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advocating for the removal of anyone's human rights for literally any reason includng those ones only creates an opening by which you need simply claim your enemies meet those criteria to justify removing their human rights. Note how slavery was outlawed in the US "except as criminal punishment" and now suddenly every black american is a criminal for ~totally coincidental~ reasons.

Restorative justice is necessary in all cases, not as a treat for the "good criminals" or whatever, because any model of justice that can be exploited as a weapon against innocents will be.

And yes, this means everyone. Whatever group you wanna "except these monsters 🥰" with, look at the real world literally right now and you will find bigots trying to categorize whole minorities as uniformly That Thing.

Human rights are human rights for all of us, even and in fact most importantly the worst of us.

why do i have to explain to grown ass adults that human rights r called human rights bc every single human is entitled to them bc they r human, n they should never b taken away no matter who they are or what they did. and that advocating for the removal of human rights, nomatter who the target of it is, is not only incredibly cruel but will eventually spiral and lead to oppression. didnt we learn that shit in like 5th grade.

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sending in some legit fan mail for your fan mail tag, you're amazing we love you 💖

If only I could put it there!! Unfortunately this is not hamfisted anon hate so I cannot put it there. But thank you!!

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This post has been a really wild ride for me. I've felt a lot of things; I've seen dozens of people stopped short and consider their needs, i've seen people take flippant offense to the notion of rest (please get better), I've felt the warm, bittersweet balm of interconnectedness between those of us who've been urging our friends, lovers, families to slow down for their own sakes, I've felt grossly misunderstood, i've been moved close to tears by heartfelt words from people i'll never ever know. I think the biggest thing I want to clarify, though, are the last two words.

For many, this gives it an overtly romantic tone. I.. considered that, honesty, before posting, since it wasn't my intent, but I left it there because it's too important.

I don't ask to hold you as a romantic gesture. I'm actually pretty aromantic. I ask, because it is a direct reversal of the self-sacrifice this post is pleading against. It is to ask "You would bloody your hands to move mountains for me, but would you allow me to show even a fraction of that support in return?"

Because love isn't about giving and giving until you are left with nothing. It's not about self sacrifice and righteous suicide in their name. It's not one-way. To love, you have to let yourself be loved. If you'll bloody your hands for me, at least let me hold them after, let me bandage them.

It is not enough to love, it's not healthy to allow only sacrifice of yourself for nothing in return. It's not noble to kill yourself for someone who wants their whole life to have you in it. You have to let yourself be loved, too. You'd do anything for me, but does that include allowing me to do something for you?

I desperately wish, for both our sakes, it does.

"I would kill for you. I would die for you" would you take a break for me? Would you sit down and rest? For a day, a week, a year? Would you let others take care of your needs for me? Would you let yourself be held for me? By me?

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this is ai bros, to me

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We need the language to describe uncomfortable, unpleasant, and outright dangerous realities because they are realities and language exists to describe. Nothing more. The idea that language exists to condone, comfort, please, or whatever else and should be rrgulated or controlled or modify to soften reality is a deeply christian and puritain one and should make you viscerally uncomfortable. More uncomfortable than the language it seeks to censor.

you gotta be able to say "die"

you gotta be able to say "suicide"

you gotta be able to talk about "sex"

they're uncomfortable topics, YEAH for SURE

because LIFE is uncomfortable. Death and suicide and sex and pain are straight up going to happen. not having words for the way it discomforts you doesn't make it more comfortable, it just makes you less able to reach out about it.

even more vital, you gotta be able to say words like "rape", "abuse", "queer" or "racist". cause we fought fucking hard to name those experiences. to identify "rape" as distinct from "sex" and "racism" as distinct from "acceptable behaviour" and "queer" as distinct from "invert"

like the function of communication is not to minimise immediate discomfort. we gotta be able to talk about stuff that's hard or sucks or causes difficult conversations.

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bullies of all stripes, from petty to bigoted, LOVE this tactic. They'll harass you, and when you respond, or stand up to them in any way, they'll claim that they were being normal, and YOU started it, brought it up, made it a big deal. It really makes you wonder, who has the real "gender ideology," someone who doesn't care about how you were born, and is just willing to take you at your word? Or someone who has a laundry list of strict rules and definitions of what each gender is, how many there are, how it works, how each gender behaves, how you're supposed to act, supposed to look, who you're supposed to love based on gender, what you owe society, where you're allowed to go, where you're allowed to piss and shit, starts arguments with everyone they see who violates any of these "rules," demands that everyone agree with every rule they make...

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Humanity spent thousands of years getting by just fine without capitalism or even money. The main goal of humanity was to ensure that your community was housed and fed, the children raised well, and the sick and elderly taken care of.

It wasn't a buy-in, it was a matter of principle. And it got us far enough to develop modern societal systems. The whole point of developing more advanced technologies was to make housing, feeding, and raising each other more efficient. The whole point of developing societal rules was to make disrupting each other's basic needs more difficult.

Somewhere along the line, very, very recently, the script was flipped, and people started saying that the point of housing, feeding, and raising each other was to develop more efficient technologies. This is obviously ridiculous, a complete and utter mixup of priorities.

The point of technology is to make everyone's lives easier and labor more efficient such that everyone can live their lives more freely, have more time to live their lives how we choose. The point of a governing body is to regulate societies such that everyone's freedom to spend their time as they wish is protected.

Technology exists to serve the interests of the people. The government exists to serve the interests of the people. We got it twisted, we've gotten catastrophically lost in the sauce. If we're not using the tools at our disposal to unconditionally help each other and lift each other up on the sheer basis that we're all people, what's the goddamn fucking point of any of this?

“if you’re working a full time job you should be able to afford to live on your own and have access to food and transportation” gonna be real with you brother. everyone deserves this. Not just people working 40 hrs a week

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Talor swift is an idol to blind consumption. Every single thing she has ever done wrong, to the Swiftie, exists in one of two states: in a vaccuum, where it can be individually excused, like every other flaw, crime, and indiscretion, or as a measuring stick by which one criticizes other people.

You're not supposed to think critically about her. You're supposed to "let people enjoy things" (read: mindlessly consume). You're supposed to let a girlboss stay winning. You're supposed to let feminism exist not as a complex political movement with principles and ideas, but as a thought-terminating cliché wherein women are ontologically good, and their success, no matter what we define as "success" or how she has achieved it, must, MUST be celebrated. She is to be revered, blindly worshipped, and all support of her must be excused, because, you see, the point isn't to think, the point isn't to have principles, or standards, or anything. The point is to consume. Consume her music, consume her fame, consume her image, the fiction of her as a hardworking creative, consume idolotry and consume congradulations for consuming a woman's consumer goods.

Feminism is when you support a woman's capital. Feminism is when you consume a woman's products. Feminism is when you blindly enable powerful white women to skip the consequences of whatever the hell she pleases on the basis of being a woman. Feminism is when you blindly consume a billionaire's capital empire, because she's a woman. Just let people enjoy things, you're a feminist, and she's a woman. What more could you possibly want? Stop thinking so hard, spoilsport. Just let me consume.

I wanna say from very bottom of my heart that I deeply truly rabidly despise Taylor Swift and the glamorous black hole of immorality, gracelessness and lack of integrity she represents. I truly hate that I have to witness her 2-chord mediocre stream of consciousness high school ballads win the highest accolades in music. I hate how there's not a single discourse - from sports to fucking queer theory - that's free of her. I hate her white feminism, how she's never stood for a single thing that didn't ensure her wealth. I hate how she's credited and praised for things marginalised artists did before her. I hate how she latches onto new artists so they serve HER fame, like remoras to a shark. I hate her phony humble beginnings narrative that people parrot without acknowledging she's a nepo baby. I hate what she did to olivia rodrigo and how no one talks about it. I hate the waste her concerts, lifestyle, and merch create and that a young girl died from heat illness at her concert because the swift team prioritises exclusivity and profit over safety. I hate how she and her fandom popularised the idea that critiquing a woman = misogyny. I hate how she's in her mid 30s and still writes songs like she's a teenager and that songs written by a woman in her 30s acting like a teenager are inescapable. I hate she deliberately re-releases songs and records so other artists can't chart. I hate how she regularly and openly associates with bigoted people but somehow is always given the benefit of the doubt. Most of all I hate how she does and continues to do all of this and so much more and her fans will always have a, "but!" always have an, "anyway!". she's openly and uncritically supporting a presidential candidate who's administration is enacting genocide, but because she made a joke with her cats, we're meant to be like, "yay!" I truly despise Taylor Swift and the black hole of neoliberal white feminist mediocrity she is in popular culture.

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Was gonna put this in tags but I don't wanna hide it in there actually. the correct answer to ''I am nonbinary'' is not ''is it boy flavored or girl flavored'' it's ''cool! wanna play toys with me?''

If your conception of queerness requires anyone, let alone nonbinary folks, to conform to a certain set of prescribed gender roles for a given label to apply to them, then it is fundamentally broken and you need ask yourself why you think anyone's identity needs to adhere to an external set of expectations at all, let alone to be "valid" or "allowed".

The human experience is more diverse than anything any one person can fully understand. Identity is not a rational thing with a strict logic that it adheres to. It's emotional. It's a feeling, it's one's sense of self. Nobody else can define what that can or cannot be, is or is not, than the one whose sense of self it is. It doesn't even make sense to think otherwise; no one else is in your head but you (or y'all for my systems out there).

It is a futile, self-defeating, distracting endeavor to try and define the language of queerness such that all words have a rigid definition that simply have no exceptions due to being Perfectly Correct And Concise. It is a sign of unexamined internal bigotry to assume that a given person will be predisposed to a particular behavior due to their identity or circumstances of birth, and it is a mishandling of your trauma to declare an entire identity unsafe to have in your presence because you find it triggering.

the gender binary as we know it is simply two points in an endlessly expansive space, with uncountable dimensions to it. Attempting to restrict the language of queerness to be relative to those two particular points will always be, in essence, an exercise in making the gender binary a default from which all else deviates- it is an exercise in forcing all of queerness to revolve round it. This is always a regressive way of thinking.

And just to make clear that no, i do not in fact piss on the poor, this is, of course, not to say that anyone's identity aligning with masculinity and/or femininity is somehow meaningless, or a bad thing. This is to say that nobody's identity requires the gender binary to be relevant to it, whether or not you think it "makes sense."

Someone else's identity, at the end of the day, is simply not your business and whether or not you can wrap your head around it has nothing to do with whether it exists. Quantum physics exists whether or not you understand it, lightning still strikes whether or not you know why. Words between strangers have been spoken in rooms you've never heard of, and yet that conversation still happened, still mattered, to the ones present. And my identity, whether or not you "get it," still exists precisely as it is.

You can do whatever you want forever. And so can everyone else.

now can we please just fucking play toys together?

Really hate that the queer community's response to the creation of a gender trinary (girl, boy, and nonbinary) was to... reinvent the binary. We just started grouping all genders into "masc/male-aligned" and "fem/female-aligned" and it's so fucking stupid. Even with the occasional allowance of "neutral/unaligned" it still maintains the binary as the standard. And then they don't let you use certain labels if you don't have the "right" gender alignment. The fuck.

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we're a big fan of ;a; for the feeling of a concerned pupy or perhaps kity.

There are also the >_> <_< >.> <.< variants, for expressing awkward sideways glances, or perhaps the preamble of some sort of suspicious action or suggestion.

>_>

<_<

*quietly pockets the shiny* >.>

...for instance.

😳 <- this emoji but without the blush or romantic connotation. im not blushing im staring you directly in your fucking eyes

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Being trans or genderqueer yourself doesn't give you a free pass to misgender people either. Your identity does not make you exempt from the impact of your actions, harm does not work like fucking pokemon. You, yes you, are capable of transphobic violence. You don't have the right to revoke others' right to self-determination just because you told yourself this identity is ~your turf.~ Get over yourself and be fucking nice.

You don't get to misgender people yes even if you think they're cringe (get over it), yes even if you don't understand it (get Over It), yes even if you think they're a terrible person (irrelevent), yes even if they have done objectively horrible harmful things (still irrelevent,) and yes, even if you think they "can't really know for sure" because of their disability (that's fucking ableist, shut your goddamn mouth.)

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everyone talking about how to find a mug or whether you should even want them is discarding the message of the post to say "You're fine, actually, the things you want can be fit into the reality that already exists. Nothing needs to change for you to be happy."

The whole. point. of the post. Is that it would be a lot fucking easier to be happy if something fucking changed.

When I grow up I wanna be upper middle class.

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.....I kinda wanna see this.

the water would be an issue. you'd wanna hook up the water intake to.... idk, the olive oil? and then the acid would probably be the fabric softener. the detergent would be the egg. Is it possible to properly proportion the ingredients in a washing machine? Someone get that technology connections guy on this or something

has anyone ever tried putting raw eggs in the detergent slot on the washing machine and olive oil in the fabric softener slot to make clothes mayonnaise

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life gets a lot easier when you stop hunting for enemies and reasons to make them.

Can't express how stress free being open minded is.

Some lesbians use he/him? Oh cool.

Some people have people inside their head and sometimes it's fictional chars? Sick your brains like a pirate ship they're all working to run.

Some people like being treated like a pet dog? Bark bark bro.

Being fat isn't unhealthy but a perfectly normal type of body to have? Kinda beautiful how different we can all be.

Something doesn't make any fucking sense? Cool an opportunity to learn. And even if I can't figure it out it's cool we still have mysteries today.

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anyone who gets precious about WHO is being gnc and HOW, as if a cis person getting fucky with gender is somehow stealing valor from the queers has FULLY lost the plot on what the goals of like, the whole human rights movement is about.

Freedom for all to be who they are, whoever that may be. As long as you're not bring actual, material harm upon another, that's all that matters. Not hypothetical harm, not the sympathetic discomfort of someone who worries harm MIGHT be done, but actual fucking harm. Reinventing the hayes code but for defending the purity of queer expression or whatever is always going to be a step backwards.

sorry, it's a GOOD thing if cishet people use non-conforming pronouns or dress in non-conforming ways or whatever else. for one, that person may not be cishet. but more importantly, living in a society where more people feel comfortable exploring their relationship to gender and sexuality is an undoubtedly GOOD thing

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truly incredible how dedicated some people are to precisely illustrating the point. Maybe if you weren't so concerned with your preconceptions you would be able to engage with this poem on its level and listen to what it is saying.

It's almost as if the thing you believe to be commonly true and understood does not correctly charactarize what's in front of you, and holding onto that belief as important to maintain and acknowledge as some sort of given default is interfering with your ability to recieve new information about it or percieve things differently even on a purely hypothetical level.

If only someone were to make some sort of commentary about this phenomenon. Perhaps in the form of a poem? They could even invoke imagery that may inspire that reaction in the audience as a cheeky way to get them to understand what feeling the poem is challenging. Fuck that'd be so clever. Oh well.

this poem is about being nonbinary.