#my (text) posts

[vandijkwrites]

Please do things to strengthen your attention span. It stresses me out so much when people just accept their small attention spans and cater to them without any acknowledgment that they are making it worse by doing that.

There is a reason attention spans are worse now and it didn’t just happen by chance. Media and the internet designed it that way and we went with it because it was easier.

Some of us with ADHD and brain fog need to meet ourselves where we’re at and exercise our attention span by watching a two minute video instead of a one minute video. Some of us need to sit down and read a novel with our phones turned off.

Wherever you’re at, just realize that not doing things that feel hard will keep making your attention span worse.

[acearojomarch]

I'm going to say something so controversial and so brave right now-

queer fandoms have gotta stop acting like the only path to queer happiness is through a relationship. It's reductive and exclusionary. It's bad enough in a fandom context and worse when it bleeds into real life. Queer joy comes in many different forms and that's what makes it beautiful. Take your ship goggles off for a second and expand your horizons

[catghoststories]

Why is the Everlasting Pea card the one that is ripped in half?! 😰

[kendrysaneela]

Agatha All Along 11/?

[littlenastieswewhispered]

[fuckboyzuko]

Going through some rigamarole with my family right now that I don't want to get into, but I'd really love to know how common it is to be besties with your siblings. Pleeeeeeease reblog so I can see as many responses as possible.

[expectiations]

text posts: Doctor + River version [3/?]

[charles-leclerc-official]

some lestappen edits for your enjoyment

[vonecent]

wouldn't it be so funny if jonny and alex kept name dropping tma characters at the end of tmagp episodes and then revealing them to be dead in the next episode over and over

[vandijkwrites]

sorry if you've already answered this 700 times, in which case totally feel free to ignore. but how do you lengthen your attention span? is it as simple as watching/reading progressively longer things?

First of, I am by no means an expert, but I'm happy to help as much as I can! There are a lot of great articles, books, and podcasts on the topic if you want any further info.

The most important thing to realize is why are attention spans are getting worse:

Information overload and distractions make it difficult to focus. (Ex. social media and text notification going off while you are doing other tasks)

Intentional multitasking gets your brain used to doing more than one thing at once so it becomes very difficult to make it do only one thing (Ex. having the tv on in the background while doing other tasks)

Consuming a lot of media focused on having minimal downtime and immediate gratification decreases our patience and ability to do slower tasks (Ex. watching a lot of action packed movies and short TikToks)

Getting constant small hits of dopamine from social media decreases our ability to do tasks that don't give us dopamine hits (Ex. getting likes from a post or messages from friends)

The solutions to most of these come down to two things: (1) Do only one thing at a time (2) Limit distractions from that task (3) Reduce immediate gratification

So some example of ways to do that would be:

Read a book without your phone being on hand to distract you.

Watch TV without multitasking.

Reduce time on social media, especially social media focused on short videos.

Spend a day or part of a day without technology.

Spend time with friends without looking at your phone.

Watch slow-form content like unedited lecture or panel videos where people are just speaking at their normal pace without cutting pauses.

Listen to music albums all the way through instead of shuffling and skipping.

Eat meals without multitasking (ie mindful eating)

Make yourself a cup of tea and sit on a park bench or by the window and watch some birds.

People-watch at the coffee shop.

Write long emails or letters to friends and family instead of short texts.

Call and have a conversation with a loved one without multitasking.

Meditate.

Take a walk and enjoy nature.

Don't scroll through your phone while waiting in a line.

Read long posts when you come across them on your dashboard.

Have an ebook on your phone to read whenever you would normally scroll through social media.

Don't go on your phone/online for a certain amount of time before bed.

If you are having trouble doing these things, try to do one tasks but increase the stimuli of that task. For example, read a book while listening to the audiobook at the same time. Or listen to music while watching a lyric video. These are great baby steps!

Another great baby step is (like you said in your question) doing things for progressively longer amounts of time! Set a timer for a certain number of minutes and then read without distraction for that amount of time. That way it won't feel like it is never ending and you can track your progress.

Obviously not all of these will be for everyone and some of these are too hard for people with ADHD or serious attention issues, but they are a good place to start!

I hope that helps 💕

[an-theduckin]

Couples who are also best friends save me.....save me couples who are also best friends....

[catghoststories]

When your favorite couples are (very unofficially) supported by the merch pics 🥹 🦋x💌 🐛x🐾

[kendrysaneela]

Agatha All Along 10/?

[littlenastieswewhispered]

[sammaggs]

[valkyrie0cain]

Bradley: You're such a loser. Max: You want to fuck me so bad, it makes you look ~stupid. Bradley: *silence, disbelief, no comeback detected* Max: That's what I thought.