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another romantic orientation update. i've officially given up on labeling myself

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Do you have a "signature move" in the bedroom?

Yeah it’s called sleep

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"love is what makes us human" actually it's 'select all images with boat' but go off I guess

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Requested by 17ghostsinatrenchcoat

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Requested by vixenthecrow

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the way fandoms are desperate to make all aroace characters romance and sex favorable but then dont do anything remotely similar to any other identity is astounding. hmm i wonder why

PLEASE dont derail this about shipping characters of other identities please let this one post be about an aroace struggle

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after a long time of thinking about the specifics of my romantic orientation, i'm leaning more and more towards grayromantic. i still don't know if the strong attachments i had to specific people in my life were of romantic or platonic nature, or both in different occasions, but grayromantic feels right to me in this moment. yay

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‘You should only send hearts to ppl you’re romantically involved with’

WRONG! BOUNDLESS PLATONIC LOVE, WARMTH, AND ENTHUSIASM BE UPON YE!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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While this can apply to aromantics too, i know it’s mainly asexuals who hear this.

If you’re asexual because of a traumatic situation (or several), that’s perfectly valid.

Aphobes like to say people are only asexual because they have trauma, and obviously that’s not true for everybody, so lots of people speak up about it.

But those of us who are anywhere on the asexual spectrum due to trauma are just as valid as every other asexual.

And i mean all of us.

The hypersexual asexuals

The sex repulsed asexuals

The asexuals who don’t know if they’re comfortable with ever being intimate again

The asexuals who are comfortable in their identity

The young and old asexuals

Every asexual has a unique experience. And yours is just as important and just as valid

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i had a vision please use these for good or evil or whatever

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The Seattle Aces & Aros at Seattle PrideFest and in the Seattle Pride Parade, June 29th-30th, 2024.

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Sigh. The response to "asexuals are actually just childish and scared of sex" isn't "well actually you're wrong because we write the filthiest smut in existence" or "what about asexuals who know all about kink" or "I'm asexual and I love making sex jokes", NO, that's not the fucking point. I don't care. The point is that regardless of how an individual feels about sex they deserve to be respected and treated as an adult, even if the thought of sex grosses them out. I am asexual, reading smut makes me cringe (feel cringe as in the original sense of the word) and looking at anything nsfw makes me mildly uncomfortable at best, and I only like sex jokes to a certain extent. This doesn't make me a fucking child because sex is not what makes someone an adult in the first place.

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i may be a sex-averse asexual but that's not gonna stop me from singing red wine supernova at the top of my lungs in my room

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Whilst in many ways we live in the worst timeline, seeing an ace person lead London Pride has been a real highpoint of my year. Thankyou, @theyasminbenoit and everyone else who made that happen :)

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Reblog this if you support sex-averse and sex-repulsed aces, including:

Aces who never want to have sex

Aces who had sex in the past but don't desire it anymore

Aces with sexual trauma who feel like their trauma ties into their asexuality

Aces with sexual trauma who don't feel like their trauma caused their asexuality

Aces who don't want to talk to you about sex

Aces who don't want to hear about sex

Yes even aces who do not want to engage with any sexual content and don't want it in their own personal spaces

Yes even aces who express the desire to have more spaces for queer adults where their boundaries are met (on top of the queer spaces that exist, we do not want to sanitize your existing spaces ffs)

If you cannot be normal about these people existing, if you believe they're a threat to our community and to how we're viewed by people who aren't aspec and the rest of the LGBTQ+ community, you are not an asexual ally. Yes, even if you're aspec yourself. Especially if you're aspec yourself.

Because it's been pride month for 4 days and I'm already seeing people trying to throw us under the bus or pretend we don't exist because that makes the ace community more palatable to exclusionists and people who swallowed too much "aces are puritans" propaganda.

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