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I think a lot of this shit would get cleared up if people recognized man/woman, masc/femme as not opposites but factors in gendered oppression.

Like…oppression is a combination of what you are, how you are seen, and whether you conform.

For example, cis gay men who are targets of homophobia are, of course, targets of homophobia, but a lot of homophobia is rooted in misogynistic patriarchy also. Men are not “supposed” to be feminine and feminine equals female and therefore is less than. But then the question is, so are men rewarded for being masculine? Not always. And sometimes they are severely punished for it. Men of color sure are. Especially Black men. Fat men sometimes are.

So if we look at homophobia directed at women, queer women are targets of homophobia, can be specifically lesbophobia, biphobia—more specific forms. Women are seen as less than for their femininity, for their femaleness. It’s misogyny. But then are butches rewarded for masculinity? No. They are punished for it. For failing to conform, for masculinity that “doesn’t belong to them.” So then this becomes a more complex form of gendered oppression, I wonder if there is a word for that? Google, what is butchphobia? What is antimasculism?

So are women always punished for femininity? Not necessarily. Women who “conform” are rewarded in the way that they are where they are “supposed to” be. Which is still regarded as inferior to men. But embracing gender roles can give you a leg up in bigoted spaces. Is that a reward? Is it punishment? Is a step higher on the ladder privilege or do you have to be at the top?

So if Black men are punished for their masculinity, are they never rewarded for it? No, especially when leveraging misogyny, masculinity can be a powerful tool, but it is not seen as comparable to white masculinity by society. So are Black women rewarded for femininity? Not necessarily. Not in the way white women are. Are they demonized for their masculinity? Very much so. And oh wait, what’s this? How do we account for the way Black women who are feminine are seen as masculine for their features even when they aren’t? Are they perhaps experiencing a more complex form of gendered oppression that needs language to accommodate? Google, what is misogynoir?

Now, since y’all will just insist you are trying to center transfemmes, let’s discuss transfemmes. How do we view butch trans women? Is she rewarded for her masculinity? Absolutely not. Is she punished for not being feminine? Absolutely. Is she seen as predatory and a faker? What about masc AMAB enbies? Are they rewarded for masculinity? Are they rewarded if their features appear male? No and no.

Are trans women rewarded for their femininity? Sometimes. For conforming. For appearing how she’s “supposed to.” For transitioning the “right” way. Is femininity always rewarded? Fuck no. She’s going to be subject to misogyny too. Even if she’s not masculine, if she’s not feminine enough her features are going to label her masculine, label her male, and then she’s going to be subject to transphobia directed at her inability to conform. Her “masculinity” or perceived maleness is a threat, not conforming. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. A more specific manifestation of oppression which is a combination of transphobia and misogyny (and arguably antimasculism). Is there language for this?

Masculinity and femininity are not straight shot rewarded versus punished. Maleness and femaleness are not straight shot rewarded versus punished. Femininity/femaleness are punished through misogyny viewing them as inferior. It can be rewarded (somewhat) through conformity. Masculinity/maleness can be rewarded through conformity, it is punished when it is non-conforming or a threat to those in power.

Is the masculinization of fat women a reward? Is the feminization of Asian men a reward? Is the hyper-sexualization of trans women a reward? Is the desexualization of disabled men a reward?

Binaries are a wildly incomplete analysis of how actual power manifests, what is considered conforming versus an ���attack”, and what behaviors actually grant admittance to the club and what labels you as storming the keep.

Almost as if anything short of the pinnacle of white supremacy has the potential to be victimized and every step on the ladder has the potential to gain a higher foothold if they climb onto the people around them.

“Women are—“ stop, what women? “Trans men are—“ stop, what trans men? Scrub “all” and “never” and absolutes and binaries from your discussions of gender.

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Simone Biles attends the 2025 Met Gala Celebrating "Superfine: Tailoring Black Style" at Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 05, 2025 in New York City. (Photo by Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images) if you want to support this blog consider donating to: ko-fi.com/fashionrunways

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Sooooo few people are actually willing to defend the basic human rights of people who have committed crimes. Like I know it's not fun but if you genuinely believe in human rights as a concept you can't be okay with the state violating them in prisons I'm sorrrrry. Having moral principles is not always a fun time.

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"Elijah, why are you here?"

WUNMI MOSAKU and MICHAEL B. JORDAN as ANNIE and SMOKE SINNERS (2025) dir. Ryan Coogler

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the problem with watching buffy the vampire slayer for the first time when you're 13 is that it will fundamentally reshape your brain chemistry to the point where literally all fiction becomes buffy the vampire slayer in different fonts. "watch another show!" you might say, and believe me i have! i promise i've watched many other shows since i was 13. but the problem is that all those other shows as well as films, books, podcasts etc. are simply deviations of buffy the vampire slayer to me. it's the holy text, the primary source. everything else is just commentary.

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I don't care if it's overdone I support Dev Patel's establishment of a Righteous Vengeance Cinematic Universe. Look at him

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Morticia Addams: I support women's wrongs.

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always remember, friend,

now go in peace

This meme was inspired by the piece "Lucky 10,000" by Randall Monroe.

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THE GOOD PLACE 3.12 | Pandemonium

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Quinta Brunson attends the 2025 Met Gala Celebrating "Superfine: Tailoring Black Style" at Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 05, 2025 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images for The Met Museum/Vogue) if you want to support this blog consider donating to: ko-fi.com/fashionrunways

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