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[etirabys]

// this post is meanders a lot, and culminates in a rec for a New Yorker article that has object-level nothing to do with my starting point.

I know a lot of romantically lonely men, and my explanation for this is that they (1) are outliers on a distribution where their part of the tail end doesn't contain that many women (i.e. they have the kind of autism that makes you a programmer), (2) would be a lot happier dating women who are also in that part of the distribution.

(I am somewhat this exact guy who happens to be a Kinsey 1 female, and I think this is one of the luckiest spots you can be in vis a vis dating)

(If I were the same person I am but only attracted to women, I would give up on dating. I like dating very much, but I also think I could have a happy life being single, and the market skew would shred me psychologically.)

Since there are about as many women as there are men in the country (actually, there are more women!), it occurred to me today to ask what these men's counterpart is. Naively you'd expect it to be women who are on the tail end of a distribution that does not contain very many men. But distribution on what axis? The first guess my brain generated was "allosexual women who are so in fandom, whose sexuality is so fandom-y/textual, that they will find the sexuality of most men alien or disgusting". I certainly feel like most of my male partners' lack of interest in slow burn erotica is an impediment to our sexual compatibility, one I couldn't overcome if I didn't have physical/nontextual libido.

I wondered out loud about this to 81k, who said that Scott Alexander had asked the same question years ago and had come up with the answer of "low income black women, some women in very rural areas who can't move out, and maybe nurses". We couldn't find the post, but he pointed me at a New Yorker article about that first group.

https://web.archive.org/web/20230206160659/https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2003/08/18/the-marriage-cure

I liked it a lot.

[captainvulcant]

Just saw a post asking how tall people are and now I want to make it a poll. Apologies to people in the fringe height categories, you do not get specifics.

I had to consult a chart for this

*edit - the chart did not help, I'm shit at maths (see my reblog), if your height is not included please feel free to vote based on vibes alone into whichever category closest to your height feels right

[vesperosy]

selkie au counts for mermay.... riiiiight......

[glitchedlaika]

im curious . only count weddings that you like, remember. i went to one when i was 1 year old and that doesnt count

reblog for sample size etc etc etc

[flufflecat]

thinking about ford "human blood tastes better" pines

ford "i have been desiring blood more than usual" pines

stanford "was bitten by a fruit bat but still wrote the sentence 'i have been desiring blood more than usual'" pines

[mentally321]

coa.ana. r audrew What arappup, burrip., perhederato, Bea.alwivvip1 vo:

[unsettlingcreature]

(NO LONGER BOOPING EVERYONE WHO REBLOGS, THERE'S TOO MANY OF YOU)

[weirdgirlvampire]

If yes, tell me what it is in the tags!

[orfisheus]

A year later... can Tumblr bake a cake this time?

Choose, fools.

[elbiotipo]

I think that relying too much in LLMs can indeed harm your capacity for learning, in the same way that poor systems of learning (rote memorization, just copying whatever without thinking) can. Learning is a thing you need... to learn. Even LLMs can be a useful tool for learning as long as you have a good learning strategy.

That paper that says that AIs cause COGNITIVE ATROPHY is still unreviewd and smells so much of bullshit that I'm tearing up from here. Do not share it uncritically.

[galactic-glossolalia]

I've noticed at a lot of the social stuff I go to now, I'm one of the few there who doesn't drink, and I was reminded of the smoking poll. So now I'm curious.

(See below poll for some notes)

*"regularly" meaning you drink even when there's no occasion to motivate it. Basically, not just social drinking.

**If you've had alcohol before but don't drink anymore for any reason, choose no.

This is a ZERO JUDGMENT poll! Every answer is equally valid, and you DO NOT have to explain your answer if you don't want to!

[hinamie]

morning glory

[tumbler-polls]

Please, tag where you're from 🫶🏼

[certifiedfae]

saw a poll about dry/humid heat and like OBVIOUSLY everyone preferred dry heat but. would love to know what everyone considers to be “too hot”

me personally it’s a hard cutoff at 75°F. don’t need anything more than that thank you 🫶🫶🫶

[softwaring]