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I am so incredibly frustrated.
I love my father, truly. He's great on so many levels. But he pissed me off like nobody's business.
So my mom owns her own business, and runs it in the shop. Whenever I come home for holidays and breaks from college, I work with her to kinda help her get ahead.
I'm working with her today, trying to get a such of this big order out of the ways as possible, when I go on my lunch break. I go and put a pizza in the oven. When the timer goes off for it to be done, my dad walks out to make himself lunch. He sees me getting my own food, and the first thing he says is "so you're the only person in the house who needs to eat?"
.......... what.
I'm confused, cause I literally just made a pizza, it's not like we're having a family dinner or whatever, it's just lunch. So I respond, asking for clarification cause idk wtf is wrong here. He then proceeds to blame me for not asking if he wants any food or seeing if he was hungry or had any plans to go out and eat or anything like that.
The whole conversation was essentially him being mad that I didn't go out of my way to see if he wanted food or to offer to get him food.
I'm so throughly confused. He stormed back to his office to eat and work or whatever, and I'm just here, pissed and confused cause like???? Since when was it my job to make sure he was fed when I'm working with my mom? I literally took a 30 minute break to make and eat food before getting back to work. Cause I was hungry. And we didn't need to go out and get fast food cause money.
And the things that get me the most? He 1) only got mad cause he saw me getting myself food for lunch when HE WAS DOING THE SAME DAMN THING. And 2) his first question, out of literally anything he could have said, was "so you're the only person in the house who needs to eat?"
Literally what. You are mad at me for getting myself food when you were literally doing the SAME DAMN THING AS ME. That's unfair. That's rude. That's entitled. It's not my damn job to serve you hand and foot and make you comfortable when I come home for the holidays. It's not my job to make sure you eat.
Granted, this is nit new behavior. He's done stupid things like this to my mother and myself my whole life. I love hom dearly, he's amazing, but idk how I managed to live with it for so long.
Oh also, as the little cherry on top, when I told him I didn't think it was my job to get you food on my break, his was response? "That's such a cop out answer"
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Granted, I probably shouldn't have responded the way I did. But "that's a cop out answer"?????? Really????? I- what??? I am not your keeper. I am not your maid. I am your daughter but you can feed yourself. Your feet work. Your hands work. You can do it yourself. You shouldn't expect me to take a break from work come ask to see if you had plans for lunch, when I can't waste time not eating! I'm trying to help my mother keep up with an order so we don't have to work for the rest of the week.
Also, he said I should have checked to see if he had plans for lunch. If you have plans, tell ppl them. Don't sit and wait for us to ask you, then get mad when we deal with taking care of ourselves. If you wanted to get food, you should have come told us. But the fact that you went to get yourself food, that tells me you didn't. That tells me you were gonna do the same thing as me. You were gonna make food then go back to work. You had no plans. So don't get mad at me when I don't check with you to make sure making myself something wouldn't interfere with your plans.
#to think there was a time where i thought i was the problem#sorry for the language but goodness does he piss me off#and he has the audacity to not like the rules i set for myself in a relationship to prevent this kind of behavior#or to catch it early enough to get out#vent
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