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Super weird to me that ‘love languages’ are treated like hogwarts houses and not like, like, different facets that appear in varying degrees of everybody

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online library so far:

margaret atwood

the brontës (the complete works is a MASSIVE file fyi)

anne carson

hélène cixous

bell hooks

clarice lispector

audre lorde

virginia woolf

compilations

feminist theory

academic writing (both books and articles)

everything here is in pdf format so you should be able to download and read it on any device. it’s slow going because i have a lot of epubs that i have to convert before uploading and the folders i’ve listed here are neither complete nor comprehensive, but it’s a start! 

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i’m trying not aimlessly scroll through social media so much so have collated some links. having other internet-related options easily accessible will HOPEFULLY mean i actually a) get round to making a dent into the backlog of stuff i thought looked interesting and b) kickstart Better Habits… obviously making a list for non-digital activities too, but putting this list on here for ease of ref / in case it’s useful to anyone else. take care all 🥰

some reading i’d like to get round to

some interesting essays

misc articles on art

horror stories

short stories by women

donna tartt’s short stories

mascara lit reviews, personally want to read the china translational issue first

poetry foundation collections e.g. environment 

web comics! first on the list: on a sunbeam 

more 

99% Invisible episodes (design and architecture) 

‘articles of interest’ mini-podcast series on some fashion history

the met collection / british library collection of manuscripts etc / “go to the museum”

listen to berlin phil (currently free) / met opera 

practise drawing hands / faces 

750words - it’s free for 30 days so the plan is to use it to kickstart a writing habit… hopefully 

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Nikki Giovanni, from an interview with Cynthia Adina Kirkwood for Los Angeles Times, Dec 4, 1985

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Clean teeth tips from a dentist:

1. First rinse your teeth with a fluoride mouthwash for at least one minute. Spit. Do not rinse with water.

2. Floss right after. Make sure to get in between every tooth and the corners of the gums. Spit. Do not rinse.

3. Brush your teeth like you regularly would.

4. Use a whitening mouthwash to finish up. Do not eat or drink anything for at least 30min after.

Do this at least twice a day. I’ve always had bad teeth growing up but now they’re amazing. Some people don’t even have to go in for their 6 month cleaning after using this method.

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A look: ponytail, hoop earrings, sweats, tank top, no bra all tiddy, poppin bubblegum.

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What are your tried and true flirting techniques? How do you build a spark with someone you randomly meet? I appreciate all of the advice and tips you’ve shared with us!

I think one of the most underrated flirting techniques is making eye contact and actually engaging with men. Society has conditioned women to avoid eye contact and engaging with men - admittedly, because men are creeps and it’s often a survival method. However, we have somewhat overdone it, and I find myself sometimes actively avoiding people around me. The good news is, once you begin to identify your mannerisms and that they’re not always necessary, you can begin to open yourself to flirting/opportunities.

Say you’re in a “safe space” in that you’re surrounded by people and you can count on the majority of them being “safe.” This scenario typically happens at specific events, but can also happen frequently on college campuses (libraries, cafes, etc.). Take a step back, and actually scan the room. Do it lazily and confidently - don’t pretend to be looking for anyone, just be taking it all in. You’ll find that men/boys our age are actually also relatively comfortable looking around a room (and most girls aren’t! lol)

ANYWAYS, if you happen to make eye contact with any guys, especially the cute ones, smile! Maintain the glance for a moment, give a half smile, and then keep looking around. That fleeting moment of eye contact that was paired with a positive response will ABSOLUTELY leave an impact on that guys mind. Some of the more confident ones will even see it as an opportunity to come over and strike up a conversation!!

Eye contact paired with a positive reaction is just so rare these days, men find it absolutely intoxicating and exhilarating.

So ya, you’ll need the look, confidence, and conversation skills to maintain a flirty disposition... but I swear the first key to it all is eye contact 😘 

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i'm sure you've been asked this a million times and i am so sorry if u have but do you have anything on learning to deal with and be okay with like being alone/loneliness? literally please ignore me if you're sick of being asked this

here are my favourite, most positive quotes on loneliness:

“I think I’ve come to terms with the fact that there will always be a ribbon of loneliness running through who I am. But that’s why I want to do comedy, and why I want to connect with people. You can use that ribbon to be a part of a finer tapestry, or you can choke yourself out with it.”

— Jenny Slate (on which my loneliness tag is based)

“& remember, / loneliness is still time spent / with the world.”

— Ocean Vuong, “Someday I’ll Love Ocean Vuong”

“Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, / the world offers itself to your imagination, / calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting — / over and over announcing your place / in the family of things.”

— Mary Oliver, “Wild Geese”

“I have been trying, for some time now, to find dignity in my loneliness.”

— Maggie Nelson, Bluets

“I don’t believe the cure for loneliness is meeting someone, not necessarily. I think it’s about two things: learning how to befriend yourself and understanding that many of the things that seem to afflict us as individuals are in fact a result of larger forces of stigma and exclusion, which can and should be resisted.

Loneliness is personal, and it is also political. Loneliness is collective; it is a city. As to how to inhabit it, there are no rules and nor is there any need to feel shame, only to remember that the pursuit of individual happiness does not trump or excuse our obligations to each another. We are in this together, this accumulation of scars, this world of objects, this physical and temporary heaven that so often takes on the countenance of hell. What matters is kindness; what matters is solidarity. What matters is staying alert, staying open, because if we know anything from what has gone before us, it is that the time for feeling will not last.”

— Olivia Laing, The Lonely City

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✧･ﾟplaylists to help pass the time *:･✧

hi everyone! it’s been a while since i made a huge playlist masterpost, but i thought that right now when we’re all stuck inside wondering what to do with our time i would make a list of all my playlists. listening to music is so calming and definitely helps me pass the time…so enjoy! - cam

songs that remind me of a fashion show 

a mix of songs that remind me of driving down the coast 

a playlist dedicated to paris 

songs that inspire me 

a dreamy mix

songs to listen to when you feel carefree

a super fun workout/running playlist to keep you pumped up 

songs to listen to during golden hour 

a mix of songs to listen to on a sunny day 

a playlist full of songs that make me feel alive 

songs that remind me of my teenage years 

a study/coffee shop playlist to keep you calm 

songs to listen to on the weekend 

songs that make me feel like living in the moment 

a friday kinda mix !

songs that remind me of a warm spring evening 

a mix dedicated to nature 

my all-time favorite songs all in one playlist 

songs that remind me of flowers and sunshine 

a 12-hour long playlist of songs that make me feel nostalgic 

songs that remind me of going back to school 

my ultimate summertime playlist 

songs that make me feel like i’m in a movie 

upbeat songs to get ready to in the morning 

songs i’m currently loving & listening to right now

a playlist dedicated to italy and all its wonders 

songs that are soft and delicate 

a mix to listen to while watching the sunrise / sunset 

a playlist for a rainy and stormy day 

songs to listen to when you wake up ! 

another nature playlist because why not?! 

a monday playlist to make your monday more enjoyable 

my springtime playlist 

songs that are bittersweet 

my girl power anthems playlist 

for the daydreamers 

songs that remind me of the spirit of traveling & exploring 

a mix to listen to before bed 

songs to listen and dance to in your kitchen 

a super fun 70s playlist 

relaxing songs for a sunday 

songs that remind me of wintertime 

for people who love the east coast 

for people who love the west coast 

a mix of lo fi beats 

songs to listen to in your car at night 

fresh finds (new songs every monday!)

the ultimate sing along playlist 

an indie playlist 

the perfect road trip / daily commute mix 

a super studious playlist to keep you extra focused 

songs that remind me of the beach 

a mix of songs to listen to when you’re j chillin

songs that remind me of a trip to outer space !

listen to this when you’re in love 

songs for stargazing…

the perfect autumn playlist 

songs that make my heart flutter 

a mix of carefree & happy tunes 

the grooviest 80s playlist around 

a mix of golden oldies 

listen to this if you like rap / r&b 

another workout playlist !

a mix of fun, upbeat songs to dance to 

a playlist inspired by call me by your name

a coming of age playlist 

a mix of songs that deserve more hype 

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Dye it but use semi permanent hair colour, it will be gone in like 6 weeks, fun temporary change + you can see wether you like it or not!

i wish i could love but my natural/virgin hair is almost black in colour so i could never do it without bleaching it :((((

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high standards protect you from low quality experiences.

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hello queen! do you have any advice on how to be kinder?

i would say... first start by acknowledging the fact that you have a huge capacity for meanness and cruelty bc everyone does. and it’s not helpful to imagine yourself as a beacon of kindness bc it undermines the fact that you inevitably will hurt people because that’s how life goes. i think a lot of people value kindness but they don’t put in the work to be nicer or more careful or more attentive and they only focus on the idea because they like the idea and they value kindness as a trait but they don’t make any changes in themself. but kindness starts by acknowledging that you haven’t always been kind and you’ll be unkind again but the point is to put more attention and care into your everyday interactions and work on being more vulnerable and delicate with people. being kind isn’t a constant state or a trait even but a conscious act and a choice you make in every interaction and relationship and so you just have to pay attention to people and be gentle with them but also honest and sincere. because kindness always starts with being genuine. but i’m not an expert but i’d like to be kinder always

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My friend asked how I learned to cook and the answer is I didn't. I know like 5 things about cooking and they are:

Always use more garlic than the recipe calls for

"Ehhh fuck it close enough" is a great measurement tool

Find like 5 recipes that you like, adjust them how you like them, make them until you hate them

Clean as you go

If a recipe is from a mommy blog, you will need more spices

If anyone wants to add, please do

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I will defend sluts until I die

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Wow, I don't know about you guys but this is SO helpful to me