#qnotqueue

[mjalti]

I hope this doesnt come across as judgemental but did you get enaged after few months together?

Yes!

We got engaged after dating for a little over 1 month, having known each other as colleagues & later friends for over 5 years, after spending each day discussing religion, children, life goals, boundaries, finances, expectations, etc.

I recommend this 101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married pdf as a guide, which he & I spent every day, every date dedicated to about 3 questions where he & I would write our answers (my desire, as to ensure that neither of us amended our answers lol) and then share those.

[headphones-lifeform]

ALRIGHT My time has come.

Star Trek-ish usernames, inspired by the ones I see on this website. Should fit right in with the ecosystem. Several of them are based off of specific memes.

These will be listed with no dashes if possible- add them if you see fit.

spocktopus

dollarstorevulcan

qnotqueue

slutsforstarfleet

kirkshearteyes

smileyfryodo

giantgreenspacehand

thisfimpleseeling

amoktim

And some inspired by spirkbitch:

spirkcreature

ksbitch

Apologies, these are all I have at the moment. I am at work

Relating to my previous ask:

Do you want Star Trek-related username ideas?

[Because I have many I will never get to use]

LLAP 🖖

-Zohar at @headphones-lifeform

i would love that actually thank you <3

[mjalti]

I am trying to pray/manifest in having my own home because I’ve always been in a toxic environment and can’t afford to leave it right now- hows does one try t get the life they desire when they’re stuck in a toxic environment where no one knows boundaries and you hear constant criticism?

look at this thread of vids! I think it's only 3 videos but this is my fundamental belief, but she explained it better than I could!

[mjalti]

i think i'm dropping out of college bec i am too overwhelmed to write and present a thesis. no amount of anti anxiety meds is worth it. like i rather not be forced to be judged by others. i cannot handle it.

I know you fucking LYING right now bitch.

rule 1: fuck it, WE BALL

listen, those people aren't people you have to impress they're just NPCs put forth by the universe to see how much you want what you want.

the point of this world is experiences. you're at your THESIS girl, the time to quit was 10 years ago and even then I wouldnt recommend it.

do NOT give these people power over you for ONE DAY that's a culmination of YOUR work. Stand tall NOW, do NOT piss me off

[mjalti]

OMGGGGGGG CONGRATULATIONS😭💓💓💓💓 so happy for you!!!! sending all the prayers and best wishes for your happiness 🥺🫶🏽💝💗💓I feel like my big sister has gotten engaged, I've been following you for so long. thank you for showing us glimpses of your journey and for teaching us so much through simply your example❤️

aww you’re so sweet 💋 thank you honey!!! Thank you for being here

Remember though; he’s just a boy and it’s just a ring. My desires for this life are 10x more ambitious than marriage. It’s sweet to go through life with a partner, but ultimately I will not be a martyr to this union like the countless generations of nameless women before me were to theirs & he’s very well aware of that. I’m just grateful to him for seeing me, in all my self & my potential & choosing to pour into it to support my growth by offering his contribution for life 💍 his blessings through me specifically as a partner will be many fold over & he’s aware of that too.

[mjalti]

Miss Ana can you give your tips on manifestation? Or is it more of a peeps al ritual? There’s so much over info on how to do it “right” and it gives me anxiety.

There is no wrong way to manifest, to me.

But my version of it, since I was in 3rd grade, was a mixture of hard will and later on this:

The Ana Mjalti Method

I imagine a dart board like below. I have an unlimited amount of darts and an unlimited amount of time. In the center of the board is a crystal clear vision* of what I want. I get what I want when I'm able to hit the center. Each dart is an attempt to get closer to the middle of the dart. I will eventually hit the center, because I have an unlimited amount of time and an unlimited amount of darts. Each dart can also be a mediation, a prayer (! 'Thank you for granting this for me if it works in my favor"), an attempt to become the person that can house this vision (this might be creating boundaries, taking a class, going to a therapy session "what would the person who gets this thing be doing in my situation?"). The key is to be calm; what you want is already yours. The center of the board wants you to hit it, you have unlimited attempts. Keep the center vision clear. And it is yours, because the universe through the gifts God has bestowed on it, through God itself, will make it happen for you.

*the vision has to be in extreme detail. For example, say you want a cat. you don't want the image of a cat. you want to envision the yellow eyes of your cat. you want to see each individual whisker, you want to feel the soft coat of her fur. you want to envision the color of her fur in the sunlight, you want to imagine her chasing the light etc. even more than that [language is limiting]. You want an extreme level of detail.

[mjalti]

Congratulations on your engagement and house! You are so deserving of everything beautiful 💞. May I ask how you knew your partner is the 'one' in order to accept the proposal ? I have learned so much from you, thank you.

thank you!

I had a checklist of the things I was looking for in a partner on my notes app and I was ruthless while dating because it's always better to be alone than with the wrong person. My partner achieved 80% of the traits that I wanted but it was the traits that meant the most to me personally. My partner rose up to the things I wanted; a fast engagement but a long engagement period, no kids til after marriage, him moving up to my city/us moving to a city together, buying a house for me to turn into a home. He actually bought the house and I lived in it primarily for 6 months before he moved up here. I wanted to be on the deed of the house but not on the mortgage, so that's what he did. Having someone literally put their money where their mouth is, showing up for you, and doing the things you need to feel safe is the ultimate test of a potentially happy union. There are no guarantees, with anything, but you can always stack the deck in your favor.

[mjalti]

Help how do I get over it? I’ve just been picking at it over and over again like a scab

choose your version of hard.

pick at old scabs

go to the gym consistently

get another degree

hike/beach/self defense class

give yourself a week to cry, and then at the 7 day mark, snap your fingers and do something.

[mjalti]

how to deal with mean girl / bitch allegations when setting boundaries? cant set a single boundary without people within family and at work smearing me behind my back 😔

to be honest, I can't help with this because I am known to be a bitch!! And I love it. I love surprising people who come respectful with the behavior that matches their energy and them being genuinely surprised that they love me, or matching energy for someone that deserves pushback.

other people's perceptions of you shouldn't run your life or your values. you'll lose out on some easy things by having strong boundaries for sure, but what you gain is a solid standing of yourself of being on your own side, and honestly, a deep core of knowing that no matter what happens....you will be ok.

[mjalti]

Ana, I live in a country where gossip, talking behind people's backs, hypocrisy and piling on others is a very cultural thing. I know I'm not perfect but I do try to not get involved, but basically every workplace I've worked at or even my own family has been very toxic and it's very hard to deal with that because I'm very naive, how do I toughen up?

understand that when people look at you, sometimes they see their own lost potential or their own self that wasn't protected. it's very rare that people hate you for your character; very few people base their desires for friendship/alliances on character, most base it on what they can win from you or why being around you would benefit them. Understand that a lot of people want you to do worse than them because they can't handle watching someone younger do better even though that's the whole point of a newer generation.

You may not need to toughen up; but you do need to provide context, understand the big picture. de-center yourself from their hate and do well for yourself. continue with school; always school. education = financial freedom = freedom. always school. never trust a man to provide anything for you even if he's already doing it. Do what you think you would like to see more of in the world, even if your culture doesn't support it because you will be surprised at how being the type of person you want to see in the world will lead you to your own "Tribe".

[mjalti]

hi miss ana ✨ i have been following you for years and am just beaming at your news. so happy for you. it all was ⭐️

i have a question: how do you feel about sharing something before it has fully arrived? for example speaking of your dream job interview before they’ve given you an offer or a person you have a crush on before you even know if they like you back? clearly by sharing your engagement you aren’t paranoid about this kind of thing but the idea of “jinxing” something — i personally know what will be will be, but i can’t lie and say there have been many times i’ve shared something and it falls apart before it ever is. or was it destined anyway? are they symbiotic? do you think there is any pull negative or positive when it comes to manifestation? like sharing something to early can envoke “evil eye” etc? anyway, so happy for you again. i swear im wishing you the best lol

Thank you so much for your kind words and support! As for sharing things before they’ve fully arrived, I believe that what's meant for us will always find its way, regardless of when or how we share it. While I understand the concept of the "evil eye," I personally choose to focus on positivity and trust that no one's negative energy can take away what’s meant to be mine. Manifestation is about aligning with your desires, and sharing them doesn’t necessarily invoke negativity—it’s more about the intention and energy you put out there. However, I am weary about sharing anything in the embryo stage, where I'm working on it. I like to share final products :) Stay positive and trust in your journey, move in silence out of dedication to your vision and not out of fear! 🌟

[mjalti]

what do you think happens after death? i like to think we get reborn or turn into ghosts

I rarely concern myself with it because it's one of the biggest points of manipulation in history lol. the thing is, nobody knows what happens when we die, but everyone has a vested interest in wanting to get you to believe that they know. you either follow their religion, or give them money, or do what they say & they loudly tell you that you'll be granted ....what? peace? as though you can't get peace right now? God, most of the people I know are walking around as ghosts right now.

the thing is, we all want to go somewhere where we won't have to work for what we get. so the idea that if we live a Diet Life, we get rewarded with ....gathering at a harvest with loved ones? idk lol. basically, if you want to be close to God, there are cathedrals at every roadside. if you want to feel religion, go to where there is none.

death doesn't interest me. Life does.

[mjalti]

What yoga routine do you do? I think you posted one before but I don't know

I know this says 47 min, but I promise you if you start it it’ll feel so good that at the end, you’ll want to do it directly again

link to video

[mjalti]

Help, after a year I still think about my ex, she has a new girlfriend now but I’m still dumb thinking we can still happen

moving on from a relationship is like packing up a house. some people are better packers and the rest of us find cool stuff while packing that we just gotta play with for a little bit. you aren’t dumb for loving someone or for still wanting them, so stop being a bitch to yourself because you decided to indulge in the emotion of love. you are one aspect of the universe that loved another, such as a left hand cleans a right one. but don’t call yourself dumb over it. just pack up the house slowly, so that you have room for the right person to show up.

[mjalti]

Just know that someone who loves you deeply will always be rooting for you. you're loved by so many people, it's almost enough to make me jealous.

that's a newer sentiment to me but more a testament to being resistant. for every person that adores/supports/cares for me, there have been 10 who have hated me, resented me, reported me to HR for false allegations, denied me entry to my desires, started rumors about me, shunned me, made me feel like I didn't matter, etc. It's nothing to be jealous of, but that's only because it's self-serving to compare my chapter 20 to your chapter 1. Having the support is lovely and I tap into it whenever I need, but having done it alone, having done it depressed, have done it fatigued, having done it through 3 jobs, having done it through 2 degrees and still being in school, having done it through the death of my father, having done it through living paycheck to paycheck, having done it cutting off friends and family members, having done it through tears, I can guarantee you that my journey is nothing to jealous of as we are all going through variations of this at different times.

[mjalti]

Will you ever do a face reveal?

what would it add to your day to know what my face looks like?

my issue with a face reveal is that:

if people find me attractive, they'll listen to what I say bc they think im hot, not bc im right. and they'll try to blow smoke up your ass about things I might be wrong about instead of educating me and making me a better person.

if people find me ugly, they'll discredit what I say which sucks bc im right. if im wrong, people attack looks and it's an endless cycle of stupidity.