#so accommodating and kind

[lorelune]

"do you know what they write about us?" "plenty, i would assume. tell me what the tabloids say." "they say that the general has charmed a diviner." "hm, i would wager that it is you who has charmed me.”

i am so!!! SO!!! crying 😭🩷 beloved bitti @rabbbitseason truly actualized loreyuan :'^) this piece is apart of our little trade and i am so!! grateful!! to have the opportunity to work with them and receive such lovely art!! they were a dream to work with, truly. this piece turned out so damn lovely and i am STILL CRYING. now brb i need to stare and swoon over my wife some more 🩷

[idkaguyorsomething]

a support group for people with “unconventional” daemons. jeff with his flounder he has to carry everywhere in a huge tank. lois with her poison dart frog everyone is afraid to touch. sam with their elephant that’s the reason they can never go higher than two stories in most buildings.

[nyxi-pixie]

actually incredibly funny to me that ranpos entire thing centres on how his intelligence is not because of an ability or any other great thing, its just him. hes entirely, completely, inarguably human. and Yet, when it comes to dazai, so many people are Desperate that there just Has to be another explanation. his intelligence cant just be that hes unusual, no it must be a marker of separation, of difference so great it disallows the reality of his humanity.

[cruel-hiraeth]

part of jing yuan’s irresistible allure—in the bedroom, particularly—is how versatile he is. some may interpret his flexibility as boredom or laziness, both of which are far from the truth; in reality, he has simply sated the sexual curiosities of his youth, so is repertoire is vast. what he craves more than anything in the cosmos is intimacy and connection, which is exactly what you give him. and his open approach allows you room to explore your deepest desires without judgement—so long as you can clearly voice said desires (he is a scoundrel, after all).

[cloudinal]

Happy birthday to the Deep Rivers Society guy!

[decompose1]

dude it feels like every few months ill look away for a second and i look back and a bunch of friends and mutuals are suddenly obsessed with some new cop character/piece of cop media. it gets exhausting having to keep telling people i have trauma with police and having them go like "oh well its a fictional cop who's a lesbian" "oh well it's just a dog/rabbit/fox" "oh well-"DO YOU HEAR YOURSELVES!! IT'S STILL COPS! IT'S ALL COPS!! DO YOU THINK ACAB IS JUST A COOL THING TO SAY?? DID YOU IGNORE THE ACTUAL MEANING...?

[carlyraejepsans]

contacting a mental health professional is a somewhat controversial step forward in my personal journey because on one hand i am finally taking initiative in dealing with struggles I've had my entire life so i can hopefully change it for the better, on the other I'm like if I don't get a diagnosis i might as well just kill myself

[laikiirnodel]

I stumbled across a .gif today (I've seen it before but had new thoughts so you get to hear them) (For some reason it's not showing up in tumblr .gif search for proper embedding but here's a link if you want to watch it https://tenor.com/view/star-trek-tng-data-present-wrapping-gif-22331742)

It's a scene from Star Trek: TNG where Data is opening a gift. He and five other crew members stand around a table on which there are several other gifts, all still wrapped in shiny silver paper.

He is opening the gift in his hands gently and carefully, without ripping the paper. (This is the way I open presents.)

After an awkward moment of waiting, Wes informs Data that he is "supposed to rip the wrapping off". (This is the criticism I always receive when opening presents.)

Data explains that "with the application of a little care" it is possible to open it without tearing, allowing for reuse of the paper. At this point he has concluded the wrapping removal and places the gift under his arm to leave his hands free to fold the paper neatly. The others look either exasperated or amused.

Wes says he is missing the point. Data looks at him and tears the paper in two, down the middle.

Now. This is supposed to be a scene highlighting the inhuman-ness of Data and the arbitrary-ness of the human social rules and expectations. Obviously there is a clear parallel to neurodivergence here, as I'm sure we all are or know someone who does this.

And yet I still have trouble with the tearing at the end. I couldn't let that go. Yes, it's a waste of all that effort we just went to, and ruining a perfectly functional item, but there was something else bugging me and I couldn't (metaphorically) put my finger on it until just now. And I started thinking about solutions.

Data tears it because he has been informed that there is some arbitrary social rule he was unaware of, and that the others in the room desired the paper's destruction. Even though that seemed illogical, it must be a human thing and ripping it now should make everyone happy, I guess? But it's not satisfying. It doesn't hit the same notes as tearing paper off the gift itself. The process was already completed. The tearing was a second event, not part of the original unveiling.

And I realised that part of my personal issue with tearing the paper, aside from the aforementioned logical reasons, is that it's a sensory issue. I don't like the sound in my ears, I don't like feeling the sensation in my fingers, and as a kid who read thousands of library books, there is a near-moral aversion to the tearing of paper of any kind, because it feels like destroying a book, which is of course unforgivable.

I've done paper-distressing for art projects and such. Distressing [action - synonym "weathering"] is distressing [feeling - synonym "anxiety-causing"]. I can get over it in that context because it's earmarked (oh, yeah, also earmarking aaaaaaaaaaah) for destruction. Post-apocalyptic costuming is supposed to look weathered and torn. Repaired, at the very least. The scroll sitting in a damp cave for years is gonna have rotted edges and funny spots, if it's even still intact enough to call a scroll. They're supposed to be that way. If they were pretty and nice and perfect it wouldn't be right.

The distressing [action] principle doesn't apply to gifts. Gifts are supposed to be nice. When someone gives you a present, it's in nice paper, it's supposed to be pretty. People look down on gifts wrapped "poorly" or in the 'wrong' substance. (This should also be changed btw. Presents you got in a plastic bag are just as good as presents in gold foil. Crumply brown paper with awkward tape or string has revealed some of my very favorite gifts. Thoughtful homemade stuff is awesome. Things received without wrapping at all are still gifts. I'm ranting but you get the idea.) [Also some cultures like wrapping gifts in, say, a useful cloth, such that it's actually two gifts in one. So you get an awesome handkerchief or scarf or whatever too, and that's fantastic, I love that. This post is just talking about the paper ones]

So.

I have physical and mental aversions to tearing paper. When I get a gift, I want to open it gently and carefully and have the wrapping set aside in one piece. (or however many it started with). This takes time, but gives a pleasing result. That is satisfying to me.

Other people, when they get a gift, want to tear up the outside to get to the inside. I theorize that this is some sort of latent hunting instinct, but I digress. It's fast, it doesn't require careful thought, and there must be some level of catharsis in socially-acceptable destruction, maybe even in seeing the pile of shredded remains afterwards? (let me know if you're in this group, what you find pleasing about it! I'm really curious!) Destroying the covering is satisfying to them. The latter group tends to get annoyed at how long it takes for me to unwrap things, and feel unsatisfied with the result, whether or not the present inside was cool or not. Sometimes a person has even taken the present away from me, torn off the wrapping, and then handed it back. Which, Um. I did want to open my own present actually. That was really rude. It's not yours. Especially since they didn't ask first. I've even heard people complain about gift bags (the common response in these situations, as gift bags are not destroyed in the process of revealing their contents, are usually reusable so long as the tag is swapped out, etc.) for being "too easy" or "boring".

Is there a good compromise?

Today, I thought: What if it was a two-part opening? Like, a gift bag with something rip-able to play with, or a wrapped gift with a concealing sleeve or hiding it under the table from myself or something?

So I could unwrap the gift itself, in a way that's satisfying to me, perhaps a little ahead of time so people don't get bored. And then I would hand someone else the rip-able thing and plug my ears. Everyone who wants to, gets to experience the shredding event, and then we do the big reveal! I can open the concealing sleeve or pull it out from under the table or whatever, and everyone gets to have the fun surprise of the actual present all at once!

This way, I would get to have my ritual, and protect myself from the distressing bit. Others would get the catharsis of destruction. All of us would get the exciting surprise at the end.

Do you think this would be fun? Would it hit all the fun/satisfying points for you?

Have you or someone you know done a setup like this before? How did it go? Were there any unexpected problems that came up, or surprising benefits?

Did I say something here that you never realised before that now you have to think about or do something different?

[officialjimmybuffett]

babys first scientific journal submission

[megarhyssa-sp]

So I added Steve and Susan to my tomagachi game (hopefully this is okay? Sorry!) , and well put them in the compatibility rating thingy andddd

TOMODACHI LIFE??? YO WHAAAAT

[unopenablebox]

i admit that i find it a little bit frustrating how Wildly Astonished other antizionist jews act when i tell them my israeli jewish family have lived in the region since [some unknown length of time before 1800 when there start being records about it]

[nemesis-is-my-middle-name]

prayers and energy channeling and whatever else is in that category of thing in my inbox for tomorrow. or blorbo posting. i'd take either honestly

[thenexusofsouls]

{i am the caretaker of souls} Not me considering adding Aeryn Sun from Farscape as a muse on here. Someone please stop me, I have a problem. XD

[mieczyhale]

so i've been a big fan of this podcast for many years ("And That's Why We Drink"), i'm on their patreon, i run an out of context blog of it, i saw them live last year, i really love them

but i'm having a very hard time getting back into listening to them, and it's not their fault but... like... kinda maybe??

so here's the context::

you can comment on episodes (with a character limit) and people can react to your comment. because that's what we all needed right?? (that is sarcasm)

i don't typically comment, and when i have it's positive, but i was bothered by something in an episode and left a comment. i'm putting the comment & the reaction under a read more so it doesn't take up dash space

spotify notified me about two months ago that people were interacting with my comment btw, otherwise i never would've known about this. i've been sitting on this screenshot that whole time because honestly.. i'm kinda hurt and really bothered by it?? and the thought of listening to them again has been really unappealing

idk, y'all. hummus. thoughts?? i could really use some of that tumblr approach to life

[tohruies]

goob timezone party people! 💃🕺 i offer you warm drink of your choice. and also this *pastes a sticker of your comfort character to the back of your hand* ♡

[redladydeath]

If RAM!Vox ever did get a chance to flip a switch and suddenly fully recover, he'd be deeply angry at the hotel residents for being so kind to him. Dehumanization and distancing is the name of the game in Hell, and that becomes so much harder to do when someone has extended you deep, unselfish compassion, expecting nothing in return. It goes against everything he (and most other sinners if we're being honest) has come to believe about "life" for the past 70 years, and instead of reckoning with that contradiction, he'd rather just get angry at them for making him think about it at all.