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Pengalaman dan Sikap menjadikan kamu matang;

Bukan umur.

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Discovering your true self starts with setting boundaries..

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Perkara yang perlu dididik kepada anak lelaki:

1. Bersalam dengan orang lain, mesti berdiri, genggam kemas, pandang dalam mata.

2. Jangan uji 'kedalaman air' dengan dua belah kaki.

3. Lelaki yg sedang memasak, sangat berkuasa seperti raja.

4. Ketika berbincang, jangan beri offer yg pertama. Dengar dulu.

5. Ketika diharap untuk jaga rahsia, simpan kuat-kuat.

6. Pulangkan kereta yg dipinjam dengan minyak penuh.

7. Main dengan sungguh-sungguh, atau jangan main langsung.

8. Jika masih mahu musik ketika ke pantai atau ketika nikmati alam, maka itu kerugian besar.

9. Bawa 2 sapu tangan. 1 untuk anda guna, 1 untuk si dia.

10. Kawin dengan mana-mana perempuan, maksudnya kawin dengan keluarganya juga.

11. Lihatlah sikap itik. Nampak tenang di permukaan, tapi kaki yg tersorok berkayuh macam nak gila.

12. Nikmatilah keindahan dan pengajaran mengembara sendirian.

13. Cuba buat wasiat untuk diri sendiri. Dan selalulah ubah wasiat itu.

14. Cubalah makan/waktu rehat dengan kawan-kawan yg berbeza.

15. Taip draf satu komen yang sangat marah dalam mana-mana sosial media, baca semula dengan teliti. Kemudian padam.

16. Cuba ajak emak anda bermain, dia tak akan bagi awak menang.

17. Pengalaman dan Sikap menjadikan kamu matang. Bukan umur.

18. Berilah pujian. Telanlah kejian.

19. Hadap mana-mana pembuli. Dan pertahankan sesiapapun yg dibuli.

20. Ambil masa untuk sayang pada haiwan dan tumbuhan. Mereka juga sayang anda dan suka anda bersama mereka.

21. Jadi orang yg yakin diri, dan dalam masa sama merendah diri.

22. Dalam semua perkara, tunjuk contoh memimpin bukan hanya pandai bercakap.

23. Pakailah pakaian seperti mana anda mahu dilihatkan.

24. Senyuman dan ucapan Terima Kasih tidak perlu dibayar, tapi kesan baik untuk selamanya.

25. Ingatlah, Setiap pilihan yang kita pilih adalah ujian. Setiap tindakan yang kita buat adalah ujian. Setiap perkara yang terfikir juga adalah ujian. Setiap pencapaian yang juga satu ujian. Setiap pujian juga adalah ujian. Setiap kejian juga adalah ujian.

Sumber: TMF

#TuanHutan #MejarFitri

#pesanpadadiri

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Apa definisi ‘kaya’ bagi awak?

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FACTS U DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT TOO MUCH

1. If you speak too much, you will lie.

2. If you think too much, you will be depressed.

3. If you cry too much, you will lose your sight.

4. If you love too much, you will be lost.

5. If you care too much, you will be taken for granted.

6. If you play too much, you will not be taken serious often.

7. If you trust too much, you will be betrayed.

8. If you work too much, you will die of stress.

9. If you eat too much, you will be obessed

10. If you sleep too much, you will be idle.

11. If you spend too much, you will have no future.

12. If you wear make up too much, you will lose your beauty.

13. If you look too much, you will lose your focus.

14. If you pursue life too much, you will lose everything.

And lastly...

15. If you expect too much, you will be disappointed. Don't be too much because that too much can hurt you so much.

Fb: United Africa

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Always remember these

1) The past can't be changed.

There are many people in the world who are suffering from their own past. They can't manage to escape from their past experiences and losses. All the time when we try to do something great, our past failures come in our mind and we think that again this time I will face failure, so this fear of failure doesn't allow us to move toward success. If you don't leave your past in the past, it will destroy your future. Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away. So, keep in mind "Your past was never a mistake, If you learned from it" always try to learn great lessons from your past.

2) Opinions don't define your reality.

We are human and we all live in this world with many other people. We all depend upon others directly or indirectly. It means we are social animals. We can't live separately from this world and in our lives we hear many people's opinions about ourselves. These people may be our family members, maybe our friends, maybe our teachers and maybe common people that are living around us. Many times their opinions hurt us badly. The result of all this comes in this sense, we stop doing what we were doing or we stop doing what we like and start doing what we don't like and indefinitely this leads us to our own destruction. So the matter is that, our life, our life, how someone else can mold our life. Don't let someone else's opinion of you become your reality. You're the one who has to choose what you're going to do and what is better for you because people don't matter at all.

3) Everyone's destination is different.

I still remember when my thinking was totally the same as other common people. I used to say, why many of my friends succeeded in their life and I am still getting education, but after some time I realized that "Everyone's destination is different". In this world, time for succession is different for everyone, not all people get the same thing at the same time. There are many chances for you. Maybe there is something better reserved for you. The point is that never get disappointed in your life, keep going high and high, your destination will come. Life is a journey. When we stop, things don't go right.

4) Judgments are not about you.

People will never stop judging you. Even your closet friends will judge you because it's the nature of humans to judge others, whether it's positive judgments or negative judgments. So, we need to remember that these judgments are not for us. We shouldn't care about people's judgments. People will always be there to discourage you. This will not care about your struggles and achievement. Thus, don't care about judgmental statements of people and shock them with your success. If you make decisions based upon people's reactions or judgments, then you make really boring choices.

5) Over thinking will lead to sadness.

One of the topmost problems of the people of today's world is over thinking. Over thinking is an art of creating problems that don't even exist. When something bad happens in our life, we start thinking about it. That is not bad, but after sometimes we get trapped in those problems and incidents and start thinking over and over. This disturbs the peace of our mind and life and further we fall in the state of depression that kills us slowly and slowly. So crux is that, in all these types of situations, we should keep our minds calm and try to focus on new things and work that we have to do.

6) Happiness is found within.

We are all searching for happiness here and there in this world, but we should realize that the key to happiness is being happy by yourself and for yourself. You're the only person who can make yourself happy, always remember no one is there for you, everyone is struggling to deal with their own problems, no one is free in this busy world. If you think that someone will come and make you happy, this means you're lying to yourself because it's your responsibility to work for yourself, not anyone else. So, always search for happiness within yourself.

7) Your thoughts affect your mood.

There are two types of thoughts that come in your mind: negative and positive. Thoughts can build you or destroy you. Your mood and your behavior are also closely related to your thoughts. No matter how bad the situation is, your mood depends on your thoughts. If you take all the things positively, you find a better result and ultimately it will make your mood fresh and happy. If you think negatively, you will never solve your problems and this will make your mood bad and sad. So we can say that being positive is a secret to your happy mood.

8) Smiles are contagious.

" Smiles are free that you can give to everyone". A smile is worth it because it can make some happy just in the second. We saw many people, who always remain in an angry state and they smile rarely. We can also claim that that those type of people don't attract others and usually people keep themselves away from angry people. As a result, people lose their own happiness and think no one likes them. So, what we can do, we can smile. Smile, it's free therapy, it can cure your as well as other people's sadness and depression. Once mother Teresa said, "Peace Begins with a smile."

9) Kindness is free.

Kindness is also free, like a smile. There are some people who are born with this quality, but there are many people who become kind because of some incidents that happen in their life or their circumstances make them kind. Kind people are a real gem in this world because they feel the pain of others and try to help them according to their capacity. We can judge that clean hearted people attract more kind heated people than hard-hearted people. So, your kindness is directly related to your happiness and peace of mind. If you want to have a happy and peaceful life, be kind to others.

10) It's okay to let go and move on.

There are many things that we had in the past, but now we don't have the same like this. There are many people that were with us, but now they are not here. I know it's not easy to forget someone, there are a lot of memoires and feelings related with others thats why I am not going to say, forget someone because I believe that we can forget someone completely from our mind but we can let them go, If someone has gone from your life or want to go let him go because you can't stop anyone and you also have to move on, don't allow anyone to stop you. Again, I would say " People don't matter, your life matters."

11) What goes around, comes around.

This means you will attract what you do. If you do bad with someone else, bad will happen to you and if you do good with someone else, good will happen to you. Always try to do something better for humanity, always take care of the poor and orphans around you, don't hurt anyone with your action or with your tongue. In this way, you can also live a peaceful and happy life.

12) Things always get better with time.

Nothing is fixed in this world. If you're feeling down today, keep patience because it will pass, don't let anything down you. Many times things are not getting okay and this makes us hopeless and we start thinking negatively about all the things, we start hating ourselves and our lives too. This is not the solution. We should do hard work and wait for the best time to come because things will get better with time.

Credits to Dr Fami

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ADAB DALAM MAULID NABI ﷺ

Mau bermaulid Nabi Muhammad ﷺ pada puncaknya nanti malam ? Siapkan hal-hal berikut:

1. Hindarkan majlis maulid dari hal-hal yang bertentangan dengan syariat, misal bercampur antara laki-laki dan perempuan atau hingga larut malam sehingga mengganggu saudara-saudara kita yang sedang istirahat.

2. Niatkan hadir karena mahabbah kepada Rasulullah ﷺ.

Mahabbah kepada Rasulullah ﷺ mencakup tiga perkara, yaitu mahabbah karena memuliakan (seperti mahabbah anak kepada orang tua), mahabbah belas kasih atau rahmat (seperti mahabbah orang tua kepada anak) dan mahabbah sebagai perbuatan baik (seperti mahabbab kepada sesama atau seluruh muslimin).

Karena itu, Rasulullah ﷺ bersabda:

لاَ يُؤْمِنُ أَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ وَلَدِهِ وَوَالِدِهِ وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ

"Tidak seorang pun di antara kalian beriman (dengan iman yang sempurna) sampai aku (Nabi Muhammad ﷺ) lebih dicintainya daripada anaknya, orang tuanya, dan seluruh umat manusia". (HR. Bukhari dan Muslim)

Bahkan dalam hadits lain dijelaskan, iman sempurna adalah dengan mahabbah kepada Nabi Muhammad ﷺ melebihi mahabbah kepada dirinya sendiri.

كُنَّا مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَهْوَ آخِذٌ بِيَدِ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ فَقَالَ لَهُ عُمَرُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لأَنْتَ أَحَبُّ إِلَىَّ مِنْ كُلِّ شَىْءٍ إِلاَّ مِنْ نَفْسِي‏.‏ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ لاَ وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكَ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ ‏"‏‏.‏ فَقَالَ لَهُ عُمَرُ فَإِنَّهُ الآنَ وَاللَّهِ لأَنْتَ أَحَبُّ إِلَىَّ مِنْ نَفْسِي‏.‏ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ الآنَ يَا عُمَرُ

"Kami pernah bersama Rasulullah ﷺ dan beliau ﷺ memegang tangan Umar bin Khattab. Lalu Umar berkata, “Ya Rasulullah ﷺ, sungguh engkau lebih aku cintai dari segala sesuatu kecuali diriku sendiri.” Kemudian Rasulullah ﷺ berkata, “Tidak, demi yang jiwaku berada di tangan-Nya, (imanmu belum sempurna) hingga aku lebih engkau cintai daripada dirimu sendiri.” Kemudian Umar berkata, “Sekarang, demi Allah, engkau (Rasulullah ﷺ) lebih aku cintai daripada diriku sendiri.” Kemudian Rasulullah ﷺ berkata, “Saat ini pula wahai Umar (imanmu telah sempurna)” (HR. Bukhari)

3. Saat mahallul qiyam (berdiri karena ta'zhim dengan dikisahkannya kelahiran Rasulullah ﷺ) usahakan dengan perasaan zhahir dan batin seakan-akan Rasulullah ﷺ hadir dalam majlis tersebut.

4. Resapi setiap selawat dan pujian-pujian agung kepada Rasulullah ﷺ untuk menambah khusyu' dan larut dalam cinta.

5. Wangikan majelis dengan bau-bau yang harum seakan-akan Rasulullah ﷺ ada disana. Hindari rokok dan bau-bau yang tidak sedap.

6. Hindarkan majlis maulid dari ceramah yang mencaci maki kepada pihak manapun, termasuk kepada mereka yang tidak mau bermaulid.

Semoga kita bisa meraih cinta suci kepada junjungan agung, Nabi Muhammad ﷺ, pimpinan makhluk se-jagat baik di dunia maupun di akhirat.

Kredit: FB Hidayat Nur

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1. Semakin kamu diam, semakin kamu dapat mendengar.

2. Diam adalah satu di antara seni percakapan yang hebat.

3. Diam adalah emas. Dan berkata jujur adalah berlian.

4. Seandainya berdiam itu lebih baik, maka biarkan pembuktian pula yang berbicara.

5. Hati kita selalu berbicara. Malangnya ketika mulut seseorang terlalu banyak bicara, dia tidak akan dapat mendengar suara hatinya. Suara hati tersumbat oleh riuhnya suara mulutnya sendiri.

#pesanpadadiri

Ilmu Amal Bakti

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3 MACAM MANUSIA

"Manusia ada tiga macam yaitu, seseorang yang disibukkan oleh tempat kembalinya sehingga melupakan penghidupannya, maka itu adalah derajat orang-orang shalih. Seseorang yang disibukkan oleh penghidupannya untuk hari kembalinya, maka itu adalah derajat orang-orang yang beruntung. Dan seseorang yang disibukkan oleh penghidupannya sehingga melupakan tempat kembalinya, maka itu adalah derajat orang-orang yang binasa."

[ Yahya bin Mu'adz رحمة الله تعالى ]

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"Orang yang banyak ketawa itu kurang wibawanya. Orang yang suka menghina orang lain, dia juga akan dihina. Orang yang mencintai akhirat, dunia pasti menyertainya. Barangsiapa menjaga kehormatan orang lain, pasti kehormatan dirinya akan terjaga."

[ Sayyidina Umar bin Al-Khattab رضى الله عنه ]

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"Jadilah baik, maka kamu tidak perlu khawatir akan apapun dalam hidupmu. Karena kebaikan akan menjagamu. Dan kebaikan akan mengikuti langkahmu.

"Jangan menghabiskan waktu hanya menyalahkan diri ketika berbuat salah, tapi berfikirlah untuk memperbaiki kesalahan itu dengan melakukan yang lebih baik lagi."

[ Habib Quraisy Baharun ]

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Diriwayatkan ketika Ibnu Sirin ditanya,

"Adab mana yang lebih mendekatkan kepada Allah سبحانه وتعالی?"

Dia menjawab,

"Ma’rifat mengenal Ketuhanan-Nya, beramal kerana patuh kepada-Nya, dan bersyukur kepada-Nya atas kesejahteraan dari-Nya, serta bersabar dalam menjalani penderitaan."

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Perjuangan wanita ni kan ada banyak level tau.

Level 1:

Level Arwah nenek saya. Arwah Nenek kata, kalau nak hidup jangan bangkang suami, nenek anak yatim piatu, masuk sekolah rendah saja. Jangan bergaduh dengan suami, kalau suami tinggai kita, kita nak hidup macam mana, takdak pekerjaan. Cara arwah nenek memperjuangkan untuk wanita ialah memberi nasihat supaya wanita tak diceraikan suami.

Inilah Survival for women.

Level 2:

Level mak saya. Mak saya lulus sekolah menengah, boleh dapat kerja secretary. Mak pandai menyimpan duit dan tahu hak mak berkenaan nafkah. Mak selalu cakap kat bapak, your money is our money, but my money is my money. Mak memperjuangkan hak untuk mak. Apa yang penting sekali ialah mak tak pernah dengki tengok perempuan lain lebih maju dari mak dan tak pernah membawang tentang wanita lain. Mak tak boleh memperjuangkan untuk wanita lain tetapi mak tak menghalang wanita lain maju. She will stand aside on the left lane and let other women take over. Jangan dengki bila tengok wanita lain yang berjaya, tetapi berbanggalah.

Give way to other women and support their fight.

Level 3:

Level Bapak saya. Ada lelaki yang memperjuangkan hak wanita dan menjadi women’s protector seperti Bapak saya. Bapak saya pastikan bila Bapak tak ada lagi, ada harta yang bapak dah letak atas nama mak, ada harta yang bapak dah letak atas nama anak-anak perempuan Bapak. Kemudian Bapak menggalakkan anak-anak perempuan Bapak mendapat Pendidikan Tinggi ke peringkat University. Bapak nak pastikan anak-anak Bapak ada lebih peluang diketemukan dengan jodoh lelaki yang berpendidikan tinggi. Bapak kata orang lelaki berpendidikan tinggi lebih tertarik kepada wanita bijak. Jadi kalau nak jadi surirumah pun, sekurang-kurangnya anak-anak bapak yang berpendidikan tinggi boleh cari lelaki berpendidikan tinggi, dan ada degree boleh berdikari, maka boleh tinggalkan rumahtangga jika suami abusive.

Inilah women independence through education and opportunities.

Level 4:

Ini level saya.

Saya bekerja kuat untuk membuktikan yang wanita boleh naik ke pangkat tertinggi di dalam kerjaya di dalam bidang yang saya ceburi. Bukan hanya ke tahap doctor tetapi lebih tinggi lagi sehingga postgraduate ke tahap Doctorate of Medicine in Medical Research (seperti PhD di dalam bidang akademik perubatan), dari segi ke clinical ke tahap Subspecialist yang tertinggi di bidang kehamilan dan bersalin, dan ke tahap Professor.

Saya gunakan pangkat tinggi saya untuk memberi wanita lebih keyakinan dan menggalakkan wanita untuk membuat keputusan untuk diri sendiri. Kalau saya boleh buat, anda pun boleh buat. Saya mencari suami yang tidak menyekat atau menghalang kemajuan, malah mendorong saya mencapai tahap yang lebih tinggi lagi.

Saya membantu membuka minda masyarakat supaya tidak menyekat wanita yang nak maju ke hadapan melalui pendidikan masyarakat, melawan mitos-mitos dan pantang-larang yang menyusahkan wanita tanpa memberi manfaat kepada kesihatan wanita.

Inilah changing mindsets of women in society. Inilah women empowerment to make decisions for themselves.

Level 5:

Bukan saya. Saya sampai level 4 saja. Saya buka ruang ini untuk powerful women leaders berganding bahu sebagai pemimpin wanita dari pelbagai bidang yang boleh mara lagi ke hadapan untuk menggubal dan mengubah undang-undang lama untuk hak keadilan wanita dan jangan benarkan wanita Malaysia ditindas.

Inilah the birth of powerful women leaders in our society. I will stand by you and support you. I am very proud to be a Malaysian woman.

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This takes us to level 6:

A levelled playing ground. There is no artificial barrier to stop you. If you see an opportunity, you can make use of it, and have a reasonable expectation of success. This level, even men in our society have not reached their true potentials yet. To achieve level 6, men and women have to work together.

- Dr Imelda Balchin

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Tetapi dengan syarat hendaklah bersabar dan redha atas segala ujian-Nya.

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BERZIKIRLAH...

Daripada Abu Darda رضى الله عنه bahawa Rasulullah ﷺ bersabda :

"Mahukah kamu aku khabarkan akan suatu amal kebajikan yang paling baik bagi kamu, paling meningkatkan kedudukan kamu, paling disenangi oleh Tuhanmu, bahkan lebih baik daripada menafkahkan emas dan perak dan lebih mulia daripada perang dengan musuh kamu, baik ketika kamu kalah atau ketika kamu menang?"

Jawab mereka : "Mahu, wahai Rasulullah".

Sabda Baginda ﷺ : "Berzikirlah kepada Allah sebanyak-banyaknya."

[ Riwayat Muslim, Tirmidzi, Ibnu Majah ]