I tried to explain how each of them reacts when they are first introduced to an unfamiliar flower via story-like examples. 

I picked the rose flower as the thing external and portrayed it as something special. So, keep it that way while reading. 

None of those examples below are real events nor represent anyone.   

 Case: Imagine a world where roses have never been seen and discovered before.  Nobody knows what it is like. One day, a friend brings you some red roses telling you that those have been recently discovered and called "rose". So now, you know what it is called and how it looks like. 

INFP & INTP THE VISIONARY and THE SCIENTIST (THE INVENTORS)  

P: Perceiving. Sense perceptions.  

There is this phrase which I don’t remember where I heard of "A scientist experiments without anticipating results."  For those two, perception takes place first, and then the imagination process begins. 

There is some chance for both to grab it immediately and be prickled by its thorns, but I preferred not to add that scene.   

 INFP: (Fi) Smelling, seeing or touching the rose may remind them some sort of feeling regardless of having experienced before. It may also take them to a moment in the past, which may create either some relief or sadness.  Besides that, it can also remain a simple Deja-vu experience. All those emotions may lead them to philosophize and subsequently trigger their creativity. 

Example: 

Looks at it and says "It's red like blood". Some feeling occurs. Holds it first and then smells and goes "Oh! That feels like falling in love". Another feeling passes by. Then the thinking process begins. "Blood is life, and this smells like love. Does that mean, you feel lively when you fall in love? If you loved with your fullest potential wouldn't life become more lively and meaningful? Wouldn't you feel happy and content when you have love in your heart? Isn't it your heart that pumps blood to your body already?  So, that means love is life." (I wrote this focusing on how an INFP would verbalize their feelings. May sound weird. No offense.) 

This may evolve into a poem later on. Let's consider the poem is read in a public area, inspires hundreds, and evolves into a social movement or even revolution. Sounds utopic, but still probable. Examples may vary. As the thinking process goes by the result may be a piece of art, a story or even an invention. Perfume for instance.  

 INTP: (Ti) Same story. Someone brings them a bunch of red roses. They use their 5 senses to observe the rose like INFP, but instead of feeling they jump into questioning.   

Example: 

They may compare it to other flowers or an object and begin analyzing to see if they share any similarity. "Have I ever seen something like this before?" "Doesn’t it look like X?" Or no! "Y?" Questions about its scientific classification are likely to be asked. If not known, they will do some research. (object classification)

They may do various experiments on the flower. The shape of its petals may inspire them so much that it may lead them to come up with an idea, then the idea will turn into something bigger, such as an invention.  An INTP would like to know about every single detail about this new flower from its chemical composition to its architecture. Eureka moments are likely to happen.  

  INXJs: THE PSYCHICS (just kidding) THE FORESEERS 

Those who are able to think, visualize, theorize and foresee with less need of their 5 senses. 

INXJs: (Ni Dominant) (Days before the friend comes by.) Unaware of the discovery of the rose, they are reading a book where the lead character is eager to find the most interesting flower in the world. Then, they take a break and ask themselves "How would it look like if I found a unique flower?" (J: Judging) 

Let's say what they visualize is something rose-like. (In some cases, that may be almost identical to a rose.) The book itself or any other source may have an impact on the visualized unique flower. Besides appearance, the functionality and other traits of an interesting flower can be thought.   

Days after someone brings them roses stating that those have recently been discovered. Curious about their opinion the person asks "How do you like them?" 

Ni dominant: Shocked. However, they somehow keep a calm manner. 

"Oh! Those are really nice." Then questions begin to shower. Who discovered them? When/where were they discovered? How? How many people are aware of those new flowers so far? Do they have any benefits or harms for human kind? Has it been researched yet? And so on. (Judging) 

Inferior Se: Instead grasping the object they first ask questions. They also may not want to touch something they aren't familiar with. The assistance of senses is temporarily postponed –the sight may still be active. (visual perception)

However, they will eventually hold, smell or even try to taste it after making sure that it's safe. What they would do is most likely going insane and rushing to seek for answers of the questions above, and a series of additional questions will follow the process, futuristic ones I suppose. "Is this advantageous enough to serve a future goal for the human kind?" 

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Don't ever call anyone "weird" or "anti-social" just because they would rather stay in than go out.

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BECAUSE OF THIS MENTALITY I HAVE TO EXPLAIN EVERYONE I KNOW WHY I AM NOT DEPRESSED. The highlighted part may apply for some, but you can’t discount the fact that there are some who disagree. I like staying alone in my bed. Not that I’m sad, afraid or feel worthless. I reached my creative peak when I was in bed. I wrote amazing stories, came up with new theories, and learned so much about the world when I was alone. I do what makes me happy. When I’m out with a bunch of non sense people I actually feel all of those above. I’m an INTROVERT. I know who I am, and I am ok with it. Please, leave introverts alone. Don’t make stupid assumptions without talking to them. I already got tired while writing this.

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Inferior (SE): The issue is more than being an introvert, Sensor vs Intuitive.

  My point is so hard to explain. Let me try. Everyone lives for satisfying their 5 senses. Use of senses is a survival need for sure- that’s how I perceive at least, but that's how many get their energy and pleasure from. That's almost never been that way for me. I realized somehow late, but not too late. 

     People want to go outside of their homes. Because being at a different spot instead home activates the use of 5 senses. You see, hear, feel, smell, and taste different things than you have at home. This is not only because of extroversion, it's because being a "sensor". 

People re-position their furniture, buy tremendous amount new clothes that they don't need regardless of their ability to afford, insist on eating a certain food even though they have enough to eat, stock their refrigerator with food they will trash later to make it look full, rich and colorful. All these are satisfying their sensory needs. Sensors tend to be greedy because their senses are everything for them. 

Me, I was the victim of this world without knowing what the truth is. “Why is this happening to me? Why nothing makes me happy?” Because I wasn't able to be stimulated by the external world like others do.

Well, I know better now. At least I’m trying to find innovative ways to turn this issue to my benefit. I should cut this for now. 

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We mistakenly assume people who choose to live alone are lonely when actually they have rich lives that are calm, reflective and productive. Connecting with someone for whom you have no feelings just for the sake of not being alone is more lonely than being by yourself.

M. Newton

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Empathy & Sympathy & Highly Sensitive Person- Part1

Empathy: Usually defined as “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes”. That’s partially true. However empathy requires objectivity, in other words evaluating someone’s situation remaining neutral, and if any self-based thought occurs, the results you get will become subjective.

Example: “If I were you, I would...”

This is NOT empathy. This is just an hypothetical situation that shows how YOU would react in those circumstances.

Most of the time how you would react is not the same how they already did. That’s where a lot of people fail. When something doesn’t resonate to us we either ignore or perceive as ridiculous. No further questioning. Therefore we understand that a little bit of curiosity is needed. (The main reason why nobody understands your introversion)

Empathy also requires ability to imagine. You should be able to ask “would,could” questions, interested in possibilities, and not only rely on the information of the current time.

Ex: creating a movie scene in your mind regarding their condition, -in other words the story you were told. The lead actor should be them not you.

Being aware of the differences between you and others may be the most important fact when it comes to empathy. We all have different values and priorities, and those eventually shape our personalities, wants, needs, and general attitude in life.

Ex: analyzing personal traits of individuals considering what they value and want in life or their reactions and so on.

We are all unique, and it’s not fair to expect to share the feelings of others. Not everything has to resonate to you, but I believe understanding and tolerating differences is what makes you an empath.

So let’s define empathy one more time

“Being able to understand others’ condition whether it resonates to you or not.”

Sympathy: This means being able to show compassion whether you actually understand them or not. Gentle reactions towards someone’s unfortunate condition.

Ex: When seeing someone’s upset feeling sorry for them. Being more tolerant to that individual.

Almost everyone does that. Even the most crucial people must have done it a few times in their lives. I think, it’s just a part of human nature. However there are some who can’t even be sympathetic.

HSP: (sensitivity to others’ feelings that I’m only talking about here)

Being able to feel others’ emotions as yours. Being an emotional sponge. They are considered as true empaths, but in contrast to common belief this trait isn’t really suitable, -in fact it can be a burden, for cultivating empathy if not controlled and balanced. When you can’t distinguish if the feeling is yours or theirs, you may think it’s yours, and your focus will turn to yourself. Therefore empathy can’t prevail. There is always a tendency to personalize issues. On the other hand if the individual had more control over their sensitivity, then it would be a great trait to have for an empath. (Those people are extremely rare.)

Why can’t we create empathy?

- Being cynical

- Being too sensitive and emotional

- Believing that everyone’s the same or at least should be the same.

- Lacking curiosity

Required:

Objectivity, analytical thinking, curiosity for human mind, awareness of the fact that not everyone is like you.

Showing compassion, on the other hand, is your personal choice. I’ll explain that, why empathy and sympathy are mixed up, and some other analogies in the part 2.

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I'm looking for greater understanding of themselves rather perhaps being told by other people what to believe.

I remember growing up feeling like I didn't belong this planet like I was an anomaly. I remember feeling just so alone and so disconnected and so sad, and then that escalated to a point of feeling angry like something had to shift something had to change. And from that space is where I begin to search. I have this inner knowing that I was destined for more than what was showing up in my life. I just hadn't trusted it before. So I started tuning into that and asking questions deep questions. Who am I? What's my purpose here? And then I noticed that when I asked to disempowering questions, like why is this happening to me I would experience pain. But when I asked those questions like “what am I grateful for ?” “what do I love or how can I serve?”, amazing opportunities would come and amazing gifts would be revealed. So it was from the receptive place that begin with a question. RECEPTIVITY. The quality of our lives is directly proportionate to the quality of the questions that we ask. We create as we speak.

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This is one of the nicest things my husband has done to me. I make so many typos- can be clearly seen as well in my posts, and sometimes sound scattered. He knows this and sent me why it's happening. This is from a book he's currently reading. Book pitch perfect by Mickey Rapkin.