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people talk about gay coding villains all the time but never about aro coding villains and it’s honestly everywhere it’s like “oh this terrible guy cannot feel love and it makes them a horrible person”

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Do’s and Don'ts of Designing for Accessibility

Anxiety

Autistic Spectrum

Dyslexia

Physical or Motor Disabilities

Low Vision

Screen Readers

Deaf or Hard of Hearing

Find the PDFs for Do’s and Don’ts of Designing for Accessibility here.

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Literally no one:

Not a single soul:

Male authors:

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SOLE22: Bouquet for the Arospecs

Happy ASAW everyone! I wanted to make something to celebrate and as a way to join in the Shades of Love Event for 2022. So, I digitally painted a bouquet just for us arospecs! I tried to include something for everyone - partnering & non-partnering, sex favorable & repulsed, romance favorable & repulsed, aplatonics, loveless, everyone. The only thing missing here is anything to do with romantic love because I’m tired of flowers just being for the alloromantics. The flower meanings are as follows:

Blue Daisies - Long Term Loyalty, Trust, Happiness

Orange Peruvian Lilies - Devotion, Friendship, Passion

Daffodils - Hope, Rebirth, New Beginnings

Globe Thistle - Independence

West Indian Jasmine - Passion, Sexuality

Bluestars - Endurance, Strength, Determination

Honorable mentions: yellow roses (for friendship and joy) and goldenrods (for growth and luck). I am not skilled enough to paint them, so they had to sit this one out.

[Image Description: A digitally painted bouquet of blue daisies, orange Peruvian lilies, daffodils, globe thistle, bluestars, and west Indian jasmine set against a light green background.]

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Aquoigender And Autigender

From left to right:

Aquoigender Girl & Autigender

Aquoigender & Autigender

Aquoigender Boy & Autigender

Definitions:

Autigender: A gender which can only be understood in the context of being autistic.

Aquoigender: A mix between agender and quoigender. It's a gender that feels like it isn't there, but one is unsure because they don't entirely understand the concept of gender, so they can't tell whether they have a gender because they don't know what gender feels like.

Aquoigender Girl: A gender that is a mix between agender girl and quoigender. It's a gender that feels like it isn't there, and feminine in some way, but one is unsure to which extent it is feminine and to which extent it is agender.

Aquoigender Boy: A gender that is a mix between agender boy and quoigender. It's a gender that feels like it isn't there, and it is masculine in some way, but one is unsure to which extent it is masculine and to which extent it is agender.

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anyone please ask your crush out like this

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Sex-repulsed, sex-averse, sex-negative: all different!

The terms “sex-repulsed”, “sex-averse”, and “sex-negative” are sometimes used synonymously, but they actually refer to three different things.

Spectrum 1: Philosophical

Sex-negative <—————————————————> Sex-positive

This spectrum is philosophical / ethical / moral; it depends on what you think is right or okay, rather than what you personally feel an instinctive urge to do.

Sex-positive people believe that sex is, in general, an okay/good thing. Consenting adults should be able to have as much sex as they want. Cool. Your body. You do you. Nobody else’s business! Enjoy that sex if you want!

Sex-negative people believe that sex is often or always a morally bad or tricky thing. There are a lot of situations in which consenting adults should not be having sex. There are a lot of rules governing sex. If you have sex in a way you shouldn’t be, there will be bad consequences.

This is a spectrum. There are a lot of people who fall in the middle of this spectrum. Many people have certain situations in which they think sex should not be happening. 

Spectrum 2: Personal emotional

Sex-repulsed <—– sex-averse —— sex-neutral —–> sex-favorable

This spectrum is personal / emotional. It has to do with someone’s personal feelings about sex, not about their philosophical beliefs about sex.

Sex-repulsed people are disgusted or upset by the thought of anybody having sex. Descriptions of sexual activity, discussion of it, images of it, sounds of it, etc, may cause them negative reactions, often visceral ones: feeling sick to their stomach, anxious, panicked, etc. Some sex-repulsed people have sex-related trauma histories which may be a cause of their repulsion, but some do not.

Sex-averse people don’t mind the discussion of sex, or when other people have sex, but they don’t like the idea of having sex themselves. They may or may not get viscerally grossed out or upset by the idea of having sexual contact themselves. They want to not have sex.

Sex-neutral people are cool with themselves having sex, but they may not necessarily seek it out. Their feelings about having sex are basically in the “meh” category.

Sex-favorable people enjoy having sex and may seek out sex as an experience. Sex is, for them, a desirable thing.

This is also a spectrum. A person may feel averse to sex in some situations and positive to it in others. And obviously, nobody wants to have sex with ANYBODY in EVERY situation.

That covers the difference between sex-repulsed (upset / grossed out by the idea of sex in general), sex-averse (do not want to have sex themselves), and sex-negative (have negative philosophical or moral beliefs about sex).

But remember: there are many spectra, and things can get complicated! It is possible for a person to be both sex-positive and sex-repulsed:  they are personally grossed out by the thought of people having sex (sex-repulsed), but they believe that people have the right to have sex if they want (sex-positive). It is possible to asexual and sex-favorable: a person can experience no sexual attraction (asexual) and still enjoy sex (sex-favorable). It is also possible to be allosexual and sex-averse or -repulsed: a person can experience sexual attraction (allosexual) and still be upset by the thought of sex (sex-repulsed) or not want to have sex themselves (sex-averse).

As a reminder, there are other spectra at play here:

Spectrum 3: Sexual attraction

asexual <———- gray-asexual / demisexual —————> allosexual

Asexual people experience no sexual attraction; gray-asexual people experience little sexual attraction, or only in certain situations (like demisexuals); allosexual people often experience sexual attraction (though, again, nobody is sexually attracted to EVERYBODY!).

Spectrum 4: Libido

no libido <——- low libido ———- mid-libido ——–> high libido

This refers to how often you feel physical sexual urges. Libido may be satisfied by sexual contact with others, by masturbation, or not physically satisfied at all. You can have an asexual person with a high libido (they do not experience sexual attraction, but they frequently experience sexual urges), and you can have an allosexual person with low to no libido (they experience sexual attraction, but they rarely or never experience sexual urges). Some people experience low libido because of hormonal or health problems; some people just have a naturally low libido.

And this doesn’t even get into things like the different kinds of attraction (sexual, romantic, sensual, aesthetic, platonic)! There are many spectra that people, both allo and ace, can fall along. While it’s okay to have philosophical / moral disagreements with people on when sex is okay (spectrum 1), it’s not okay to reject people because of where they fall on the other 3 spectra discussed here. That would be the same as rejecting people because of where they fall on the homosexual / heterosexual spectrum.

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I redid this older comic I made for my storytelling class based on this post. Have some cute wlw love in your day.

It’s hard, if I had more free time I could make it so pretty, this is what I could throw together for the assignment.

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being a self-taught artist with no formal training is having done art seriously since you were a young teenager and only finding out that you’re supposed to do warm up sketches every time you’re about to work on serious art when you’re fuckin twenty-five

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@positiveseed

YOUTUBE

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girls who said “girls can lift chairs too” when the teacher asked for strong boys to lift chairs are gay now - i don’t make the rules

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This is so wholesome

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I didn't like precious versions of the alexigender flag, so I made my own.

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Do’s and Don'ts of Designing for Accessibility

Anxiety

Autistic Spectrum

Dyslexia

Physical or Motor Disabilities

Low Vision

Screen Readers

Deaf or Hard of Hearing

Find the PDFs for Do’s and Don’ts of Designing for Accessibility here.

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ways to respond to being asked "are you a man or a woman?"

i sure hope not

who's to say

that's between me and God

i'll tell you for $100

i don't think so, why?

probably, not sure though

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Want to learn something new in 2022??

Absolute beginner adult ballet series (fabulous beginning teacher)

40 piano lessons for beginners (some of the best explanations for piano I’ve ever seen)

Excellent basic crochet video series

Basic knitting (probably the best how to knit video out there)

Pre-Free Figure Skate Levels A-D guides and practice activities (each video builds up with exercises to the actual moves!)

How to draw character faces video (very funny, surprisingly instructive?)

Another drawing character faces video

Literally my favorite art pose hack

Tutorial of how to make a whole ass Stardew Valley esque farming game in Gamemaker Studios 2??

Introduction to flying small aircrafts

French/Dutch/Fishtail braiding

Playing the guitar for beginners (well paced and excellent instructor)

Playing the violin for beginners (really good practical tips mixed in)

Color theory in digital art (not of the children’s hospital variety)

Retake classes you hated but now there’s zero stakes:

Calculus 1 (full semester class)

Learn basic statistics (free textbook)

Introduction to college physics (free textbook)

Introduction to accounting (free textbook)

Learn a language:

Ancient Greek

Latin

Spanish

German

Japanese (grammar guide) (for dummies)

French

Russian (pretty good cyrillic guide!)