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AROMANTICISM ISN'T ASEXUALITY BEING ACE DOES'T MAKE YOU ARO AND VICE VERSA STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT STOP ENFORCING THE SOCIETAL IDEA THAT SEX AND ROMANCE ARE FUNDAMENTALLY INEXTRICABLE

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There’s also a thing that people who think they’re being accepting do where they go “Not wanting romance is SO SAD AND LONELY! Not wanting to read romance novels is SEXIST! Not wanting a partner makes you a FREAK! Not having sex with your partner is BAD and ABUSIVE! Not feeling sexual attraction to your partner means there is SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU!… unless you’re aromantic or asexual, of course! Then you get a pass.” The only acceptable reason to deviate from the amatonormative and sexnormative societal norm is to claim an identity label that exempts you. The actual thing you’re doing is still bad… but don’t worry it’s OK for you to do it! It feels like, we haven’t actually challenged any norms at all, you just get a pass on them because you can’t help it, poor thing. If you have the capacity to feel these, you have the obligation to; you are only exempt if you claim an identity that says that you are unable to. It implies that we would if we could, but we can’t, and it’s merely unfair to punish us for our shortcomings. Romance and sex are still social requirements, that hasn’t changed, we just are allowed a pass on it because we are unable to meet them. (And we’re still expected to reassure everyone that of course we recognize that their romance and sex is far more important than anything we will ever be able to have!)

I don’t want aros and aces to get special exemption from the requirement to have romance and sex and romantic attraction and sexual attraction; I want that to not be a requirement for anyone.

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Why does “falling in love” have pretty much exclusively romantic connotations it’s such a good phrase. I’ve fallen in love with every single one of my friends

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the way a lot of people talk about dating makes me really sad

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It's messed up that the only legal kinship ties you can make are marriage and adoption. I think people should be able to legally make whatever kinship ties they want. What if I want to legally establish myself as someone's great-grandniece even though there are no other familial relationships between us? I should be able to do that.

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the way that people will simultaneously insist that using identity-specific language (especially when it's aro or ace) is always out of character and jarring and He Wouldn't Fucking Say That and chronically online and cringe etc etc etc and if a book has this in it then well smh those twitter writers this is so Carrd Identity Politics Brain Rot BUT ALSO no character can ever actually be aro or ace coded, no implication of disinterest in romance or sex will ever be enough to establish any kind of canonical aromanticism or asexuality and saying so is actually shitty and bad for xyz reason, you can't actually say this character IS aro or ace, they never said it, it's not canon you can't expect other people to respect or engage with your headcanons you don't own this character.

(and also like, why are we still talking about representation? don't you get that fiction is about more than this. it's about stories. representation is such a flattened concept. people are more than identities, why do you have to label everything anyway. stop asking for lists of identities tell me what you want to read about lol, don't tell me what identities are in the book tell me the GENRE, 'representation' is such a cringe thing to focus on it's such a tumblrina buzzword.)

can you perhaps predict where this might end up? let's all ponder what the outcome of this might be for aro and ace people and aro and ace creatives/audiences.

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thank god im aromantic. i think everyone should get more aromantic

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I love you aro men, i love you aro transmascs, i love you aro sapphics, i love you aro enbies, i love you heterosexual aros, i love you cishet aros, i love you aro fems, i love you butch aros, i love you gray-aros, i love you demi-aros, i love you aros who have treated as predators by the rest of the queer community, i love you aroallos, i love you aromantic people 💗

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Aroallo : individuals who are aromantic or aro-spec and also allosexual. They experience sexual attraction but do not experience romantic attraction (or experience limited romantic attraction).

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I think people who consider aromanticism as "basically straight" underestimate how noticeable absence can be to those around you.

Whether you're a kid in school with classmates who won't take "no one" as an answer to who you have a crush on or an adult whose coworkers have picked up on the fact that you've never mentioned a romantic partner; after enough time, a lack or insufficient amount of romantic interest will raise the antennae of friends, family, coworkers, etc... They will notice and they will speculate and they will ask.

It is impossible to meet the societal bar for straightness through inaction.

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I think being aro allows you to unlock levels of haterism that most people can only dream of reaching