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If you haven’t come across my post about actual misogynists, let me say it again:

If you don’t respect women in real life, it is not a kink.

Mutual respect between partners is 100% necessary.

You cannot hide your desire to abuse women behind the facade of kink.

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A good example of preference and goal communication

My to do list

This list is personal. It’s a little reflection for myself. Something to look back onto after the summer, as I’m taking a few weeks of “exploring break” to go on some trips this summer. I might still write erotica then, but will put the dating and kink on hold for a bit. So this list is for that. It’s things I’d like to find or pick back up later on.

If you read this at one point and are seriously interested or curious. Or maybe think you could help with some of these things. Ask away.

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Things I’d like to do:

- Explore my sadist side more

- Go to the zoo on a multiple sub/switch date with some of my people (A Daddy Dom and multiple cuties in a zoo?!)

- Do more serious picture/photo-sessions

- Make more friends/connections in the Dutch kink-scene (bonus if you are geeky too)

- Go to like a kink-warehouse type of events with (my) people to buy new tools

- Buy new impact play tools because I’ve destroyed too many of my tools in the past months (oops🫣)

- Go to my first munch or event.. (maybe. If my anxiety/struggles allow it😂)

- Go on more dates with my lovely people or dates

- Explore CnC, rimming, watersports, protocols, humiliation, degradation, M/s, being serviced/service acts/worshipping, somno, impact play more actively again

- Have a threesome where me and one of my people/switch play out a “good top-bad top” where one of us hurts and mocks the sub. While the other comforts them while also taking control

- Have a threesome that feels more like a bigger CnC scene

- Have a threesome where one person gets neglected or humiliated/degraded

- Have a threesome where I’m getting rimmed by one person and sucked off by the other.

- Have a threesome centered around impact play and suffering

- Go to comicon(like events) with dates/partners

- Explore new kinks or new plays (will need to reflect on these first)

Things I’d like to find:

- Fun and respectful people/kinksters from abroad with whom to meet up and do sessions with.

- Somebody to rim me (priority)

- Somebody to explore M/s with (priority)

- Somebody to start a type of D/s with

- Somebody to start a Dd/lg with

- Somebody to explore protocols and routines with

- Somebody to explore bullying, blackmail or manipulation with (priority)

- Somebody to explore watersports with (priority)

- People to explore CnC with (priority)

- Somebody to explore scent, worshipping and acts of service with (priority)

- Somebody to explore extreme degradation or humiliation with (priority)

- Somebody to explore pet play with

- Somebody to explore my sadist side with

- Somebody to explore threesomes with (priority) (technically only need one willing person 🤭)

- Alternative cuties and geeky kinksters👀

- Fun munches or events to go to and people to go with

- PEOPLE TO PLAY D&D WITH IN THE NL

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This list might be edited and changed over time.

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I find that awareness of one’s Feminism, in this context, is indeed linked to the state of participation one is currently within.

BDSM in practice is, of course, inherently Feminist. BDSM is couched wholly within the fact that every participant is completely equal. They sit and negotiate with completely equal power, meaning that they negotiate the exchange of power as a Feminist and within the structure of a Feminist worldview.

Then, later when the negotiated practice is engaged… the awareness starts to shift as the suspension of disbelief kicks in. Now, within practice, each partner (especially relevant in a D/s practice) perceives that one participant has less power. Of course, the safeword is the submissive’s safety alarm that ends any power imbalance of the practice and returns all of the participants to the actual default state of equal power. Thereby Feminism is of course still inherent to the practice as well.

For a lot of people the real enjoyment of a practice is had operating wholly within the suspension of disbelief created by the practice. That’s the point for participating in a long term D/s practice.

For some people maintaining that suspension of disbelief is so closely tied to their arousal state as the source of the experience’s momentum that having an orgasm can crash them out of their suspension of disbelief.

Usually, there would be an element baked into the practice that can recover that state after an orgasm. However, even with something built in to address that, some want to avoid falling out of that state so much that orgasm denial is their preferred path.

Of course, it is all still Feminism.

The thing that is actually changing is just the state of awareness of this fact that is consciously getting suspended by the energy flow of the D/s practice.

Managing the ways that awareness gets disrupted and mitigating/managing them is a big part of participating in a successful long term D/s practice. So many things can be distracting energy flows in daily life. Some can be successfully navigated or integrated. For example let’s look at a submissive who is in a long term D/s practice. They might have a job where they must perform work where maintaining a state of submission in suspension of disbelief is just not possible for them.

As an example: The D/s practice could be negotiated to accommodate and integrate that work and its challenges. First and foremost you are your Dominant partner’s long term submissive. The household needs your income (for example) and so you must work. People at your work will not know about your practice and so you will be expected by your Dominant partner to be an exemplary employee for them. Your work ethic now belongs to his Dominance. It could just be that simple. It could also expand to other elements like intentional and consenting gaslighting and/or a willful use of imposter syndrome. The only reason you have this job is because your Dominant partner wants you to practice playing pretend. Pretending to be a person who is equal to their peers. You might have to try harder than anyone else because after all you know you are really just a needy little cum hole that licks assholes on demand. You negotiate that your partner supports your need to work with whatever energy is required, but together your practice in one way or another reinforces the energy flow in your identity where you are really just a submissive that has a job.

The same can be true of navigating whatever other obstacles might be present. Things like interaction with your parents, children, or other members. Delegations of responsibility like overseeing cashflow for your home or managing home maintenance workers, etc… Sometimes these things can all be handled with same elements. The idea that the submissive partner is in fact first and foremost their Dominant’s submissive is essential, but how to maintain the headspace in light of obstacles can be a significant issue and it really requires negotiation and maintenance efforts to keep it working when these obstacles arise.

Orgasm is a notoriously difficult one of these challenges. Especially so for partners who have a massive and awareness altering crash after their orgasm.

Suspension of disbelief and identifying what mutual energy it takes to maintain it (or easily return to it) is what a lot of D/s negotiation and practice is about. How long do we want to be within that D/s energy flow? What do we want to do to ensure and safeguard that duration? What are any needs, wants, or limits each participant needs to support them as they put their mind and energy into keeping the experience flowing?

Falling out of suspension of disbelief puts a partner back into awareness of the greater reality that they are in fact an equal to their partner, and sometimes that’s just tremendously less enjoyable compared to the experience within the practice.

i’m a feminist until it’s time to cum

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There is an important element of all BDSM practice underlying this which goes too seldom discussed, and it isn’t just true of hypnokink subjects, submissives in general, or self-corruption kink.

That is the fact that an essential components of any successful BDSM practice is for the participants to be able to communicate what they want from the experience(s) and relationships.

This for many begins with self-identifying arousal triggers possibly from porn in one format or another, exploring a BDSM checklist, and finding the personal fortitude to try different things out / practice to see what fits.

Self corruption

You know what's the best thing a subject can do for their hypnotist?

Actively corrupting themselves, telling us what they want to be done to them.

That doesn't mean they'll get what they want, not yet

This simply means we know what you want & we'll do it our way

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Stuffie Humping 101. Every good girl needs to know how to properly hump her stuffie. It's an essential skill, one that brings endless joy and comfort. And Daddy is here to teach you how it's done.

Step 1: Choose Your Stuffie Wisely. Not just any stuffie will do. You need one that's the perfect size and shape for riding. Look for one with a firm body and a nice, plush head to grind against. Bonus points if it has cute, floppy ears or a fuzzy tail.

Step 2: Get Undressed. Find a quiet, comfortable spot where you won't be disturbed. Strip down to your comfiest panties, the ones that make you feel most adorable. You want to be able to focus on the task at hand.

Step 3: Positioning. This all depends on your preferred humping style. Some girls like to straddle, while others prefer to ride laying on their stomach. Experiment to find what works best for you.

Step 4: Mount Up. Carefully climb on top of your stuffie, spreading your legs wide to accommodate it. Reach down and adjust its position until it's nestled comfortably between your thighs.

Step 5: Start Slow. Begin by gently rocking back and forth, letting your stuffie rub against your wet little cunny. Focus on the sensation, the feeling of it pressing against your sensitive areas. As you get more comfortable, you can increase your speed and intensity.

Step 6: Add Some Friction. Now it's time to add some extra stimulation. Reach down and start rubbing your clit, slow circles that match each rock of your hips. Experiment with different textures - try rubbing your clit against the stuffie's ears, or using its fuzzy tail.

Step 7: Ride Hard. Start grinding hard, bounce up and down if you need to. Rub and press and flick your clit, you’re so close, now’s the time to really let loose.

Step 8: Cum Hard. As you cum, press down hard on your stuffie, squeeze your legs against it, use it to prolong your orgasm. Let the waves wash over you, feeling them build and crest. And when you're finally finished, collapse onto your stuffie, hugging it tightly to your chest. You just made a new best friend.

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The energy flow of kink can help motivate things beyond your sex lives.

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Setting the boundaries and rules is very important

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Work on a list of names that appeal to him for you to be called by him, his friends, your friends, and yourself.

Names to call it

Abuse whore Asslicker Bitch Bloody stinking mess Bootlicker Braindead set of warm holes Cocksocket Cocktrough Cockwhore Cumdump Cumrag Cunt Cuntface Cuntslime Dogfucker Dumb animal Dumbass Entertainment for Men Filthy pig Fleshlight Fuckface Fuckhole Fuckmeat Fuckpig Fucktoy Fucktunnel Garbage Gutterslime Living toilet paper Pathetic idiot Pig Pissmop Prey Property Punching bag Rapemeat Retard Shit-for-brains Skank Slut Spitbucket Stupid bitch Torturemeat Trash Ugly gash Urinal Useless lump of flesh Wet-pussy bimbo Whore Worthless piece of shit Breeding mare Spittoon Hormone monkey Tit clown Sewer Waste-of-space Fuckservice Spermcontainer Shit bag Humiliation toy Cock sheath Entertainment unit Clit clown Fleshlight

Addendums if you want to make verbal abuse more verbal: …with a pulse …with a breath …on two legs …aka female …formerly known as <its name here>

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Work together on lists like this so the items better reflect what he considers to be proper and enjoyable service

✨️Wish✨️List:

Grope me openly while we're out

Have me wear a cute plug and a short dress out in public to show off

Get me completely wasted and take advantage of me, bonus for cross fading

Use me in front of your friends/ share me with them

Piss in my ass and then put a plug in me. Call me a disgusting toilet while you pat my head.

Make me crawl around naked with a leash on

Have me suck on you all day under your desk

Tie me up and overstimulate me until I'm screaming and crying

Get me a shock collar and shock me randomly for fun. Especially while bringing you things, punish me when I drop them

Make me exercise while full of toys until I collapse

Only let me eat food if you've cummed on it

Make me ask to use the bathroom, tell me no randomly to watch me squirm

Leave cute little marks all over my body, bruises, burns, welts, cuts, etc.

Stretch out my pussy till I cry and then mke fun of me for being loose

Make me get piercings/tattoos for you

Tell me to be quiet or else, then torture my pussy until you can punish me for squealing

Only let me cum while your dick is in my ass so I'm always craving anal to cum

Shove random things in my pussy, laugh when it hurts

Dont let me eat for a few days, tell me its just so you can throw me around easily

Write degrading things all over me, make me go out with it on

Help me take baths and randomly hold me under water while I squirm

Don't let me breathe until I make you cum

Make me dress so that I feel exposed everyday

Don't let me talk for several days

Make me sign a contract to be completely free use for you

Make me sleep on the floor unless I've earned it

Make me clean the toilet with my mouth, shove my head in and piss on me when I'm done

I make you dinner every night but I dont get to eat unless you leave some leftovers for me

Get mad at me for not being wet all the time

Brainwash me so I'm completely obedient ❤️I'm open to more suggestions of course!❤️

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Work out examples like this that he asserts are proper methods of service. If in doubt, show him a list like this and ask if he will help you make the list better or better suited to what he likes.

Remember, if he doesn’t want it then it is not service.

15 ways to be a better cocksucker

#1 – Be able to host, especially if he is married.

#2 – Break your gag reflex by practicing with a banana or a dildo

.#3 – Never use your hands, unless told to

.#4 – Look him in the eyes when his cock is down your throat.

#5 – Learn to listen and observe non-verbal cues that tell you how to suck him better

#6 – Pay attention to his balls as well.

#7 – you don’t need to take a break.

#8 – When he is cumming, keep sucking him all the way through until his orgasm ends.

#9 – Always swallow, unless he decides to blow it some other way, in which case, let him.

#10 – Keep his cock in your mouth after he has come, and let it get soft while he comes down from his orgasm. He might fall asleep with his cock in your mouth, let him.

#11 – When he is done cumming, you are not done. Get him hard again.

#12 – Strive to make your mouth a replacement for masturbation. I would much rather cum down your throat than jerk off

.#13– Rim him. When you are rimming him, don’t stop until he is finished enjoying it, which can be over an hour sometimes. Get used to that.

#14 –touch your cunt when you are sucking him, but do not cum

.#15 - Ask him if he wants to take pictures or record you sucking his cock to brag and show to his friends