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“In the afternoon, remind yourself that aside from the choices you make, your fate is not entirely up to you. The world is spinning and we spin along with it—whichever direction, good or bad.”

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أعانَ الله الصامتين، علىٰ ضجيج قُلوبِهم .

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"أكثر ما يذيب القلب عند حزنك أن تكون مضطرًا لأداء مهماتك في العيش و كأنه لم يحدث شيء، في حين أنك تود التوقف عن الحياة تمامًا".

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“In the days that followed I thought about grief; how nothing and nobody can prepare you for it. People tell you their stories but until you experience it for yourself you can’t possibly understand. There’s no going around it. Or under or over it. You’ve got to go through it. It will hit you in waves so enormous that you are smacked against the shore. It will permeate the very fabric of your life, so that everything you do is stained by it; every moment, good or bad, is steeped in sadness for a while. Even the nice moments, the achievements and successes, are tinged with the knowledge that someone or something is missing. And the first time that you smile or laugh, you catch yourself, because happiness feels so unfamiliar.”

# Out of Love, Hazel Hayes

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“Just because you like one thing about a person, you don’t need to like everything about them. And just because you don’t like one thing about a person, it doesn’t mean the person as a whole isn’t worth your time. ”

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“Life changes fast.

Life changes in the instant.

You sit down to dinner and life as you know it ends.”

- The Year of Magical Thinking

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“Grief is a cruel kind of education. You learn how ungentle mourning can be, how full of anger. You learn how glib condolences can feel. You learn how much grief is about language, the failure of language and the grasping for language.”

- Notes on Grief

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“ Trauma is much more than a story about something that happened long ago. The emotions and physical sensation that were imprinted during the trauma are experienced not as memories but as disruptive physical reaction in the present.”

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This is where it all starts …….

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Our bodies are the texts that carry the memories.

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“Sometimes my grief feels as though I’ve been left alone in a room with no doors. Every time I remember that my mother is dead, it feels like I’m colliding with a wall that won’t give. There’s no escape, just a hard surface that I keep ramming into over and over, a reminder of the immutable reality that I will never see her again.”

# Crying in H Mart

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“Grief doesn’t ever get lighter, we just get used to carrying the weight.”

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“After trauma the world is experienced with a different nervous system.”

-Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score

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You are not you anymore .

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“In the healing process, you don’t just learn how to go back and fix what you didn’t finish. You also learn how to press forward, how to live more intently and presently, how to process your experiences in real-time. The more you do this, the more you will awaken and begin to show up for life. You start speaking again, you start feeling again, you start being again.”

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“In many ways, the journey of healing is not so much a chapter in your story, but changing the way you write the entire book. It’s a shift in the way you move through the world.”