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People just really fundamentally do not believe in objective reality anymore regardless of political affiliation, huh? People have their political beliefs and then work backwards from there, deciding what is and isn't true based on what supports what they want to believe.

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The same could be applied to your favorite 'trans coded' character then. Every character headcanoned by the fandom to be trans is automatically a terf to me.

Don't like don't read, right?

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The reading comprehension and overall common sense on this website is piss poor.

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Unmute !

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So excited this will be me soon!!! France here I come!!

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Absolutely wild to me how sometimes you don't even realize the way you'd been taught to perceive things as a kid was kinda fucked up, actually, until decades later.

Example:

As a kid, I constantly lived in fear of damaging shit in my parent's house. The walls. The floors (especially the floors. The wood was beautiful. Shiny. But so easy to scratch). The cabinets.

As a sixteen-year-old, I once took my car to the dealership after work and paid a very dear sum of $250 ($10/hr cashier salary) to fix a slight scratch in the paint because I knew if my father saw it there would be hell to pay. It didn't matter that I parked far out, like I'd been taught, and someone scratched it anyway. It was my fault. I failed in my duties as a steward of my vehicle.

Every time I scratched a rim on a curb while parallel parking or got a door ding or, god forbid, didn't wash and vacuum that car every weekend, it was treated like some sort of moral failing.

Last year, when my husband and I first moved into our house, he scraped the side of our car when parking in our (Very Narrow) garage. When he told me, my first instinct was to be afraid for him. Like something terrible was going to happen to him because of this mistake. I urgently reassured him that it was okay, it was an accident, I wasn't mad. Baffled, he was like, "Yeah? I know? Like, thank you for the reassurance, but I'm only a little annoyed, I'm not upset. It's just a car." And I had to take several minutes to process that. It's...just a car.

We keep the car tidy. We maintain it. But we wash it maybe 4x a year. We only vacuum it after dirty road trips or when the dog hair starts to get annoying. It has scrapes and dings and the leather seats have stains. But that's ok. Because it's just a car.

This morning, I realized that a small rock had gotten embedded in the felt foot on one of our bar stools. Neither of us had noticed. There are now scratches on our beautiful hardwood floor. My immediate response was fear accompanied by a heavy measure of paralyzing guilt. "I'm so sorry," I told my husband, "I should have noticed. I'll figure out how to fix it, I swear. I can probably sand down that section and match the stain and--"

"Whoa, hey," he said. "It was an accident. And it's fine. Floors are going to get damaged. They're floors. We live here. There was damage in places before we even bought the house, remember? It's not a big deal. It's just a floor." Right. It's just a floor. Right.

My husband's mom is visiting and this afternoon, as I was sitting in the kitchen looking at the scratches on the floor, I offhandedly asked her if my husband had ever broken or damaged anything as a kid. "Of course," she said. Household items. A TV. A wrecked car during his teen years. I asked how she punished him.

"Why would I punish him for things like that?" she said. "They were all accidents."

Right. Of course. Right.

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why do you people like gender so much? it's annoying

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i kind of feel like if you take "don't bomb iran" as an endorsement of the iranian government, you're not intellectually ready to engage in conversations about real-world politics. Go talk about steven's universe instead

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the whole Sabrina Carpenter album cover controversy has a lot of y’all acting like puritanical weirdos. The idea that her album cover is “counter-intuitive to feminism” because it’s “too sexy” and plays into misogynistic stereotypes, is itself, a misogynistic take.

first of all. Just because something appears to cater sexually towards men does not mean that it was intentionally designed by the creator for men and it’s misogynistic to assume so. It is the same thing as when misogynists assume that “women only dress pretty and wear makeup to be attractive to men because god-forbid women not be constantly centered around men.” Ya’ll were real quick to jump to the conclusion that the album cover was for men rather than herself or her majority female audience.

And yes, I know that women face social pressures to express sexuality in a way that gratifies men, and I’m not saying that our largely male-centered social environment didnt play a role in the design of the album cover. But for the love of god stop assuming that whenever a woman gets a little freaky, it’s because she’s a mindless puppet that is being socially influenced into slutting herself out to men. It’s a very similar take to the radfem position on BDSM that assumes women are incapable of sexual agency and are instead only able to participate in sexual-deviancy if they are being “tricked” or “influenced” into doing so. I am not a proponent of choice feminism but a lot of ya’ll are quick to discard female agency when it comes to sexuality.

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“We’re all viewed the same in the eyes of facists” okay and what does that have to do with the fact that you’re being actively homophobic

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I've noted quite a few liberal and choice feminists using the term ‘white feminists’ in order to dismiss and ultimately villainise radfem ideologies, majority of these feminists being white women themselves. As a poc, it's disheartening seeing this term being appropriated just so some feminists can demean other feminists. Not only does it water down a phrase used by poc to draw attention to our unique struggles but it means this term will be less likely to be taken seriously in the long run. You as a white woman aren't inherently morally better than another white woman for using this term, just because you use it does not mean you understand or sympathise with poc’s struggles, it feels like lip service to boost one's own moral high ground and excuse a lack of understanding of radical feminists values

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So it’s fine to use pronouns relating to a person’s birth sex, because describing things as what they are is just vocabulary?

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