#relationships are hard

[cozybells]

I can't be that for you.

[chellodello]

I tried to make a comic about how even after getting together Zim will sometimes get so overwhelmed with paranoia that he’ll be betrayed that he destroys as much evidence of his existence in Dib’s life as possible. He doesn’t want to do this, but he can’t help it, it’s how he’s encoded. Irken’s aren’t designed for love, aren’t programed to accept peace. Sharks have to keep moving, to keep consuming, or they’ll die. Zim’s sort of like that.

Anyway here’s the only panels from that that I liked before I scrapped it.

[snorelaxxalt]

heyyy, js me asking for help

So hi everyone this is an alt, not using my main user because I have a story and I completely forgot I have the person I'm talking about in this added to my main sooooo here we go

Okay I got a long ass story for y'all but listen up because ughhhhhhhhhhhh I don't know how to deal with it, so I'm in love with a girl, obvs, she's so beautiful amazing, yada yada, quiet as all get out though. But like, yeah the whole package. So basically, like, i confessed to her not that long ago but got friendzoned in the most mixed signal way possible, like she said "youre so cool and i love hanging out with you but i dont think its romantic" then goes on to say "but like when im with you time genuilene oes by so much faster" and all that yada yada rii? but like, the signs are thereeee!!!!!! one time we were at a band preformance and we were hanging out, her siblings were there, blah blah. It was an intermission and the song "Locked out of Heaven" by Bruno Mars came on, so me being me i dance with her, singing the lyrics at her kinda as a joke, but then as were sitting there, her sister and step brother walk over and started chanting "Kiss!" at us, she then proceeded to turn bright red and subsequently vanished into the bathroom. Another time, post concert, i was saying bye to her, and she said byee in this happy tone, her sister asked who I was, so she said "A friend" then her sister did like a side eye and said in the most sarcastic teasing tone "Yeaaaah a frienddd..." before she turned bright red. I lowkey think her sister ships us tho. Anywho, uh, but I don't think I read the signals wrong I just don't know what to do bcz I cant get over her. help..?

im probs leaving shit out but you get the gist

[aikya-kat-44]

Y'know one thing I really hate about amatonormativity?

The way it prioritizes romantic relationships over all other kinds of relationships.

I should be able to feel happy for my best friends, who are dating each other, and also spend time with them and be besties with my bestie as well, but when my bestie starts ignoring me in favour of their girlfriend and the rest of all our other friends, it isn't my best friend's behaviour changing unexpectedly in a way that hurts my feelings, it's just what happens.

Yes of course my best friend would spend a lot of time with their girlfriend, but that doesn't mean that them neglecting their other relationships should be considered "fine" or "normal"

[briebdraw]

hey i know it’s been months since i posted anything to this account but i just got out of a rough relationship. ya wanna hear about it? :’)

[buffdyke]

it's hard mourning something you intentionally let go. it was bad for me and i'm better off now but, i'm still mourning it

[kelticangel]

It's okay to be unpracticed at having friends.

It's okay if it's scary to let people get to know the real you.

It's okay to be afraid of scaring your friends away.

There's no secret. It's just lots of practice. Relationships of every kind are a skill to practice and get better at as time goes on. Even baby steps are progress. Having friends isn't easy because sometimes you need to be real and vulnerable and many of us learned that it's not quite safe to Be. To Exist. And so letting ourselves Be around others is just a skill we didn't learn as kids.

We can do this. One day at a time.

[weaseldidnothingwrong]

been feeling like this lately tbh

[jam-in-e]

I miss you and I wish I knew why you went away.

[ultimateaclrecovery]

So I need to have a serious conversation with my boyfriend about how our relationship is going, and I’m not really sure what the end result will be. I’m not really looking to end things but things also can’t continue as they currently are.

The awkward parts of this the next time I will see him in person is valentines and the second awkward part is I still need to decide if I’m going to join him and then his family in Italy and then buy a flight if so. I don’t really want to have an intense conversation with a potential sad outcome on Valentine’s Day but I also kind of want to make sure we aren’t just going to instantly break up before I buy a flight. And I don’t want to wait to long on buying a flight in case prices go up. The flights from the USA would be fully refundable for a future flight credits but one leg of the trip is with an international airline (still Ike’s through the us one though) and flights not departing from the us would have change fees. If we talk and decide to keep going and then break up in couple months of making changes doesn’t work, I’ll just change my flights and go ride ponies in Portugal in October instead and if I pay some change fees such it goes. But I don’t want to buy a flight today and break up within the week.

But I also can’t fake anything so trying to wait until Friday or Saturday when we’d most likely see other again and just trying to enjoy the moment on valentines probably won’t work for me.

So then I’m left with either calling him today or tomorrow or just having a hard conversation on valentines. The current plan is to make heart shaped ravioli, so I’d feel like we’d probably do that and have dinner and maybe then talk.

It’s extra annoying because I fully fell for Instagram ads of the lingerie with the bow around the boobs and I wanted to wear that as a fun surprise. But that only works if the conversation is a good one.

I’ve been having some negative feelings for awhile but it took a little bit of self reflection to really sort out my own feelings and what I need and try to figure out what is my own insecurities and anxieties (that I need to work on for my own self) what things I do actually need from him to be happy in the relationship.

I also have a therapy consult scheduled for Wednesday (thru a work program that offers 8 free sessions). It it’s just a 15 min intake sort of thing vs an actual appointment. And that will take time to work thru.

But I actually feel very good about the steps I’m taking/planning to take even if the timing is terrible. And I have all my talking points laid out for what I need to remember to bring up (yes I made a detailed yes, and yes maybe that’s insane but I wanted to get my thoughts in order).

I had mentioned on Saturday morning that we should actually talk about things and we discussed what sort of setting we should have those talks in (I like to bring things up as we’re falling asleep because it’s quite and feels intimate but then he’s half asleep so that’s not great). So hopefully he doesn’t feel too blinded but I’m wondering if I should give him more of a heads or ask if it’d be okay to talk about some things then. Or if it that would just make it worse

[rotting-sun]

My chest is tight. I feel like my girlfriend doesn’t love me like she used to. I was going through our old texts and she seemed so much more. Like. I was actually her gf. Like i was HERS and she was MINE. Now i just. Don’t know. She barely txts me. She barely talks to me. It talks to our friends more than it talks to me. It confides in them more, it seems. WhT am I meant to do with that? How am i supposed to fix that? How do i get her to love me like that again?

She’s always so dry when I text her. She says she likes when I do. But. I know she doesn’t like hurting my feelings. So. Is she actually telling the truth? It doesn’t feel like it. It never feels like she’s telling the truth.

I just want to FEEL like she loves me. Like I’m her person. Like I’m supposed to be.

It hurts.

[ilivefordarcy]

HELP I FUCKING DID IT BUT DHE DOESNT UNDERSTAND BC I FUCKING JOKE WITH A SOMEWHAT FLIRTY WAY HELP I WANNA DIE

[siccbugg]

you are still learning how to be a person, stop being so hard on yourself

[feralunicorn426]

[shizukais]

Someone please save me from the embarassement of being myself ASKDSDAKFOHDFKOSHFISDDFIGASDFDKOSASDOFIYHSDJFUASFJDFIDJIFJIASDFSDFJIASSF GOD

[the-indigo-writes]

there are people who have hurt me more than they'll ever know, and often they are the same people that love me more than I'll ever understand