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Sometimes, I feel like any other 20-something year old man. I get out of bed in the morning and I get dressed and I put one foot in front of the other, just the same as everybody else.

I am often reminded, however, that my narrative will never quite be so straightforward. Every month, I drive to the pharmacy and refill a prescription for testosterone - the masculinizing hormone that I will receive from a vial for the rest of my life. Sometimes, the pharmacist still calls me “ma’am.”

A lot of people still call me “ma’am.” Despite my best efforts, I am not always perceived by others as male.

For the most part, I have reconciled with this on my own time; the concept of “passing” as any gender has all kinds of sociological implications that I don’t much care for, anyway.

But every time I need to use a public restroom, I feel fear on a visceral, heart-pounding level. I take stock of all of the times I have recently been misgendered, and I go out of my way to find less populated bathrooms. Even so, I often catch sight of my hands shaking as I pull open the door.

I am acutely aware of the privilege granted to me by the whiteness of my skin and by the masculinity of my gender presentation. For the most part, people in the public sphere don’t seem to pay attention to the existence of transgender men. When legislation is put forth with the intention of blocking transgender individuals from using public restrooms, it is not with people like me in mind. This legislation is directly intended to target my transgender sisters - particularly transgender women of color. 

I am lucky. The worst I have ever received in a men’s bathroom has been a dirty look.

If the current political climate continues - if lawmakers and politicians continue to be allowed legislate the bodily autonomy of transgender individuals - I fear that many will not be so lucky.

Please, do not turn a blind eye to this issue. Share this post and share others like it. Educate those around you. Listen to and uplift the voices of transgender individuals - particularly those who have also experienced marginalization through their backgrounds of race, class, religion, sexuality, and/or ability. Contact members of your local government; contact legislators - let them know that you will not sit idly by while basic human needs are denied to so many.

If you’d like more information on how to fight back, the National Center for Transgender Equality has put together an excellent resource.

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Too damn cheap to pay the royalties smh

#friendship w/ @aerinistic

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when a boy eavesdrops: “lets fucking beat him up”

when a girl eavesdrop: “oh god shes cute FUCK im gay”

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a few quick reminders:

- that thing you did that was kind of embarrassing and weird, everyone else forgot about that already

- you look fine today, if you can’t notice something on your face standing 6 feet from a mirror then nobody else will either

- if something is out of your control, do not let yourself or anyone else expect you to deal with it alone

- social lives can go through cycles sometimes, if you feel like your friends are all ignoring you for no reason they’re probably just busy with other things

- if you can’t stop thinking about someone or something, find something mentally occupying to do like reading a book or watching a movie. it won’t solve any serious problems but you will feel better

- nothing will always be easy, if you’re trying then that should be good enough for anyone. if it’s not then you’re talking with the wrong people

- never underestimate the importance of going to bed, if it’s dark outside and you feel bad just go to bed and deal with your problems the next day

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Statements I Can't Believe Are Controversial:

• everyone deserves to eat

• everyone deserves a home

• everyone deserves medical treatment when they’re sick

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I'm very Messy™ today.

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BOOM CLAP THE SOUND OF

i’m gay

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I got my tragus and back helix pierced today. OW.

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As an aro-ace myself, I’ve actually struggled with this question too. I find that if I do try to be in relationships, I tend to lean more toward the female side of the population. So when people ask, I often end up answering that I’m gay, out of a lack of desire to explain once again that I’m not really into sex.

It’s difficult for me, because I feel like I’m not ‘ace enough’ when I do want to experiment with sex at some point, and I’m not ‘aro enough’ because I want to be in a relationship. I like the things that come with relationships, so it’s been a struggle for me personally, identifying as aro-ace but not being able to get my feelings about it across.

Like a lot of people in the A community, I tried a lot of other labels before i discovered asexuality and realized that it was the word I was looking for. I agree with what the others in this have said, yes, there can still be a preference, but knowing that, you have to avoid pushing people into the ‘secretly gay or secretly straight’ category, because you don’t have the right to decide that.

So, ignorant question.

To the aro-ace folks, if it’s okay for me to ask.

Do ya’ll still have preferences? Like, can you be aro-ace, un-attracted romantically or sexually, and still be considered gay or lesbian or bi or pan or the many other sexualities out there?

I would assume so; just ‘cause you’re ace doesn’t mean you don’t have a sex drive, or a wish for certain level or intimacy. But what about sex-repulsed aro-ace’s?

Please, somebody. School me. I wanna learn things.

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ppl always guilt girls right before they cut their long hair… “o no don’t you’ll regret it!” “ur not gonna be able to do anything with it!” “but ur hairs so long & pretty r u sure u want to cut it?” boi I Know what my hair is bc I Lived with it & if I wanna cut it then let me!! lemme tell u everyone told me I’d regret cutting my hip length hair to my chin but guess what!! I’ve had it for a month now & I absolutely adore it I have absolutely no regrets & I would’ve done it much sooner if I hadn’t been guilted into doing otherwise!! stop forcing girls to fit into “conventional” beauty standards & girls do whatever u want ur gonna look great & if it doesn’t look great it’s ok it will grow back but pls don’t let others opinions dissuade u!!!!!!!

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*sticks my leg in the air* give me attention

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random 1st year: woW IS THAT HARRY POTTER

everyone else: yes, now please stay away from him he's a huge nerd and he's constantly accidentally killing things

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wow what a cool dude

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it genuinely baffles me when people say 80s fashion was ugly as if early 00s fashion wasn’t the greatest crime against humanity committed on historical record

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the exciting life of owning a plant