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i should be able to curl up and fall asleep without it giving me back or neck problems

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Do you think we would still be in love in another world?

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more people would be for prison abolition if they just tried to send mail to an inmate even once

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In this post I made an outline of Villies' base from episode 2 of Past Life. I finally colored it! I may come back to it, but for now this is it. I had a blast!

Remember, They are always Watching.

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Another rainy day by モモ

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new propaganda campaign just dropped

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i hate the part of depression that’s like all the things that bring me joy are empty and i can’t do anything. like come on bitch i know you love book can you just be happy about book :/

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Uk media reporting on the OSA:

Reality:

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why bother caring about the environment when 1. It’s so obviously a lost cause and 2. There’s definitely going to be a nuclear war?

And what are you doing about it Anon? Learn about ecological restoration or get out of my way.

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kind of crazy to think abuot how if an adult misbehaved so you decided to hold them over your knee and spank them till they cried it would obviously been seen as sexual assault but millions of parents do that every day to their kids and no one really cares all that much

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Kind of loathe how whenever there's talk of some platform banning NSFW content the discussion always jumps to "this is bad because the people who institute these rules think queerness is inherently NSFW!" and it's like yeah but also I think you should be outraged regardless of the slippery slope argument. Because I do think NSFW hetslop should also be able to exist

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People who perform manual labor should be not only given high and liveable wages, but unlimited access to healthcare and physical therapy to help manage the myriad conditions that come from doing back-breaking work.

Like this is not an absurd concept. It bothers me that people think that it is.

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Via FB

I’ve posted about a bearded dragon that had to be rescued by fire fighters—here’s one that just fights fires 👍

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I saw the term "malgendering", which is only recognizing someone's gender identity when it can be used to hurt them, and that's such a nice succinct way to describe both massive institutional issues (a trans women who is arrested for public indecency when taking off her top and then sent to a men's prison, mandatory military service countries that require both trans women and trans men to serve, a trans man being denied ovarian cancer care because that's "for women") and the smaller scale social interactions of "well since you're a man now I can hit you" and "don't like random dick pics? too bad. welcome to womanhood" and the godawful usage of theyfab

there's also the more subtle, manipulative forms. if someone uses any pronouns and you want to paint them as dangerous and a threat, stick with "he". if you want to make him seem irrational and whiny instead, call her a Karen. if you disagree on transfem issues, he clearly doesn't know what he's talking about. if you disagree on transmasc issues, she should mind her own business. you see?

if you have a good gender and a bad gender this will always be an issue. kill gender essentialism alongside bioessentialism

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I'd like to talk a bit about masculinity.

So, I'm a trans woman, I was raised male for 26 years, and since my father wasn't around half the time, my mother did the majority of the raising. This means that she did the majority of teaching me in how to "be a man" socially speaking. Sure, car stuff and male duties were my dad's job to teach me, but values and behaviour in how a man should act was the role of my mom.

My mother always told me that she was raising me to be a good husband to my wife, to treat women with love and respect, and overall how to be masculine but not toxic.

My mother even put together a collection of films and books for me to read with positive male role models for me to build my life around, and honestly it really helped a lot.

So, I'm going to pass on the knowledge I've learned about masculinity that I've learned over the years:

Masculinity isn't a bad thing. It's not bad to be a man, or masculine. Yes, there are toxic men out there with toxic views on how to "be a man", but the same could be said about women. If you don't think women can be cutting or hurt people with femininity, you're dead wrong.

Masculinity can be gentle. It can be loving. There's men out there who adore the women in their lives, and treat them extremely well. These men care about those around them, they're active listeners, they have good communication, they're devoted to their partners, and they're genuinely good people. They're not feminine for caring about animals, speaking softly, being gentle, being loving, anything of the sort. They're men, and that's their masculinity, which manifests in a healthy, positive way.

Masculinity can be gentle, loving, devoted, doting, generous, kind, and all sorts of positive gentle things. It's also a spectrum. There's plenty of masculine men who act in ways that are kind and caring.

George Fisher for example, lead singer of Cannibal Corpse. He's a big, masculine dude who works out. He also spends his free time at home and on tours out playing claw games to win toys for sick children.

Or Travis Ryan, who has a house full of rescue pets, and is an advocate for veganism

Donald Tardy of Obituary fame takes care of over 130 feral cats in Florida every night when he's not on tour, bringing them all food and water

Three examples of extremely masculine men, who are kind, soft, and gentle towards animals and children.

There's nothing wrong with being soft. It does not make you any less of a man.

Too many people act like masculinity is hard, damaging, evil, toxic, and so on. Which yeah, it can be in some - but there's also a lot of good in it. Loving, positive, healthy masculinity should never, ever, be treated like something that needs to be "fixed" because it's masculinity and therefore bad.

There's good men in this world, whose masculinity is good and should be celebrated, and healthy, positive masculinity in those that choose it, should be treated as the good that it is.

So, to those who are choosing masculinity, and choosing a path of loving, healthy, positive masculinity:

Thank you. Honestly. We need more good men and masculine people in this world. You're not a bad person for being this way. You deserve equal goodness to the goodness you put out.

Keep being loving, good, amazing people. Don't let anyone tell you that you're bad for being you, because you're not. Masculinity can be wonderful for some, and it shouldn't be treated like a curse, or a bad decision.

Masculinity is beautiful

Masculinity is wonderful

Masculinity can be a force for good

Masculinity is healing

Masculinity is a spectrum and there's no wrong way to do it, so long as it's not toxic

Masculinity can co-exist with femineity

Masculinity should be celebrated and not shamed

Masculinity doesn't make you a bad person

Trans men, and transmascs deserve all the respect, and room to grow into the people that they've always wanted to be. To shame them for wanting to be masculine is harmful for everyone involved. Masculinity isn't a bad thing, men aren't ontologically evil or bad. The vast majority of men are good people, and are blessings to those around them.

So men, and mascs:

Be soft, be nice, be kind, be gentle, be authentic, be vulnerable, don't be afraid to be you. You're not any less of a man for being "soft", instead you become a man of value, and worth.