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So my boyfriend is training to be a primary school teacher, & while on placement, they were trying to do a sing-along for the class. One 7-year-old boy said that he didn’t feel comfortable singing, because he’d been told that “Boys Don’t Sing”.

While the teachers apparently tried to figure out how best to respond to this, my boyfriend apparently immediately tried to think of who the most Manliest Man to sing in a kid’s movie might be…

and then proceeded to play The Rock singing You’re Welcome from Moana.

All the kids sang along, & the little boy was happy to sing again ❤️

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“why bother writing bisexual characters if they just end up in a m/f relationship”

my dude

my guy

my pal

stop talking forever

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“The truth is, chivalry has basically fuck all to do with women, and everything to do with horses. See, the word “chivalry” comes from the French word “chevalier,” which comes from “cheval,” which means “horse.” Chivalry is literally just “rules for if you have a horse.” This was an important set of rules to have in chivalry times. Horses were the Blackhawk Helicopters of the Middle Ages; if you had a horse, you could absolutely kill anybody who didn’t have a horse and nobody was going to say a god damn thing. The only thing stopping you was chivalry. That’s what chivalry was for. Chivalry was – and still is – basically a way of saying, “okay, I have an optimized death machine between my legs, maybe I should look out for people who don’t have one of these.” So it’s not that chivalry is specifically about defending women because women are weak. It’s that chivalry is about defending people who don’t own horses, and in the middle ages women didn’t own shit.”

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Chivalry Isn’t Dead, You Just Don’t Know What the Fuck it is.

Also:

“Chivalry boils down to three things: mercy, charity, and humility. Mercy means being conscious of your advantages, and treating other humans gently. Charity means giving without expecting anything in return. Humility means accepting your mistakes, and recognizing that those who don’t have your advantages aren’t your inferiors.“

(via gallifreygal)

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please don’t knock, the cat has the keys

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Heavenly Bodies || The Cloisters

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You are my pride and joy

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MBTI & Celebs (x)

Mandy Patinkin: ENFP

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Dragon Eggs

Olha Arts on Etsy

See our #Etsy or #Dragon tags

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my s/o is cute and talented rb if ur s/o is cute and talented

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Reblog if your illness does define you

Reblog if your illness has shaped your outlook on life and the world.

Reblog if your illness has warped your perceptions of people and social situations.

Reblog if your illness has altered some of the most fundamental aspects of your personality.

Reblog if your illness has impacted all of your relationships, and even been the reason for the beginning or end of some.

Reblog if your illness is often the cause of your moods and emotions, and affects nearly all of your moods and emotions in regard to other things.

Reblog if your illness has changed the strength of your virtues, from compassion and tolerance, to perseverance and determination, to gratitude and generosity.

Reblog if your illness has been a part of your life for so long that you honestly can’t differentiate the parts of your identity that are influenced by your illness from the parts that aren’t influenced by your illness.

Most importantly, please reblog this if you’re okay with your illness being on the incredibly long list of things that define you. Reblog if you don’t feel like your identity has to be completely undefined by your illness in order be valid. Reblog if you don’t necessarily like the parts of yourself that come from your illness, but don’t think that makes them any less you.

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Seriously, so many of these types of quotes are just victim-blaming

(Not included here, but another one I hate: “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent”)

“Time heals all wounds.” Me, a person with PTSD from child abuse:

“People only have power over you if you give them power.”

“People treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated.”

“Holding onto hate is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.” 

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some more mothsteed doodles, this time based off of a rosie moth :3c 

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One of the enormous metal sculptures around borrego springs in the desert east of san diego. [2048 X 2048] by Eyetwist

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frog riding snake

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I was trying out the first episode of a show today, & we got to an extended gratuitous orgy scene— Straight White CisHet Male Protagonist wanders through hordes of Nubile Naked Women, all either throwing themselves at him, or else having group sex with each other (or with only a single man in the group, with most of the women focused on each other). The camera work & framing made it clear that this was meant to be titilating, & I was just sitting there feeling… well, not at all titilated.

The scene made no sense outside the context of “this is clearly being shown just to titilate the protagonist, and even more importantly, the viewer”— the women were not acting like people, or even characters— they were basically as much a part of the scenery as the curtains (hell, the curtains had potential to be even titilating, because sometimes, less is more). The pretty naked girls also did nothing to distract me from the apparent change in the layout of the hallways between scenes.

And it made me realise… no wonder it was so difficult for me to figure out that I’m Queer? Growing up, you’re surrounded by Sexy Women Being Sexy, but it’s pretty much universally aimed at the presumably Straight (cis) Male Consumer. None of it was ever aimed at me, & very little of it ever did anything for me either. But when you grow up with “This is what is Sexy to people who are Sexually Attracted to Women”, and pretty much none of it is sexy to you, it’s easy to assume that that means well, I guess I’m just not Into Girls then (especially since I don’t experience attraction towards genders the same way).

This isn’t to say that there’s something wrong with women who would find scenes like that titilating, or anything like that. Just that different people experience sexuality in different ways, but when there’s an overabundance of just one sort of “This is meant to be arousing” shown, it’s stifling & unhealthy to people.