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even putting aside theyfabs origins as a derogatory 4chan term, the modern popular usage has made it clear that it's used to mean "person with a vagina who disagrees with me" so congratulations youve reinvented "dumb bitch"

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"TME" "theyfab" "transtrender" "TIF" "zipper tits" "cuntboy" "TMRA" "transandrobro" "transandrodork" "trutherina" "transmascs/men can't reclaim the T slur" "transmascs/men can't use T4T" "when the transmasc/man has the biggest boobs you've ever seen" "TMOC have power over White transfems/women" "gay transmascs/men are fujoshis" "Black transmascs/men easily pass" "Fat transmascs/men's transition is useless and ineffective" "Autistic transmascs/men are just brainwashed women trying to escape misogyny"

[ID: A gif of someone in their office, slamming their keyboard, hitting their computer with the keyboard that the computer falls off the desk, and then leaving in rage. /End of ID]

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I am annoyed by the "forcefem is revolutionary" shit. It's just so narrow-minded and kind of dumb.

It's just.. a kink. (That's fine, btw. We support being freaky around here.)

It's not a competition, why are you acting like your kink is morally superior to what is essentially a different flavor of the same kink (forcemasc)?

Femininity generally speaking, isn't always revolutionary or freeing for every person ever.

The general belief that femininity = revolutionary is so perplexing to me.

Cisnormative forced femininity is a real thing that actually happens to real people and causes real actual trauma, please talk to a transmasc person, or an intersex person who was CAFAB or otherwise medically abused to be more "physically feminine", you cannot in good faith say forced femininity doesn’t exist and doesn't harm people.

What IS revolutionary is the act of generally rejecting/subverting the expectations placed on you by cisnormative society. It seems like people who belive this stuff just... don't understand that not everyone has masculinity imposed on them as a default. Cis women being feminine is.. not queer or revolutionary.

Being feminine for me is revolutionary because I have had masculinity imposed on me. But being feminine is not revolutionary for people who... already had it forced on them. In the case of those imposed female, it is actually embracing masculinity that is queer and revolutionary.

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Putting aside the reasons why James Barry's trans identity is erased, the thing that sickens me the most is the fact that "empowering cis woman" is something people will celebrate more than an empowering trans man. Like, it feels like the attitude is "oh, he was a trans man and not actually a woman? lame :/" we can't even be happy and celebrate the accomplishments of a trans man. A trans man's accomplishments aren't even to be celebrated.

A trans man's accomplishments aren't even celebrated the ways a cis woman's accomplishments are and there is something so, so, so vile about that.

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So I’m at the stage in my transition where I’ve switched to the men’s bathroom, because people swear up and down I pass (hey, note to all the cis people reading this, DON’T tell your trans friends they pass just to make us feel better, this shit can put us in actual danger if we believe you! Just be honest! Tell me if I’m clockable, it’s for my safety!)

Anyway, so I go into the men’s restroom today, it’s empty, only guy in there is a worker that’s cleaning the stalls. There’s a freshly cleaned one thank fuck. Right as I’m about ready to enter, a group of at least five or more cis boys (late teens or young adults) head right in and I just hear, “hey, this is the men’s right?”

I duck into the stall. I sit there for ten minutes waiting for these guys to leave, they’re loud as fuck and yelling at each other and one of them won’t shut the fuck up about a “woman in the bathroom” with them. And his friends are all like, “really, where?” “I think a stall” and I just have to sit there until they leave. I’m texting my friend in the stall because she’s right outside. She’s trying to assure me that they aren’t paying attention to me, they’re likely just doing their business. No, one of them, the one that clocked me, was very much interested in me. She tells me when they’ve finally left.

She seems to understood that I was in some danger, but I had to explain to her just how much, because she really thought I could just walk out of there and be okay. “What, did you think they’d like ambush you outside the stall? Or harass you?”

Fucking yes? One of them kept saying “there’s a woman in here” to his friends. And why did it take so fucking long for them to finally leave?

On a funny note, someone came over to the stall, and some guy was like, “I think someone’s tryna take a shit in there” it was just me waiting lmao. Also I’m two years on testosterone, high dose, I need people to shut the fuck up about how we all pass perfectly after like a year.

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Friendly reminder to all the people using TMA/TME or any other false binary.

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A significant portion of you don’t see trans men as human. We’re either sexual objects or the enemy. And when we call that out you double down as if it’s somehow our fault that you objectify and vilify us.

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The underlying attitude that trans men and mascs don’t need protecting and uplifting is a manifestation of our hyper invisibility.

Just a few days ago a trans man was a victim of a hate crime resulting in the murder of his husband, and yet hardly anyone is talking about it being a hate crime against a transgender gay man. We are hyperinvisible; this means oppression against us is erased or ignored, not that we do not suffer from it.

Something I see often is trans mascs being told to “focus on protecting trans fems” instead of talking about the oppression we face as trans mascs. The effects of the patriarchy are just that pervasive. Men are the protectors and women are weak, so of course trans women need protecting and trans men have to do the protecting. Simultaneously, misogyny is weaponized against us. We are told to shut up and listen, we’re hysterical, reactionary, stop whining about our problems, we don’t know what we’re talking about.

Obviously trans fems and women are also victims of transphobia, the patriarchy, and misogyny. When transmisogyny first began being discussed by transfeminists the attitude against them was just as hostile. Cis feminists and other trans people alike fought against the idea of transmisogyny “existing”. They were questioned on why transmisogyny needed to be a term; “it’s just transphobia & misogyny”. Sounds a lot like things we hear today about the validity of anti-transmasculinity and transandrophobia as terms.

The bludgeons utilized against trans people to keep us in our place are made of the same material: transphobia, misogyny, the cisnormative and patriarchal ideas of what men and women are and their roles in society. This is not to say every trans person on earth experiences the exact same things, but that as a group we are all vulnerable, all need uplifting and protecting from oppressors. We can uplift and protect each other, in fact we MUST if we are going to survive. We do not need to completely silence one person to be able to listen to another. We are each others’ greatest strengths against our oppressors.

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This pride month you’re going to learn to shut up and listen when trans men talk about being oppressed

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Arguing, or trying to conceptualise misogyny as purely or even largely, identity based, is throwing trans men under the bus and effectively purposefully choosing to exclude transmasc victims of child marriage, FGM, female infanticide, financial and educational repression and forced pregnancy.

And it is a testament to the erasure and the neglect of transmasc people within our own community that this is peddled as a trans-inclusive idea.

Trying to conceptualise misogyny as purely identity based is bad for transmascs.

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”trans men are the weakest links of the trans community” my trans male friends and I have lived a lifetime of having our bodily autonomy stripped away to the point of sexual harassment. people talk about our bodies like everyone except us owns them because no one can handle the idea of precious female bodies being “mutilated” by gender affirming care. we are treated like traitors by women and as confused, silly girls by men. we have no spaces in which we belong because even the queer community tries to control our bodies. if we pass as men then we get ousted from queer-friendly spaces, and if we don’t pass as men we’re treated like cringe, theyfab trenders. everything we love is considered annoying. we’re called ugly and sad and “what a shame you guys are men haha”. We have to watch as society uses us as an excuse to ban gender affirming care for young people because our bodies belong to the government, because our bodies belong to our mothers, and because our anatomy is the only thing they see us as. And then we have to sit back as the trans community blames us for these bans. “All of these fake transtrenders are the reason they all hate us” when we’re busy having the women in our lives scrutinise our bodies to make sure we’re not being “infected” by the trans contagion. There’s no space we can belong in. No space that tries to make us feel welcome because either they treat us like women or they treat us like dangerous, cis men.

Every trans man I know has been sexually assaulted. Every trans man I know has been brought to suicide attempts, either due to their families or due to people online bullying them to death. Our struggles are constantly diminished and yet behind the scenes we’re fucking exhausted from fighting attacks from every single goddamn side. How fucking dare you call us weak. We’re going through fucking hell like every other goddamn trans person out there and our bodies are being abused and controlled and scrutinised every day of our fucking lives. Have you seen how TERFs talk about our bodies? How they lament us “mutilating” our breasts, our fertility, our anatomy, all in the name of feminism. That’s sexual fucking harassment, and it’s disgusting. But that’s all they fucking see us as. We’re not human, we’re just defected specimens. Cis women give themselves free passes to harass our bodies because they see us as “one of them”. One of them, but wrong. One of them, but need to be fixed. My mother regularly checks my chest to make sure I’m not trying to flatten it, and she can get away with it because “that’s what mothers do to their daughters.” Even when I’m not her daughter. Even when I’m screaming at the top of my lungs wanting to die because my body doesn’t belong to me. My body stopped belonging to me as soon as I came out as trans, because female empowerment doesn’t apply to me anymore. Female empowerment is now about “correcting” me, to restore my body back to its former glory, because only then was I worth something.

We are not weak. We are strong as fuck for dealing with the shit we have to deal with. And the worst part is, so much of the bullying comes from other trans men. We’ve been taught to hate ourselves so much that the only way to get ahead is to put down our own brothers and treat them in the way we’ve been treated.

There is no weak link of the community because we’re all dealing with absolute shit from all sides, but don’t you ever suggest that trans men are somehow the whiny babies who have nothing to complain about when we’re constantly holding back from screaming our guts out because there’s nothing else we can do.

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Maybe one day leftists will also realize that the invisibility that trans men face is actually perpetuated mostly by themselves. Bigots know we exist, we're delusional perverted women to them. Leftists just conveniently forget we exist or exclude us or pretend we don't need support, because if you're not a woman you can't be marginalized to them lol.

Before another moronic Tumblr user says "trans men are just hyper-invisible so they aren't targeted as much/dont need support" I'd like them to bash themselves over the head with whatever heavy object they can find first as an apology for being ignorant.

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if you dont care about the suicide rate of trans men/mascs because it "reminds you of mras" then youre not actually serious about fighting transphobia. you just want an acceptable punching bag and will shit on minorities if it means making yourself feel better.

imagine saying you dont care about the suicide rate of queer women or the murder rate of queer man. you are no different than any other bog-standard bigot.

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A popular artist suddenly made a trans man comic, and the viewers are not getting it

Being against a trans man's transition because you think it's too boring is transphobic, actually.

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Don't know who needs to hear this, but trans men are the authority on our existence. The people who know the most about trans men's experiences and oppression, are in fact, trans men.

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its so weird that i see so many transandrophobia deniers say trans men dont experience any targeted bigotry when so many countries esp the uk and usa are passing laws banning or restricting youth transition specifically to 'save young impressionable girls' and then saying something creepy about a minors tits. like of course that impacts all trans people, but when you hear the reasonings as to why these laws were written it is always something about wanting trans men and transmascs to not transition. like i dont see how that isnt bigotry directly targeted at trans men (not that it doesnt affect all trans people, but we can say that for example bathroom laws are targeting specifically trans women while also acknowledging they impact all trans people). denial of transandrophobia at this point in time is just stupid

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Here's the thing. There are some nasty trans masculine people. Absolute fucking dickheads. Dickheads to trans femmes, dickheads to cis queers, dickheads to trans men they see as 'lesser' than them. They say awful shit, they are toxic, they should be held absolutely accountable for all of it. They cannot use their transness to excuse themselves.

But when that guy is the guy you're thinking about entirely when you think of trans mascs you end up making grand generalising sounding statements that people are absolutely going to pick apart.

There are some goddamn awful trans women out there right now, saying the most terrible shit even about other trans women. She's come to your mind now, hasn't she? But she's not all trans women, she's not even most trans women.

If we can understand that, we can understand the same for trans masculine people, and not assume terrible shit about them all the time.