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Oh man, they hit all the right buttons. I think they are trying to communicate, chat. Woah!

I just know that I'm going to get flak for this, but it's an uncomfortable truth that needs to be addressed.

The DID community on Tumblr is made up of attention seeking white women, there, someone finally said it.

Why is it that seemingly the vast majority of people posting about their systems or about their cutsie uwu plurality ALWAYS end up being white queer women (or non binary AFAB) and they all seem to be under the age of 24.

Seriously, why?

My personal best guess is just like the rest of the cohort of white women, there's a need, a literal pull to feel like they are part of a marginalized group. And being a women and being queer no longer feels "marginalized" enough, you have to take it to a new vector.

And just to be clear, as someone who has real life experience with folks with DID, none of y'all have it, literally zero. All the people I know in real life with DID are long term unemployed, unhoused, in active addiction, or dead, with tgat also tragically being the trajectory most of them are on. DID is no cutsie uwu, it's not having 300 alters, and no, being bullied in school does not constitue trauma on the scale needed for DID to occur. (Looking at you endos)

And here's the thing, y'all can just roleplay. Just roleplay, just have fun characters and OP that you do fun shit with, that's completely fine, people have been doing that forever online, you're good. But wrapping yourself and your roleplay fun inside of, and I can't make this clear enough, FAKING AN EXTREMELY SERIOUS MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE, is despicable, shameful, and ableist.

I know I'm going to get called a bunch of names, I know I'll get blocks, I know I'll get flamed for people saying I'm a troll or just being hateful, but I'm not. This is objectively true and no amount of essay replies will change the reality that the rest of the world can see plain as day.

So sit with this, seriously, sit with this and feel, have true radical empathy for your fellow human beings who are going through so much in life and admit that you're faking it.

And just for a kicker, I'm going to donate $20 to my local women's shelter for every death threat, rude reply, or unhinged take. So do your worst, my conscious is clean and my money will go towards helping people in need, which is more than most of you can say.

P.s. I am not white and not a women, so check yourself before you misgender me or fake claim that I'm some MAGA troll, I am not.

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I wrote an entire book of triggered rambling, I'm not going to post it, but, here I am with a much more simple post and point

Please don't forget that introjecting others can be a tool of abuse and, speaking from experience on both sides of the fence, is often the result of a toxic relationship

Please just keep this in mind when you're making sweeping generalizations about whether you NEED to tell the person and whether it's a good or bad thing

It's neither, it's not good or bad, it's not black or white, it's not healthy or unhealthy, it can be a compliment and a sign of an unhealthy attachment, and it may be appropriate to tell some people and inappropriate to tell others

Telling and/or being told is not a need

It's circumstantial and nuanced

But please keep the dangers in mind when discussing this, it's a huge part of the reason we kept going back to our abuser and how our abuser kept a hold on us for so long

I actually can't count on one hand how many times I've been in a situation where this-- either introjecting someone or someone introjecting us, has caused us incredible amounts of trauma, including brushing against the concept of abuse and system hopping in my early twenties (I actually wrote about this experience once)

I can't tell you what it feels like to be trying to set a boundary and have someone reply, "you're making x/yourself cry, why are you doing this, this isn't you, this isn't what you want", and hell, I have so little concept of my own wants and needs that I'll just nod along, or to have an introject that whispers in your ear that you should go back because you overreacted and the person definitely wouldn't do it again, of course they know that for sure

No post has addressed this aspect yet, so... just a polite reminder to consider it

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Second side note

On my blog, I believe that all systems are inherently dissociative. Dissociation is not pathological in of itself, and I feel like, to have other autonomous agents within one body/consciousness/lived experience, there must be at least some dissociation.

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Again, I am pretty sure you are looking at a mirror. You certainly haven't been empathetic in any way from your first post to this one. You wouldn't be able to understand me because I do not think you have the ability to step out of your own shoes first. Hard to walk in someone else's shoes when you refuse to leave your own outdated opinions behind.

There is no sense in what I am doing because there is no sense in what you are doing. You are trolling and I am trolling back. It's great fun! Thanks again. :)

So why is it worthy of a block to ask someone when they got diagnosed with a mental health condition?

That's literally one of the questions that comes up in person in these spheres all the time.

Is it possible, incredibly likely even, that the vast majority of people on Tumblr who claim to have DID are self diagnosised and haven't ever seen a mental health professional for a diagnosis?

It is possible, and indeed it is the case that everyone you see who claims to have DID on Tumblr infact does not have it.

Disagree? DM me a redacted copy of your diagnosis. Send me literally one shred of evidence that someone with anime/cartoon based alters has been vetted by a medical professional.

I'll wait.

Y'all are ableist for pretending to have DID and should be absolutely ashamed of yourself.

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One, great rhyme. Maybe you should focus on writing instead of the comedian act you have going on here.

Two, yeah, there's a lot wrong with everyone so that is not a surprise or an insult?

Whatever your reason for coming on here and trying to stir up trouble, I hope you have a good weekend. You deserve it after all these free laughs you have handed out.

So why is it worthy of a block to ask someone when they got diagnosed with a mental health condition?

That's literally one of the questions that comes up in person in these spheres all the time.

Is it possible, incredibly likely even, that the vast majority of people on Tumblr who claim to have DID are self diagnosised and haven't ever seen a mental health professional for a diagnosis?

It is possible, and indeed it is the case that everyone you see who claims to have DID on Tumblr infact does not have it.

Disagree? DM me a redacted copy of your diagnosis. Send me literally one shred of evidence that someone with anime/cartoon based alters has been vetted by a medical professional.

I'll wait.

Y'all are ableist for pretending to have DID and should be absolutely ashamed of yourself.

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Welcome to system tumblr! I know it's super overwhelming coming over from a reddit cringe thread where you guys are used to posting screenshots and laughing at everyone without backlash. But here on sysblr we actually educate and share information with each other and look to kick these outdated, ableist, harmful statements to the curb! I know learning something new can be super overwhelming. But I promise with time you'll learn how to properly interact with systems. You got this bud, I believe in you.

So why is it worthy of a block to ask someone when they got diagnosed with a mental health condition?

That's literally one of the questions that comes up in person in these spheres all the time.

Is it possible, incredibly likely even, that the vast majority of people on Tumblr who claim to have DID are self diagnosised and haven't ever seen a mental health professional for a diagnosis?

It is possible, and indeed it is the case that everyone you see who claims to have DID on Tumblr infact does not have it.

Disagree? DM me a redacted copy of your diagnosis. Send me literally one shred of evidence that someone with anime/cartoon based alters has been vetted by a medical professional.

I'll wait.

Y'all are ableist for pretending to have DID and should be absolutely ashamed of yourself.

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"The shear amount of privilege and ableism that this person exhibits is crazy. STAY AWAY FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY."

You, uh, talking to yourself in a mirror buddy? Because you just described yourself, bud.

So why is it worthy of a block to ask someone when they got diagnosed with a mental health condition?

That's literally one of the questions that comes up in person in these spheres all the time.

Is it possible, incredibly likely even, that the vast majority of people on Tumblr who claim to have DID are self diagnosised and haven't ever seen a mental health professional for a diagnosis?

It is possible, and indeed it is the case that everyone you see who claims to have DID on Tumblr infact does not have it.

Disagree? DM me a redacted copy of your diagnosis. Send me literally one shred of evidence that someone with anime/cartoon based alters has been vetted by a medical professional.

I'll wait.

Y'all are ableist for pretending to have DID and should be absolutely ashamed of yourself.

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A kind reminder that introjecting characters from different media is very normal. You have to remember the generations you are interacting with. Older systems main form of entertainment or escapism may have been books. For many now it is digital media. There is no difference. Introjection of fictional characters is well documented at this point. To say having an introject from anime or another type of cartoon makes someone fake is showing a huge gap in your understanding of CDDs, coping, and even neurodivergancy.

So why is it worthy of a block to ask someone when they got diagnosed with a mental health condition?

That's literally one of the questions that comes up in person in these spheres all the time.

Is it possible, incredibly likely even, that the vast majority of people on Tumblr who claim to have DID are self diagnosised and haven't ever seen a mental health professional for a diagnosis?

It is possible, and indeed it is the case that everyone you see who claims to have DID on Tumblr infact does not have it.

Disagree? DM me a redacted copy of your diagnosis. Send me literally one shred of evidence that someone with anime/cartoon based alters has been vetted by a medical professional.

I'll wait.

Y'all are ableist for pretending to have DID and should be absolutely ashamed of yourself.

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Just misc. thoughts on interjection real fast, since syscourse is apparently being weird about it.

Seeing how factives get treated makes me glad I don’t have any, and scared about the idea of ever splitting any. Which seems like a bad thing. Like. Can we maybe make a culture where parts are accepted? Please?

I’m begging sysblr to remember that interjection is incredibly normal. It’s a normal part of life. Singlets do it too. It isn’t weird for a singlet to “introject” those around them; the only reason it’s “different” in systemhood is due to the dissociative barriers. Those who say it’s weird for an introject of a real person to exist — do you also feel uncomfortable if a friend goes, “I really admire you so I’ve started changing my behavior to be more (aspects I admire), and it’s made my life a lot better”?

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I wouldn't've pulled through without you

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I didn't get the chance to say this on my other post.

Knowing the differences that commonly exist between CDDs and Endogenic systems is important! There are always exceptions and nuances of course, and nothing is ever "this way all the time every time". But, seeing the differences we all have is useful and can help individuals as they try and figure themselves out.

But, I'm also tired of seeing people argue and push those differences. They only ever focus on what separates us. It is always "they aren't like us" and never "same hat!".

I want to see more of how we are the same. What do we share that brings us together, not apart?

I want connection and understanding, not separation and hatred.

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i think one thing that could help with syscourse is learning what a squick is!

a squick is when something disgusts or repulses you.

it doesn't necessarily mean that it's wrong, it just squicks you out.

various types of plurality could squick you out. headmate packs could squick you out. certain syscourse stances could squick you out. and so on and so forth.

it's not really a judgement of morality or correctness, a squick is just a squick.

hope this helps!

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I am exhausted. I get it, people want a distinction between CDDs and endogenic plurality. Okay, cool. But at some point, you have to realize and accept that there ARE some similarities and because of those similarities terms will be shared. If you want distinction then add a prefix. Descriptors aren't the end of the world.

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To elaborate on the point of "syscoursers stop throwing psychotics under the bus by throwing our symptoms at people you disagree with"

Stop equating other's syscourse stances with being delusional

Stop equating the way someone views their system (ex: origin labels, parts vs. people preferences) with being delusional

Stop equating the way someone views an aspect of their system (ex: seeing certain alters/headmates as intentionally created, introjects being source connected) with being delusional

The stance someone takes in discourse does not mean they are experiencing delusions. The way a person views and labels their own experiences does not mean they are experiencing delusions.

Even if you do not believe they are right or believe what they say they experience is possible, that does not automatically mean everyone in the category you disagree with has delusions.

When you throw around being "delusional" at people you disagree with, it shows those who actually experience psychosis that you think it is okay to use our actual symptom as a way to dismiss others, or even, depending on how you use it towards those you disagree with, that you think it is okay to use it as an insult. It is ableist.

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"nothing is real atoms never touch each other youve never touched anything in your life" ok. well when i pet my dog he is soft and when he licks my hand it is wet and that is far more real to me than whatevers going on at an atomic level

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Drawing, I think. Sometimes its video games. Weirdly also sometimes its cleaning. We each get enjoyment from different things. Ashe likes to be busy, doing something or making something. Kit likes to create things. Holo enjoys video games. We each have our own thing, but usually it involves actively doing something.

Syscourse Break!

Happy Wednesday, everyone! I hope you're all having a good time of it. My partner just went off for therapy, so I'm alone for the next little bit. Gotta figure out what I want to do with this time!

Here's my question for you: What's your favorite way to spend alone time? For me, it's probably video games, but I also enjoy writing and cooking both.

Stay cool out there folks!

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Gaining its strength from the moon’s rays, this loyal pokemon is the perfect companion for quiet night walks and stargazing.