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Hi! i hope it's okay to messages you about this. your posts about concrit have been so encouraging and helpful! Today i was talking to someone who isn't active in fandom much, but she read this really nice fic and asked me about commenting, and she said that obviously she wouldn't be mean but concrit is okay right? so i told her that unless the author asked for it, she shouldn't, and she didn't understand why, so i tried to explain it with that "you've brought cookies to work" thing, and she said that actually, she would want people to tell her if there was something she could do better, because otherwise she would make the same cookies again next time and people would have the same critique and not enjoy them, so no one gained anything. and it's great that she would want the concrit, but she shouldn't assume that others do. and then she said she thinks people who won't accept criticism have a weak character, and why wouldn't they want to improve, and she won't comment on the fic at all now. and i guess that's better than leaving concrit, but that was still so frustrating. i sent her some of your posts, but i don't think she got it, unfortunately. anyway, thanks for listening!

Hi! It's perfectly fine to message me about this 💜

Unfortunately sometimes people are just not at a place of development where they can put themselves into anyone else's shoes. "I would want this so everyone else must too" is a very narrow scope of vision and learning to think "I would want this, but I should not assume everyone does and should ask them to make sure" instead can take a lot of effort. Some people are willing to put in that effort, some aren't. You can try to teach them, but ultimately it's on their shoulders so don't beat yourself up about it if they don't want to hear it.

I've come to prefer the "taking a walk" analogy over the potluck one. It goes like this: If I'm out taking a pleasure stroll with some friends and a stranger comes up and starts critiquing how I walk or why, I'm not going to feel particularly charitable toward them. Someone coming up to me to explain how I need to walk in order to run in marathons isn't going to do anything but annoy me, because the point of taking a pleasure stroll with friends isn't to run a marathon. It's to hang out with my friends doing something we both like for our own reasons, as a fun social activity. It could be the best advice in the world, but it's the wrong context in which to provide it, so it doesn't matter. It's worthless because the person giving advice obviously doesn't understand anything about my motivations or goals and didn't even bother to ask if I wanted help in the first place; all they're concerned about is making sure they look smart.

The other thing that's important to both analogies is the idea of just... Basic manners involving consent. Your friend would want to be told, but if you want to reopen the dialogue, ask her which is better: someone at a potluck coming up unprompted to say "your cookies have too much salt," or someone coming up and saying "hey, you baked the cookies right? Do you mind if I give you some advice for next time?" and then respecting the answer. She also has the option of saying "hey, I made the cookies, does anyone have any pointers for next time?" which allows her to consent up front.

Anyway, I'm sure I'm not the only one who appreciates you attempting to educate your friend on common fandom manners. I hope she learns better in a gentle way.

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you can differentiate me from weevilwizard via subtle variations in our proboscis

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@littleeagle16

Congratulations, you just made a person who generally does not get angry... very angry.

This is my least favorite counterargument in all of the anti-vax bullshit.

"It's okay if old people die."

Which you cannot say without also throwing disabled people under the bus. Because they have the exact same vulnerabilities and risk factors.

Which means you prioritize your "vaccine freedom" over some 8 year old with leukemia who had a good prognosis before COVID.

Both my mom and that 8 year old had the potential to survive.

My mom was getting treated for psoriatic arthritis and the treatment weakened her immune system. But she was not terminal. She was not critically ill. She still had years left in her lifespan.

But because she didn't want to suffer the pain of her arthritis on a constant basis, she had to die?

Does that sum up your belief?

Let's address some other ways you are wrong.

The mRNA vaccine platform wasn't new or experimental.

Scientists have been developing mRNA delivery systems since the 1990s, and by the 2010s, they had already tested mRNA vaccines in humans for Zika, rabies, and cancer therapies.

On top of that, COVID-19 is caused by a coronavirus (SARS-CoV-2) and researchers had already been working on vaccines for SARS-CoV-1 and MERS (two related coronaviruses) since the early 2000s.

That head start gave them a huge advantage.

So, no, this wasn’t a rushed “experiment.”

It was the culmination of decades of research, accelerated by a global crisis and tested in massive, well-run trials.

Calling it “experimental” is just a lazy excuse for ignoring science and pretending the deaths of the elderly and immunocompromised were acceptable losses.

No medicine in history is 100% safe. That is an impossible standard and expectation. But this vaccine turned out to be one of the safest we've ever created.

Tylenol is more dangerous. Knee surgery is more dangerous. Eating food is more dangerous. Driving a fucking car is more dangerous.

Over 13 billion COVID vaccine doses have been safely given worldwide. Serious side effects are extremely rare. The deaths linked to them were so rare that they got lost in the noise of the data. It's a number so small inside a sample so huge that statistical mathematics cannot reliably estimate how tiny the number is. It is likely a fraction of a percent of a percent.

Unlike the millions lost to the virus itself.

COVID vaccines weren’t just effective, they were lifesaving. Globally, they likely prevented 14–20 million deaths in the first year alone.

In the US, around 3 million deaths and 18.5 million hospitalizations were prevented.

If this was a “dangerous experiment,” it might be the most successful one in human history.

You are promoting a ghoulish, dehumanizing belief that the deaths of the vulnerable are just the cost of your personal comfort. You are disrespecting the grief of hundreds of thousands of people who should still have their loved ones alive and well.

"Bury your olds."

Fuck you.

Fuck your fake sympathy.

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i have made like 57 reddit throwaway accounts in my life because my only use for reddit is to login once a year to pose niche questions to a sub i assume is compromised of mostly autistic dads desperate to impart their knowledge upon anyone who will listen. when i got my first fisheries job the equipment list my boss sent me just said “knife.” i emailed back asking what kind of knife and he replied “any knife.” i got on reddit and went to some sub about fish and i said “i got a hatchery job in alaska. what knife do i need for multipurpose use. a knife that does it all.” one guy responded in ten minutes breaking down everything about knives & salmon work. gave me a better idea of my job than the interview did. then he recommended a single knife and like twenty other people replied after him “this is the correct knife. no notes.”

bought it. pretty good knife, no notes.

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some people are going mad trying to find god in the statistical average of everything everyone's ever said. but i'm eating gumbo at crab 99

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"Batman is so unrealistic, why does he have shark repellent spray haha--" maybe he just has a canister of a substance on his belt that's so strong, it's banned in several countries and as it turns out, sharks don't like getting face-blasted with the marine equivalent of bear spray on steroids any more than humans do. you're telling me Batman is carrying a single-use item like that on his belt? Heck no. He's using that shit on sharks, on people, on random aliens who try to grab him during JL negotiations, and anyone else he thinks it'll work on. He even used it on himself once to get Joker gas out of his eyes and respiratory system. Superman is never 100% sure if he should say something about it to him or not. The Robins/Ex-Robins like to play Russian Roulette with Bruce's used-up canisters when they're bored. But yes -- it does work on sharks. He modified the nozzle so it can be used underwater.

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how did you know you were transmasc?

For the first few decades of my life, I didn't. I grew up thinking that nobody actually wants to be a girl, that it's just a sorry fate that gets handed to you and you just have to suck it up and endure it, and that everyone else is just better at it than I am. The fact that I was raised to think that all life is supposed to be like that didn't help.

When I first learned that trans men are even a thing at all (I was 12 or 13 and it was like 2006), my first thought was that it must be a very well-guarded secret, because if it was common knowledge that you can do that, the female population of the world would just collapse when 90% of women given the option to quit being one would simply quit. I didn't think I was trans because I was under the impression that all trans people have just Always Known about wishing they were the other gender. But I thought that I could trick the system into letting me transition anyway.

Ironically, the medical system of Finland at the time was under the same false assumptions as I was back then, and by lying exactly what they wanted to hear, I got the diagnosis much easier than I would have if I had been honest with my feelings. I got turned down the first time due to them deeming that I didn't want it bad enough - I had miscalculated, assuming that they'd flag me for acting too desperate to transition, but evidently I didn't act desperate enough.

So in conclusion, it wasn't about knowing for sure what I am, but knowing for sure what I wanted. I just skipped the "what if I'm not trans for real" step altogether, and went straight into "what do I need to trick these people into letting me transition anyway?"

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"Okay, I support your transition, but did you have to choose such a BASIC whiteboy name-" That's transphobic btw. You're not funny, you're making your trans friend feel unwelcome.

"I support your gender, but I don't support you calling yourself GERTRUDE-" Transphobic. And just assholish. You're a bad friend/family member/coworker/whatever to this person if you say that.

"It's fine if you're nonbinary, but that does NOT mean you have to make your name fucking SOCKS-" Surprise surprise, it's transphobic even when you think they're weird! I shouldn't have had to tell you that.

No, it doesn't mean that you don't support transgender people as a whole. You likely aren't a transphobic person. But yes, it's a transphobic action.

Someone is expressing a part of themselves to you and being vulnerable. For many trans people, their name is closely tied to their identity and gender. So, yeah, being weird about a trans person's name isn't cutesy and funny, you're a fucking dick. Like that's also mean to do to a cis person with a weird name wtf? Don't be mean? It's literally so easy

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Imagine sending your kid away to a boarding school, and the guy that has been developing a father/son relationship with him (which may be one of the reason you are sending your kid away) sends his butler to be your son's VALET at his school. Personally, I would lose my mind. Is he trying to prove something to you??? Is he actually competing for your child's affection like divirced parents??? Your son is probably the only one at his school to have a valet, he is giving your son the prince treatment. WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO DO?!?!

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sometimes when im drawing at night and its going bad i go to bed and doodle cass doing random shit at 2 in the morning just to feel alive. anyway i digitalized some of those. first one is cass sneaking into babs' kitchen to steal leftovers second one is cass wolfdog propaganda third one is self explanatory

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SLOBOANITA🗣️🗣️

i love them sm (this song for some reason associate with them for me)

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timbartkon where tim always looks like he's been beaten within an inch of his life because he's covered in hickies, love bites and scratches

meanwhile bart and kon are completely unscathed because of how fast their bodies recover

tim has definitely had one too many awkward conversations explaining that his 'injuries' aren't from patrol and he is in fact fine

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The Clone Wars characters | prequels concept art by Iain McCaig Rig Nema (“Voices”) | Mace Windu Krismo Sodi (“Bounty”) | Obi-Wan Kenobi Satine Kryze (“The Mandalore Plot”) | Queen Amidala Talzin (“Nightsisters”) | Sith witch Tiplar (“The Unknown”) | female Sith lord

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She can have my soul <3

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Iridescent trio