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I told my boyfriend I had a laser hair removal done - just the first session - and he was so aghast that I didn't consult him about it. I told him it was cheaper long term since it cost so much to get a wax done, whereas hair removal will remove all that already. He says that he didn't want me to go through it blah blah blah. Am I in the wrong that I didn't consult it with him? I'm paying for the waxing anyway, right? I'm so confused. It's not surgical enhancement, it's hair removal!!! Thoughts?

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The most destructive thing I’ve ever done was believe someone else’s opinion of me.

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I deserve that, don’t I? Some sort of blazing love that I can live with.

Sylvia Plath  (via thatkindofwoman)

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this was inspiring

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Thinside Out: how to have your cake and your skinny jeans too

Book report time! And I apologize; it’s a long one! (tl;dr Skip this post all together and just read the book.)

Finally sitting down to write out my thoughts about this book, which means V will probably wake up at any time now. That girl as impeccable timing…

So where to begin? I’m tempted to take the lazy way out and just say, “Read this book” and leave it at that, but I’ll give you the takeaway and some highlights from the book.

Basically the book in a nutshell:

No foods are naughty.

Disordered eating and food obsession are not your fault.

You’re not addicted to food.

Forgive yourself and move on.

Exercise isn’t necessary for weight loss and excessive cardio just makes you hungrier (and she isn’t advocating to not train for a marathon, bodybuild etc. She just emphasizes that you should EAT accordingly and not expect to lose weight while doing these high-intensity activities.)

A daily walk/run/jog/wog/dance class/whatever or weekly resistance training is important for mental health, cardiovascular health and strength.

Deprivation leads to binging.

Eat until satisfied.

Eat until the food doesn’t taste as amazing as it did during that first AHMAZING bite (& if the first bite didn’t taste AHMAZING then why are you even eating it?) Twelve spoonfuls of your favorite ice cream don’t taste as good as that first bite did. Two cupcakes won’t taste better than one.

Track how the food makes you feel 30 minutes/1 hour/ 2 hours after you eat.

Eat without distractions.

Your body will tell you what it needs for fuel.

Even naturally thin people eat “junk” when they’re not hungry.

Contrary to what you’re thinking after reading the above: you will not suddenly want to live off candy bars and french fries.

Throw away your scale.

Don’t count calories.

Measure your progress with clothing.

Note: I think it’s important for me to point out that I’m not a champion of all her theories, but I’m refraining from pointing out which ones. Read and decide for yourself.

Remember a couple weeks ago when I wrote about the Moderator v. Abstainer approach as listed in Better Than Before? This book doesn’t disprove that or my admission that I’m abstaining from alcohol (only food off the top of my head that I can think of that I’m avoiding.) The reason being not that I can’t control myself around alcohol but because I don’t like the way it makes me feel after I drink it. At least, not right now. I’m already so tired contending with Violet and her 4-month sleep regression and am dying to fall into bed by 9:30 most nights. There’s no way I’m going to make myself even more tired by drinking alcohol, which is exactly the effect alcohol has on me. So, the reason why this works (which I didn’t realize until I read Thinside Out) is because I’m not depriving myself of anything - I’m acknowledging that drinking makes me feel like pants right now and am avoiding it.

However, I have a friend visiting next month and you better believe I will be enjoying every drop of cider and wine when she gets here with no regrets. Ok, so maybe slight regret during one of V’s middle-of-the-night feedings…

I hesitated to even write this post because if you’re anything like me, just reading this small bit has you up in arms because you’re convinced eating like this isn’t possible. I can’t convince you if that’s the case. You’ll have to read the book (or don’t). And maybe it won’t change your life like the cover promises, but it’s worth a try, no?

As for the reason why this book initially made me angry?

1. I jumped to conclusions very early on about what she was suggesting without having finished the book yet and kept shouting, “THERE’S NO WAY THIS WILL WORK!” I was wrong. It will and does work.

2. I’ve wasted literally 20+ years of my life dieting and labeling foods naughty/healthy/diet/good/bad etc. and that alone made me seethe for hours.

3. I had to tuck my tail in between my legs thinking back to my militant Whole30, Keto, WW, 5:2, replacement shakes, detoxes, etc…

I’m excited to hear if you read it and what you think. If it’s not your cup of Kool-aid, I get it, but I wish I could’ve read this book way before my well-meaning parents signed me up for Weight Watchers when I was 16…

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One Hundred Ways to Say ‘I Love You’

“Pull over.  Let me drive for awhile.”

“It reminded me of you.”

“No, no, it’s my treat.”

“Come here.  Let me fix it.”

“I’ll walk you home.”

“Have a good day at work.”

“I dreamt about you last night.”

“Take my seat.”

“I saved a piece for you.”

“I’m sorry for your loss.”

“You can have half.”

“Take my jacket, it’s cold outside.”

“Sorry I’m late.”

“Can I have this dance?”

“I made your favourite.”

“It’s okay.  I couldn’t sleep anyway.”

“Watch your step.”

“Here, drink this.  You’ll feel better.”

“Can I hold your hand?”

“You can borrow mine.”

“You might like this.”

“It’s not heavy.  I’m stronger than I look.”

“I’ll wait.”

“Just because.”

“Look both ways.”

“I’m sorry.  I didn’t mean to.”

“Try some.”

“Drive safely.”

“Well, what do you want to do?”

“One more chapter.”

“Don’t worry about me.”

“It looks good on you.”

“Close your eyes and hold out your hands.”

“That’s okay, I bought two.”

“After you.”

“We’ll figure it out.”

“Can I kiss you?”

“I like your laugh.”

“Don’t cry.”

“I made this for you.”

“Go back to sleep.”

“Is this okay?”

“I picked these for you.”

“I’ll drive you to the hospital.”

“What do you want to watch?”

“You can go first.”

“Did you get my letter?”

“I’ll do it for you.”

“Call me when you get home.”

“I think you’re beautiful.”

“Are you sure?”

“Have fun.”

“Sit down, I’ll get it.”

“I made reservations.”

“I don’t mind.”

“It brings out your eyes.”

“There is enough room for both of us.”

“You don’t have to say anything.”

“Wow.”

“Happy birthday.”

“I’ll pick it up after work.”

“It can wait until tomorrow.”

“Cross my heart and hope to die.”

“It’s two sugars, right?”

“I’ll help you study.”

“Stay over.”

“I did the dishes.”

“You didn’t have to ask.”

“I bought you a ticket.”

“You’re warm.”

“No reason.”

“I’ll meet you halfway.”

“Take mine.”

“We can share.”

“I was just thinking about you.”

“I want you to have this.”

“Call me if you need anything.”

“Do you want to come too?”

“I’ll still be here when you’re ready.”

“Is your seatbelt on?”

“Sweet dreams.”

“I was in the neighbourhood.”

“Stay there.  I’m coming to get you.”

“The key is under the mat.”

“It doesn’t bother me.”

“You’re important too.”

“I saved you a seat.”

“I’ll see you later.”

“I noticed.”

“You can tell me anything.”

“I hope you like it.”

“I want you to be happy.”

“I believe in you.”

“You can do it.”

“Good luck.”

“I brought you an umbrella.”

“I’ll pick you up at the airport.”

“Take a deep breath.”

“Be careful.”

And…

“I love you.”

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Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.

Hardy D. Jackson (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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Be with someone who treats you as a destination, not a stop along the way.

Mandy Hale (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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“Don’t bring up the past of a person who is trying to improve their future.” — Unknown Author

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Something that bothers me

I had (past tense) this girlfriend C who wasn't really a good friend of mine until she learned how I dated back in the day. You see, this girl always asks everyone she meets to set her up. She'll also befriend you and later ask if you could set her up with someone. She also has a very jealous streak - when my other friend B had her life coming together, C just dropped her from her life. When I started running and the weight was coming off, she also dropped me since I was getting better. She used to post pics of us with captions "Love my girls" and then just dropped us when B and I started to get our life together. Just a really immature girl.

In the last 2 weeks, she started posting group pics with 1 guy being consistent in all of them. She also started putting up vacation photos of just herself with captions that are "intriguing" (yes, I just rolled my eyes). Yesterday, she finally posted photos of just the 2 of them, which confirmed that this was her boyfriend already. Finally, right? After pestering everyone to set her up, she finally managed to snag a man.

I can't help but feel irritated about it. It's probably because I've always rooted for karma and was hoping that mean girls shouldn't have happy endings. I was also disappointed with myself for caring about this girl and how she seems so happy. This morning, I sat down writing my hate away on a journal, trying to find where this I'll feelings are coming from. Let's see, she was mean to me and tried to make me feel ugly for years. Do people like them deserve love and happiness at all?

I think that, if I have the energy and time to be annoyed with someone, I must be bored. This means I should have spent that time and energy into doing something productive rather than hatin'. I think I'm gonna work on that, instead.

I can't find the reason why I'm irritated but I'll just do something about it.