#this is not a situation that needs blame

[muttsandmustelidae]

i feel like the way ‘dogtok’/‘dogstagram’ talks about reactivity makes reactive dog owners feel a lot more ashamed than they ought to

[lookstairs]

I think one of the most realistic parts about Baby Reindeer (2024) is how much Donny downplays the abuse he faces

I know everyone wants to hate on him for being “stupid” and blame him for everything that happened because yes from an outsiders perspective he made questionable choices but isn’t that what HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE DO?

I know so many people who’ve “played nice” or tried to downplay abusive behavior. You try and tell yourself “It wasn’t that bad”, or that it was just some crazy experience that should be forgotten. It seems so much easier to stay silent and just try to move on.

You don’t wanna start problems

You don’t wanna be mean

You don’t wanna be the bad guy

[aerithisms]

one thing i do think people really need to pull the haterism brakes on is saying it's an insult that ncuti's era is so short. ncuti chose to leave of his own volition. i think this was a completely understandable choice given the contractual limbo the show is in and i don't blame him at all but he was not by any means pushed out the door or written out when he didn't want to be. for all the things it's fair to slate rtd for this is actually not among them.

[an-urgent-appeal]

genuinely baffled by how some people see homura as evil. how on earth do you watch rebellion and come to that conclusion

[thefloatingwriter]

if i had a nickel for every time beetee should have warned a boy from the seam about the consequences of his actions while the fandom bends over backwards to justify it, i would have two nickels. which isn’t a lot but it’s weird that it happened twice.

[starbuck]

sometimes there are situations where it is equally strange to blame a character for something OR to act like they were just a helpless victim. my kingdom for a nuanced take.

[chaika-jpeg-shitpost]

Joseph, just like Chika, had someone weak and helpless in his care. However, when the threat of death from starvation drove him into a corner, he refused to abandon the one he promised to protect. Unlike Chika

[thesummerstorms]

The other thing that I think I would want in an Annabeth Wayne AU that I don't think I've seen so far is Bruce being absolutely pissed at Athena.

It was bad enough with Talia and Damian, but Athena is a literal god of wisdom who should know better AND he doesn't even have the "culpability" of having slept with her.

She one hundred percent saw Batman, tactician of the Justice League, was drawn in by her aspect of the Goddess of Strategy, and proceeded to create a child without his consent, a daughter who she didn't even raise before the child became a weapon.

And like whatever else, however fucked up Damian was by his own training to become a child-weapon, at least Talia loved Damian.

Whereas Athena loves Annabeth in the way a Goddess loves, not the way a Person loves, and I don't think Bruce, whose entire identity is so fixated on his relationship with his own parents, would recognize that as love at all.

And, like, Talia put Damian through a lot of shit. I think Bruce would be angry there too. But when push came to shove, she at least at some point brought him to Bruce because she thought it was in her son's best interests.

Athena actively lead Annabeth away from Bruce and into the streets at the age of seven, which Bruce would never see as in her best interest, whatever Athena's godly perspective is, however badly he reacted after Jason's death, even though he couldn't see (and dismissed the idea of) the spiders and the monsters. She was seven. In the streets of Gotham.

Athena let Annabeth fight a major role in two wars back to back without being there to train her or protect her or love her or even advise her. Athena advocated for the cold blooded murder of the other children who had actually tried to keep his daughter safe. Athena sent Annabeth against Arachne when Athena's children have universally died on that quest for a thousand years.

Athena let Bruce think he had gotten Annabeth killed because of his own inability to handle his grief. Let him think his daughter was dead or worse for years. Would have let him keep thinking that if the Fates didn't have other plans.

And just, in true fashion for all of my ideas on a PJO x DC crossover, everyone really comes out more traumatized than before. This includes Bruce.

Because now he wasn't just used unknowingly for a child just once, but twice. And in both cases he's going to have to live forever with the guilt of not having been able to protect his kids from what their other parent wanted to make of them

(On top of all the ways he has directly failed them and made any complexes worse, of course )

[theroguequeen]

some people are saying that daemon loved younger rhaenyra more and that's why it's her younger version he sees in harrenhal and even so it's obvious younger rhaenyra has a special place in his heart that but does not mean he loves older rhaenyra less. I think what's hard for him is that younger rhaenyra adored and idolized him and older rhaenyra still loves him so deeply but is no longer worshipping every step he takes especially in the situation they are in now. She still desires him, she still wants him but as she said herself and made clear before she can no longer wait for him even if it means that he is not at her side. It hurts her and she is still waiting for him to return but she is tired of chasing him just for him to slip through her fingers again. And deep down daemon always knew that he put her through a lot. Younger rhaenyra was always craving his presence and everytime she thought that maybe this time he would stay he was gone all over again. Younger rhaenyra was going absolutely crazy about him and idolizing him made it easier for her to deal with him being gone while she was already aware that the way he treated her was not okay. Now it's not enough to bring her gifts and to take her on a adventure, she needs to feel secure. And relationship go to different phases that does not mean you love someone less but in a different way, more solid. I think they both still share those moments of being high by each other's touch and feeling the rush, the desire is still there but right now it's not the time for it (even so they deserve a kiss and make up sex) and can we please all remember how this man was touching her face and looking at her in the fight scene like did that man look like he was not craving her touch?? He is there in harrenhal and out of his mind because he simply can not deal with what she said. This man fucking dies for her. Like he is still so crazy in love with her and I think if we got more scenes of them being married and happy at dragonstone maybe more people would realize that. And I really hope after this whole visiting alicent we get to see rhaenyra being allowed to feel her rage.

[coldabest]

Look at the look in her eyes, just..dude, this poor girl is not taking showers normally anymore, she probably has to check consistently for anyone in the bathroom. Like genuinely people probably have to knock every single time, regardless of who it is, just so Cait doesn't get fucking jumpscared. I feel like even if she got over it knowing Jinx isn't there anymore (traveled or died, whichever one you guys believe, but I personally believed she traveled somewhere), just like the idea that someone has the ability to get into the bathroom. Knowing that even with all the guards that surround piltover, there's a legitimate way to get into her bathroom. Like that is downright nightmare fuel. That is some shit that would make me personally cry myself to sleep. And just the implication I see in the show and the fandom, the fact that it was her mother's death that sent her over the edge and NOT the part where she literally got kidnapped naked??? Insane. Absolutely insane. I honestly don't know how all that other stuff didn't send her over the edge. Like you mean to tell me that if Jinx didn't shoot at the council, that Cait would just go back to her life being paranoid?? No anger?? Just fear?? Like that's just....idk, thinking about it just kills me. And also in most scenes after, looking in her eyes. Not only do I see the anger and sadness from the grief of her mother's death, but also fear. This girl was taken out of the shower, could've been shot if Vi didn't literally have a heart of gold, attempted to hold a gun to Jinx AND GETS KNOCKED TF DOWN, and then watches Jinx shoot at the council, knowing her mother is in that room.

Like, good grief. I love Jinx, but damn girl chill out with the terrorism at least a bit. 😭

[syrusinthedust]

Crack Au in which Sadnesses stay after the King’s Defeat, and one attacks the Mailman delivering the letters from the Party to Pétronille, causing all but one to be destroyed, and the surviving one to get damaged and become mostly unreadable.

So after the Mailman is saved, Pétronille gets a damaged letter from someone named “Madame” who has her sibling and is coming by in about 3 weeks.

Pétronille, not having any other context, assumes that this is a ransom note and spends the next three weeks trying her best to figure out what Madame wants and get as much money as she can to try to appease the person (mob boss? Mafia? Criminal Mastermind?) that kidnapped her sibling.

Edit: Pronoun Check. Thank you guys!

[ofbreathandflame-archive]

Elain stans have such a weird relationship with Nuala and Cerridwen and I genuinely can't tell if they just choose not to look at the optics of that dynamic or what...

[arsenicflame]

i think the reason izzy can be so blasé about his relationship with ed is not because hes taken to blaming a shark instead, but because hes actually already done a lot of the processing in the previous episode.

hes mourned his leg, hes had his drunk crying rants. hes gone through the five stages of grief. and then? the crew reaches out to him, offers him their support. they make him a new leg, they nominate him their new figurehead. when he stands there on the prow of the ship, leg on, letter in hand, thats his acceptance, thats his moving on.

[macbcth]

im so cooked i may have to write my entire honours thesis in 24 hours because my professor fucked up the timeline

[countlessofvoids]

Haha Chief don't kys

[cementcornfield]

this fucking dude.