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hello I love the cornetto trilogy SO much

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do you ever say something and then think "wow this isnt even a bit. im just like this"

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I was today years old when I found out my dad ghosted the Brazilian military

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ive never seen star wars

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Star Wars: The Force Awakens (2015) dir. J.J. Abrams

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Executive dysfunction is such a mother fucker.

I've been putting off organizing the pantry for almost six months because it seemed so daunting, but today I woke up feeling okay-ish energy-wise and decided I could at least try and empty it today.

Reader, not only did I empty it, but I also cleaned and organized it the way I've been meaning to do for months—in an hour.

Was it an hour of work split into smaller, fifteen-minute increments so I could sit on the floor and rest while my heart tried to escape my chest? Oh, for sure. But knowing that it would have taken an able-bodied person forty minutes to an hour, tops, is infuriating.

Like, what do you mean my brain told me this was several days' worth of work, and it took an hour? What do you mean?!

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I have a lot of neurodivergent kids in my family. And I’ve worked with a lot professionally. And I often see their parents think the kids don’t want to connect, when they would love to — they just want to do it differently.

If they don’t like jokes and teasing, they might like silly noises or yes-and improv.

If they don’t like playing a competitive or narrative game with toys, they might like to take apart a toy, or sort/stack/line toys up, or get buried under toys.

If they don’t like biking or walking a trail in the woods ‘properly,’ they might like to walk along fallen logs, stand in the creek or look under rocks and leaves for creatures.

If they don’t like hugs and cuddles, they might like to bump shoulders, touch fingers, hand hug, spin around together, or (if they like more intense input) wrestle, push faces together, squeeze each other hard or run into you.

If they don’t like putting on kids’ music in the car or to dance to, they might want to listen to a game or show soundtrack, nature noises, a podcast, binaural beats, house music or metal.

If they don’t like animated movies where sad or scary things happen, they might like younger kids’ gentler shows, or adults’ science and history shows, or live zoo and nature cams.

And so many of them would benefit so much from the adults just slowing down. Not scheduling so much in the day, not rushing them through an activity, not stopping them playing the same song or watching the same bug for an hour, letting them absorb everything their way. Seeing it as a meditation instead of a problem. Joining them there.

And if you were one of those kids being rushed and scolded, trying to make yourself like teasing or competition or intense movies or a full social schedule — I’ve been reparenting myself and you can too. Whenever you notice something isn’t giving you joy — you can do it differently. Not everyone is forcing themselves through things they hate for “fun,” and we don’t have to.

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This is probably different for different people but for me personally ADHD feels like if you can only carry a cup of water across a room if you’re juggling with your other hand

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i can handle one (1) Event™ per day. whether it be a phone call, an appointment, trip to the grocery store, play date with a friend, etc. only one, that's it. any more than that and i am Stressed

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The funny thing is that I can fully see where a lot of very dumb discourse on this site came from but it doesnt make it any less perplexing

"Weight is most often determined by genetics rather than lifestyle choices, and the connection to health is not as black and white as TLC would have you believe": yeah, im with you.

"A person's health is not in any way connected to their worth as a person, and its not any of your business how healthy someone is to begin with, nor is it fair to demand fat people bend over backwards to perform health for you in a way you never ask of skinny people": absolutely. Completely agree with you.

"Saying that vegetables and exercise are good for you is fatphobic": okay what the hell happened here

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googling shit like "why do i feel bad after hanging out with my friends" and all of the answers are either "you need better friends" (i don't; my friends are wonderful) or "your social battery is drained, you need to rest and regain your energy levels" (i don't; i've got tons of energy, it's just manifesting as over-the-top neurotic mania). why is this even happening. it's like some stupid toll i have to pay as a punishment for enjoying myself too much

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The only adhd tips that work:

1. Never tell anyone what you're planning to do until you do it (you will get a premature dopamine hit and sense of accomplishment from telling them and lose motivation to actually do it)

2. Never sit down (never sit down)

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"these researchers published a paper on something that literally any of us could have told you 🙄" ok well my supervisors wont let me write something in my thesis unless I can back it up with a citation so maybe it's a good thing that they're amplifying your voice to the scientific community in a way that prevents people from writing off your experiences as annecdotal evidence

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During a test for ADHD, I stopped to write down “Ratatouille is the antithesis to the Lion King.”

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common occurrences with #adhd

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So…… the last time I saw some couple do "the eyebrows thing" was Tapeesa and William Donloe.🤫