#official aromantic post

[aromanticofficial]

playing truth or dare with abstinent aroaces is like "so uh. when was the last time you nearly died"

[technicallyeldritch]

shoutout to me, a little aro guy, who when playing kiss marry kill at my friend's twelfth birthday said he would seduce, marry, and kill all of the rich people (celebrities) so that he would become rich. you were iconic baby me

[genderimpala]

my school just made me do a strengths test and my 22nd result out of 24 was love. official aromantic experience.

[aromanticofficial]

Found at a Ross, I was caught off-guard from how a-spec coded it felt

official aromantic candle

[aromanticofficial]

can a minor identify as aroallo or is that wrong

no, nobody feels sexual attraction until the arbitrary age at which their government decides a citizen is old enough to make their own medical and financial decisions

[aromanticofficial]

as a small reminder aro week 2024 is february 18th through the 24th

[aromanticofficial]

reblogging this again for posterity

hi. i made some images.

feel free to take them and use for whatever you may need them for. no credit required

[aromanticofficial]

aromantic new year everyone

[aromanticofficial]

I’m aroace and was just browsing the aroace tag when I came across a few exclusionist posts & now I’m feeling… idk. Weird, I guess.

Am I welcome on this blog, even though I’m also ace? I’ve been reblogging posts from here because I recently realized I was aro and wanted to engage with & explore that side of my identity, but if as many aro people as they indicated don’t want aroace people around in their aro spaces, would it be better to just… leave the aromantic tag and blogs altogether? I don’t want to take away from people who are aroallo. I’ve seen it done time and again and don’t want to be some kind of… invasive species or something.

(sorry this was so long and rambly.)

anon. I am holding your face so gently. you belong in aro spaces. don't let exclusionists tell you otherwise. your experience is unique and valuable and there is not a single romantic, sexual, or gender orientation that takes that away. I promise that every aro is welcome on aromanticofficial because this is a space for every aro on the arospec.

[aromanticofficial]

Ik being an aro adult can suck but as a high schooler im having the time of my life. my friends are panicking over crushes and im giggling and kicking my feet at fish facts and if anyone brings up dating I can just go “im too young” and it’s a valid answer.

hell yeah bro that's what it's all about

[aromanticofficial]

Each time I hear "but aro people can date!!!!" I lose more and more blood vessels because YEAH they can but A. Majority of those times those relationships are fundementally different from allo ones and aren't just 1 - 1, and B. a good majority don't!!!!!! Like that is a minority!!!!!!! Aromanticism is a spectrum and not everyone falls hard on the side that includes dating and I'm just. I'm so tired of but they can still date being constantly brought up because it feels less like it's trying to raise awareness for the aros that can and more like you're just undermining the fact that I don't ..

you're right and more people should realize it

[aromanticofficial]

I love being in a aroace4aroace relationship. Cuz we aren’t dating. We are just an old married couple who lovingly bullies each other for a living and sometimes we also cuddle. The one with the most shiny pokémon cards is the one allowed to watch the TV. Which is always me. I win

goals tbh

[aromanticofficial]

shout out aplatonic and loveless aro people. im not one but i think you guys are awesome especially when you get the short end of the stick on aspec representation so often. i feel like a lot of “pro aspec” posts try to normalize one aspec experience by indirectly putting another down…

“asexuals are normal people you guys! they can date and have romantic relationships and some of them even have sex because their partner wants to !!!!” (side note but it always feels so gross that every time i see an explanation of why an ace person would want to have sex its bc their partner wants to… can’t people just do things bc THEY like it? but i digress)

“aromantics are normal people you guys! they still love their friends and family and pets !!!!” (aroallos almost always left out of the conversation btw)

its like. so many ace posts throw aros under the bus and then so many aro posts throw people who dont feel other kinds of love under the bus and it all just sucks bc we are all aspec together and i think we should all appreciate the variety of the human experience without assigning moral value to whatever attraction or emotion people may or may not feel. and anyway i just want to say you guys are cool and love isnt what makes you human and i wish everyone who thinks it does a very go to hell. ok bye

hell yeah! no apologizing or conforming! aros are fine the way they are because they're them!

[aromanticofficial]

[This isn't intended to start drama or pit aros and aces against each other, it's just a vent]

I agree with the last anon, it feels like asexuality is always talked about more or (debatedly) more supported than being aromantic. It feels like any aro content online is overshadowed by asexuality. Any post I see about aromanticism, and solely aromanticism, is derailed by asexuals. "This is me but with sexual attraction!" "Omg me but I'm aroace" etc etc. I once made an aromantic focused "your favorite is aromantic" type account, and every request I got was aroace, demiromantic asexual, cupioromantic apothisexual, aroflux asexual, it always included an asexual headcanon. It also very rarely someone who was strictly aromantic or romance repulsed, they almost always were romance favorable or felt romantic attraction. I ended up deleting that account because it just ended up becoming another account focused on aroace content, when I wanted it to be solely an aromantic focused account. People just won't separate aromanticism from asexuality. You're not allowed to be just aromantic. You have to be asexual or at least ace-spec. It sucks. I have more issues with how aromanticism is treated in online communities but I don't want this to be a fucking novel.

Signed, your local violet aroallo

yeah I feel you anon. our society seemingly can't handle the idea of sex without romance as well as romance without sex (or even the idea of nothing there at all).

also since I haven't heard the term violet aroallo before I included a screenshot of a definition post I found for the benefit of anyone else who doesn't know the term

[aromanticofficial]

i feel like so many aroace people talk more about being ace and the aspec community generally seems to focus a lot more on asexuality. which is fine because everyone experiences things differently and its not like i want to pit aces and aros against each other or anything.

it just. makes me feel sort of strange as someone who is aroace but connects more to being aromantic. maybe it’s because i can enjoy sex but just don’t feel attraction? but idk if its even that i just feel like sex is such a non factor for me that being ace isn’t even really all that important to me??? idk how to explain it. if i say im aromantic and asexual people will always take the asexual part as the more memorable or more important label and its sort of frustrating. i feel like im aromantic first and asexual second, but it seems like most other people feel the opposite.

anon i feel the exact same way. i've always felt more aromantic than asexual, and i wanted to talk about aromanticism. it's why i created this blog to collect the aromantic posts i came across. the situation sucks but i hope you can find some joy here

[aromanticofficial]

I'm aromantic in this freaking annoying way where I'm capable of feeling very mild romantic attraction from March through to July. It sounds so fake it pisses me off, and also it's bizarre because that's winter in my country so it's not like I'm looking for a summer romance here. And I'm lucky that it's mild and also that nobody wants to kiss me, because otherwise how could I explain to someone that I'll be out of love with them by August? It's nuts and it's irritating and I'm wondering if anyone feels something similar, or if I'm just stuck with my weird autumn/early winter Longing For Something forever

the romantic attraction type of seasonal affective disorder