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Innovation - Ms Phi Van - 8 megatrends

1) Giới tiêu dùng tiềm năng: Millenials: sẽ có sức mua lớn, họ quan tâm về xã hội, vấn đề toàn cầu: - Quản trị thời gian cực gắt gao: 80% cho miếng ăn, 20% cho phát triển thị trường, không thì sẽ bị biến mất. -Dành thời gian chất lượng cho việc suy nghĩ: không bị động lướt, mà giành thời gian suy nghĩ, tư duy.

2) Ngoài việc tạo ra sản phẩm, bây giờ tập trung vào việc tạo ra trải nghiệm cho người dùng, sử dụng việc cá nhân hóa: - IKEA chuyển từ sản xuất sang sửa bàn ghế và cho thuê.

3) Xu hướng về sử dụng điện thoại để cung cấp thông tin: - Mua bán qua các Chat Apps: LINE, Whatapps, Viber...

4) "Thế kỉ 21 này: - Thời gian là thứ quý nhất. Bạn làm như thế nào tiếp kiệm thời gian cho người tiêu dùng thì bạn thắng"

5) Sản phẩm phải là on-off: - Cuộc sống người tiêu dùng không phân biệt on - off nữa.Sản phẩm, dịch vụ phải đáp ứng cả on-off.

6) "Sau này máy, AI làm hết rồi mình đâu cần làm gì nữa đâu." Lúc đó bạn phải sáng tạo.

7) "Khó khăn khi tìm đầu ra" - Một: phải đi ra thế giới để biết họ ��ã làm tới đâu rồi. Đi ra nước ngoài hay đi siêu thị để xem sản phẩm & sức tiêu dùng. - Hai: Không như doanh nghiệp VN, tạo sản phẩm rồi mới kiếm thị trường, phải bắt đầu từ nhu cầu thị trường rồi mới tạo ra sản phẩm. Và bắt đầu phase 1 ở thị trường dễ, đơn giản trước. - Ba: tạo ra một đội ngũ sáng tạo liên tục để tạo ra sản phẩm mới, làm việc liên tục. Sáng tạo là một quá trình, không phải là một event.

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How much is your value?

Why do we talk about value here?

I’d like to think of an example of “Tôi thấy hoa vàng trên cỏ xanh” - a movie of Victor Vũ. The film brought revenue of 78 billion VND to the filmmakers. What value does the film give to the people? that they can receive back such an enormous amount of value back.

When we talk about value, I define it as how much benefit a product/service gives to the buyer, that makes them buy - spend a part of their time, energy, money - the mean to do what they want, to be a part of the product/service.

The value of “TTHVTCX” is not something you can touch, smell, or eat. It is a series of pictures that evoke people’s emotion, memory, connect them. After watching the movie, I felt happier, I felt a part of me in the character’s life, that the emotion and psychological process of people in teenagers are real, and the curiosity, the climax, the feeling of overcoming hardship that I felt a part of it, the joy, the sadness, that somehow help me to be who I am, and better myself. That helps me believe in myself, my thoughts, my feelings, and don’t judge people by their appearance, about brotherhood in life, treasure it.

So to put it in a nutshell, the film lets people see themselves in it, and bases on that to better people’s life. Think more broadly, a product/service should let people see themselves in it, and better themselves. A cup of coffee in a coffee shop lets people make themselves comfortable, working independently, autonomously, creates a place where people can communicate and feel better about themselves and when they work, they better themselves.

An English lesson should help people to be themselves: the topics they want to talk about, to study, let them be a part of it, and bases on that to better themselves.

"Business is about dealing with people”, and the business that has great value should let people see themselves in it, and base on that to better themselves. The business has great value in return if it’s scalable, that spread value in mass, and receive value back in mass.

Through English, communication, public speaking, how can you let people see themselves in it? How can you better themselves base on who they are? How can you spread out the value in mass?

Currently, you’re helping people to better their language skill by beginning from their level, and ability, their topics of interest (Thịnh - maritime, Sin - marketing, Hieu - the tourism, THP - accounting, Như & Huy - art & business - IELTS, Thụ - The business) and better their communication to reach to a wider community, that helps them to understand who they are, help them learn new things.

Currently, I think my value is not in the knowledge that I know, I need time to refine my English. Currently, my value is in the ability to simplify the process of studying English, makes it closer to people’s lives, listen to them and feel totally passionate about that. When I begin from people’s interest, I can help them to better themselves. And I might connect their betterment with the end-goal, connect them to the knowledge of the world - the Internet.

Though I might make mistakes along the way, I might be not as good as the English people. But the business is about people, start from people, and better themselves. Not how much I know, but how good I am in making it closest to people’s need and easiest to better themselve.  Then I’m on the right track, and maybe I’m already worth 80% the value that benefits people. The value in terms of money? I don’t know yet. But when people pay me to teach them, I really like it.

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Keep it under your hat

I attended a training today of Mr. Trí from awake your power. And it was very meaningful, let me share something about it:

First he dressed up with a hat to illustrate the very strong point of keep it under your hat. A pair of sunglasses to keep his eyes mysterious from the beginning. The slide was very simple, it had sound, color and the silence from the beginning caught attention.

ð  It proves that the importance of catching attention from people, by using silence is very powerful!

ð  Imagine yourself standing in front of people, staying silent, feeling the energy, how cool is that?

ð  Then the simple slide: running words, colors, space proved that he was superman of all tools that capture people attention.

What were the messages you can pick out of these?

Firstly: if we have an idea, and it’s important enough, should keep it under my hat. Write it out, and work my ass off to create it.

ð  He’s a living proof that things will work if you do it like him. Also, he’s a living role model that I should seek for mentorship. That’s the style that I always want to follow.

Though my situation is different from him, but I believe that if I continue to walk, I’ll get to where I’m supposed to be. It happens all the time: if the condition right, life happens.

ð  He’s a living proof of the book mastery: finding my life task, why was I born and living to prove it day by day by working on it, using hands, and it takes time to work toward it, 5-10 years. Now I’m in the right condition: in Toastmaster, realizing my life task of helping people, and I’m out of everything now, I’m doing it. If Mr. Trí lost all of his money, self-esteem. And begin again, don’t pay attention to the money, but work his ass off, putting ideas into real life. If he can do it, so can I, I don’t care much about money, that’s why I’m so struggling with it, but I truly believe that if I keep asking, keep teaching and preparing them well enough, I’ll be okay.

Secondly: 1) don’t show what you don’t have.

2) don’t teach what you don’t do.

ð  If I don’t do public speaking, I won’t teach them. So the time I speak onstage in the contest. That’s the living proof that I earn the right to teach.

ð  Speaking in English is a living proof that I earn the right to teach English, because I know how to get here.

ð  His style of being serious about the message he’s delivering lift up the energy inside me, my energy breaks into tears when he stated his conclusion.

3) don’t talk what you don’t know (reading a book is other’s people experience, not yours).

It leads to a setting another of my core value: work to illustrate my words.

Thirdly: sharing it with my comrade. The one who believes in my idea and support it for the rest of our lives.

What is the structure of his speech:

his approach is simple, and he kept saying all the time that it’s simple:

I wanted to share my secret, he stated the point, and he proved it with:

Firstly, his research about the powerful living proof: Steve Jobs, uncle Hồ, about the year: He asked which year they revealed the IPhone, IPod? That was very smart, firstly he aroused curiosity and getting people attention, secondly he told people that he’s well prepared and taking control, and proving credibility. I think that’s awesome!

Secondly, he linked that into his own life, what has he done in order to keep his dream under his hat and work his ass off toward it. The authentic story of how he wrote down his dream.

Thirdly, he linked that to people’s lives, by examples, simple but happening around their lives: like love, family, the right audience of school life, of career.

Instead of calling the friend who laughs with you when it’s fun, he called them: the hihihaha friend. That stated the point without having to describe it.

His stage control was very moving, he moved left to right, and when you move, your brain works better, and feeling the momentum and increase self-confidence and speak until you realize you have spoken so much.

And the way he illustrated the point was superb: he linked it to daily lives, acted out a lot of conversations, and using the voice to make it funny, elaborated it using body, dancing, stage control was superb! Interacted with the audience was superb! And what else did he do to illustrate? He asked questions and raising hands, he provided with videos, “Share the story”, and using story, using his voice in “whispering”.

He skillfully nested in his lives: by using his own life’s story: so people understand who he is, his work.

His conclusion was very inspiring! He commanded strong voice, voice under the chest, showing that he commanded power that challenging people with the action words that even I didn’t want to focus but I still had to focus on.

What is your style?

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Business relationship - Leadership

It’s been 6 months since the first day Lan Anh proposed to form a business together with me, 12th Jan 2016. When I left I had only 30 mil, and current time I still have 30 mil. Money is the same, but much more fun experience. I’m totally shifted to working mode, teaching in weird time like 7 a.m. and 1 p.m. and caught up whole week preparing lessons, teaching, and planning for the somewhat called business. I've been questioning myself a lot whether should I run a class by myself, teaching, and care for each student at a time. Or involved in Lan Anh's plan about the business, cause sometimes I feel like she doesn't care for the students or the people she's working with. She also said that she realized it, and I feel inferior whenever talking with her, cause I feel she's done more than I do, and in a coffee shop, we had meeting, she was angry because when Rich became the Salesman for Toastmasters, he would get all the contract that we could have got. When we did the workshop online, that's the time when she was really agressive and blamed it all on EIY side, how close minded they were and didn't want to close it. When we had a conversation about the money we can earn after the Verz couse, she held her opinion and asked questions and made the argument that she should earn more money. I had a shock about the money she took, and the amount she shared for me. I didn't know what to do, I didnt know about this money thing, about the share, I blamed myself for not being prhaoactive in this contract.

Actually I didn't know what to do. I was afraid of her, but I want to continue this business cause she really has the ability to run business, she asks out, shamelessly sells the business, get the contract, closes the deal. If I don't do business with her, it'll be hard to find the room, and the life that I'm having right now, I'll not have a chance to learn on the way like how to make a plan, how to deal with customers, how to network and learn from it. And thinking about the future, with her ability to set the plan and delegate people to do it, I'm quite confident that this can go far, and it opens up new opportunities.

If I don't work with her, I will not concern much about business thing, thinking about what can I get, what can they get, money in a relationship.

I've been fascinated about the leadership style of Simon Sinek, I feel deeply connected to his talk and his perception about the leadership style based on the emotion credit, the willing to give to others for free and receive back the emotion, the feeling, the chemicals that drive us and give us the feeling of happiness. that help people feel safe and willing to do anything for the leader, with blood, sweat, and tears. It's always an ideal that we all should look up. But to be honest, it's something like a too good to be true. Only happens in dreams, or like: "It's for the great people. Not my business."

But it's what you're living for? Making money, disregard people who I'm teaching? Disregard the concern of the people I'm working with?

Actually that should not the way, and actually you can choose to care for the people you're working with, for example you can choose to care for Hien, listen to her concerns and can manage somehow to make it better.

Not being with Lan Anh, in this business, no way you can have chance to practice and learn this.

Am I on a balance mode? Between truly care for people you're working with, and at the same time be serious about the work you're creating, be critical and make the work best. The Good to Great book says that the first thing you ever do is to find a right person. And how can you find a right person? You go out there and pick them? No. It's you find the most potential one, work with them, test, until you can confidently say that the right person. And Along the way you can make mistake to learn and not to choose that kind of person more.

I think she's got one thing that you should strive for the rest of your life, do the work, expect higher, and ask for it, work for it, instead of going home and watching porn shit, live healthier life. And know what you're doing.

I want to find people who I can work with that can change my life to a better life, thanks to them I can do it. Without them I can never do it, because I'm not good at doing everything by myself. Sometimes I need time to be alone, but in this life I need their support, to live. And working with Lan Anh gives me that opportunity. It's my choice to follow Simon Sinek leader style, to put other first, and all I do is to do it, to act as what I perceive.

I don't know if Lan Anh is a right person to work with, I don't know if we can make it a super long lasting business, I don't know if Lan Anh's gonna take the business and kick me out or not, but I want to build this business, I want to teach, but somewhere inside, I want to make this big as well. I want to keep it a good quality class as well. And in order to do that I need to work on it. I'm sure that if I remove the workload, I'll feel less excited and will not have motivation to work that hard and feel cool like this. If I've ever made mistake, I think this is the time. This is my life and I want to do something about it.

I'll work on two things:

1. Care for people working with me.

2. Set the vision for the business.

3. Set clear my role in the business, and start contribute to it: study content, sharing a little bit sales.

I'll still keep the relationship with Lan Anh and learn from it, and take the risk, and practice my leadership skill by caring for people.  

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Fucking chores

Living together can be annoying, I fucking hate the way that whenever I open a text display, whenever it comes to “Chi Trang Beta 2″, it’s the fucking complaint about some fucking thing: “Why don’t you clean the house? Why don’t you clean the house completely? Why didn’t you clean up the drainpipe? Why didn’t you clean the food?” 

It’s all fucking stuff that I feel fucking annoyed whenever I think about them. Though I fucking care about them, it fucking comes along with me and annoys me whenever I’m trying to have fucking time for my life.

This evening, sitting in Phuc Long, I’m about to learn something new from Delivering Happiness, learning some fucking thinking for myself, spending some fucking time for myself, but whenever I pick up the phone, the fucking hard feeling just pops up and distracted me from a day with a cool feeling.

Can we fucking work this out? I think the profound reason for this is the annoying feeling of not having anyone to share the housework, the living place, the joy and the sadness of having a baby. In my life, I don’t want to fucking care about those, cause I want to live a life that so far I have been thirsting for, a free life which can earn money, do whatever I want to do, learn new things, help people, spend time for myself, create the unique things. And thrive in this life.

I feel like life is drifting rapidly with all my youth, I think I only have 4 years left. I’m 26 right now, all I want is to learn fucking hard at something, learn and work that I totally forget everything, just for my growth, my passion, new things, I don’t care about the stuff, those can be bought later years of my life. Even now I don’t have a girlfriend, I think I’m still fine. My life so far is like without a girlfriend, and I’m okay with that. Sometimes I feel like I don’t have enough time for myself. but I still want those time I’m working for people and earn fucking money and do the things I love, and caring them and giving me the sense of fulfillment. I’m willing to give up everything for that.

Does this thing is an unstable thing? That it’ll soon come and go? I think as long as I keep walking, then there’ll be people come to study English with me, and English now is a challenge that I want to conquer. I want to do everything related to communication, coaching, helping people grow and learn about psychology things, and boost up people’s energy. I don’t want to care about those things. I think there are people who can live independently and be happy with their time. This is my fucking life and sometimes I don’t feel worth it that I have to suffer this feeling: always feel guilty like the fucking house chore and the fucking sorrow is your fucking fault. 

Is it a crime when you don’t care for people who is having the time of themselves? What if you can move outside and have the time of your life? What if you can spend the rest of your life doing this? What if you can travel the world, help bring up the Toastmasters to the society? What if you can have a fucking life that you won’t regret? What if they have to take care of their lives? What if they have to make the decision? 

Let me check my finance. Let’s see how much per month is enough for you to sustain the current life that you want.

Tell you later.

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Game on! Dance on!

It’s a Sunday, I woke up around 8 a.m. and was excited cause I knew I would go to a dance class! A dance class you know! All the time it’s been my bucket list, joining a fucking dance class, and feel it.

This morning is a first chance I’m on the way to make real my wishes. This morning, I had breakfast, Quang noodle, came home cleaned up the house a little bit, then headed to the dance class.

It was quite far but the old woman in parking area made me comfortable with a warm welcome, she knew how to treat new people. The dance floor was on 3rd floor, it was spacious with wood floors, there was a water jug as well. Surrounding was glasses. There was a small stage and two loudspeakers. There were about 16 people, all younger than me I think. The moment I looked at me in the mirror, there was a voice: “Oh! This guy, again, looking young but not very outstanding, I mean appearance”, though you’ve improved a lot in clothes and appearance, but still not super fantastic as I’ve always wanted. I think maybe partly because I’ve been tired all week, the chickenpox, so my face doesn’t look good and I compared to other people around, I wanted to be cooler than them, but they also are still finding themselves. Are you finding yourself as well? Well, I’m on the job that I love it! The lifestyle that I’ve always wanted, now actually I want to develop more of my style, especially my appearance based on looking at me in the mirror. Just like other youngster on the way to define themselves. I realized that I’m on the way to do that too. Getting out of the current life: English teaching, Toastmasters, I got out of them and joined a fucking place that I’ve never been into, I mean going alone, to new culture, new way of living, dressing, communicating, and connecting. I seemed to be the slowest one to catch up with the teacher. 

It’s been a long time I haven’t learned something totally for myself. Now it’s the time. 

Back to the class, when the teacher came, he was a handsome and cool guy, tall, fair and bright skin, super cool tatoo on one arm, bracelet, cap, dark shirt, and black sweatpants. and a necklace. All those accessories fit into his style perfectly, I really like it. He opened saying everybody to warm up, together with the music, the “We don’t talk anymore” and “Em đã biết”. I really felt into the music together with the movements, the he closed his eyes, felt the music, together with the body’s movements, the muscles, the beat, the rhythm, I felt amazed, it’s that when we can express ourselves, listen to our feeling and emotion. The movements were also super cool, not like a machine or aerobic, showing power. But it was aesthetic, now I know our body and movement and posture can be that beautiful. I loved it! Then we headed to the dance, He didn’t explain what song it was, or what meaning behind it, just headed to the movements, one movement after another, it was quite fast though. My mind and body couldn’t catch up with that, I kept forgetting the movement, and the transition between one to another. I tried to look and imitate him but at the same time tried to look at myself in the mirror, and felt that my body actually was moving, and remembering the movement, the beat, then later on the music, but it was fun I did some simple movement and felt pretty cool about it. I could see others they were following pretty well, it was a practicing thing though, keep practicing. 

I think I’ll join this dance class more, I want to develop myself also before it’s too late. I’m 26 already, and feeling quite tired after the movement.

Imagine myself after 1 year practicing dancing, how awesome and flexible by body would be?

This proves one of my best characters that daring to try new things, feeling pretty small from the beginning but keep going, not learning very fast or excellently as others I know, but I know I’m a slow learner, and keep learning everyday, and regularly as well. Game on! Dance on!

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The human - the feeling

I’ve been fascinated by the insights of Simon Sinek - a Ted talk speaker, about the Human factor, about the human brain, the chemicals that control how we feel, and the feeling approach that addresses the reason why we live on this Earth. Is it because the money? Is it because the asset we can have? Or is it about being happy.

5 months ago, I led my boss to a meeting room, and told him that I wanted,... to leave this job. “Oh, why is it?” I said “Nothing about the company, but personally it’s my interest in teaching English. I have been doing teaching part-time and I think now it’s the right time to move to full time.” He said “Ok” with a smile on his face. After that, I didn’t tell my parents because I was afraid that they would be worried, but more importantly, I was afraid that they would tell me again that how stupid and reckless I was, what about money in the future? What about my save up? I could be starved again like the time I quit my previous job. Have you ever been through when someone tells you that: No! Do not do this. Do this you will get this bad and that bad.” But you still were doing it? One of the reason was because you wanted to prove that they’re wrong. But even better that you felt right, you trusted your decision.

I am a kind of person that makes decision on feeling. I might have been thinking about a decision much, rational, but at the end, above all, it’s the gut feeling that makes my decision. Since the time that I joined Toastmasters, allowed to speak, prepared speech, answering table topics, I’ve trusted my feeling more and more. Cause you cannot avoid your feeling when you stand up here, whether nervous or excited. So it’s funny to reason that Toastmasters has encouraged me to quit my two jobs so far.

How many of you quit your job after joining Toastmasters? How many of you thinking about quitting your job after joining Toastmasters?

...

Not many, of course, because they’re busy attending their farewell at their company right now.

So I value my feeling even more than my money. Have you ever chosen a company not because about the salary, but about things you can learn, and people you enjoy working with? Have you ever liked a thing, mobile phone, shirt, book, even they’re super expensive, equal to your 3-months salary, but you still bought it?

What did we feel after it? “Yes, I own this, feel great!”. But the next day felt a bit guilty, this is very expensive. Because that feeling’s gone.

According to Simon Sinek, we - human - are social animal, there are chemicals that control our feeling, feeling good, and that feeling drive us, aspire us in this life.

There is a research in ... university that if you ask people enough why questions, they will end up saying because they want to feel happy, a feeling..

Conclusion: I don’t want you to depend much on the petty feeling, or die out of resent like Chí Phèo, but I want you to recognize that we - human are driven mostly by feelings. 

What if ...

What if...

And if you listen to the feeling of your life decision, move toward things make you happy, away from things make you bored. One day when you wake up and say: “I’m really excited, I really love what I’m doing, it’s gonna be a wonderful day!”.

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Long time coming back

Long time no see dude!

Things have changed a lot since last post man. 

After Tet ended, I moved to Saigon to begin everything again. On the way, it was very exciting that I lied on the coach, texting old scholars to get them study with me. And it was so surprising that how many scholars I’ve got out of that? Ms Linh, Ms Băng, Như. Good beginning.

Then I continued the sales with Chí Hiếu, Hạnh. Before Tet I had Annie, Công Hiếu, and Mr Quyền. Now I’m making almost 9mil per month. Before Tet, I was wondering how can I make those. And it was very surprising that I could make a living and pay off the rent after just 2 months. More than my expectation that time.

Since then, I have been busy with preparing main content, for each class, arranging schedule, counting money, building the room, making speech contest, and each class is a challenge for me cause I receive feedback after each and making content for next day, personalized it for each scholar.

Just 2 weeks ago, mom and dad visited and I broke into tears coz of too much pressure. Now I’ve got accustomed to this life. Preparing main content, teaching, earning money, keep asking, feeling insecure but excited at the same time. I’m very lucky coz this feeling narrows me to the point that I have to take action, keep moving. And when I move, each class, each Toastmasters meeting, gradually, I gain confidence over the time and right now, I’m having the flow back, and it even happens longer. 

Especially this week: fearlessly participating in RMIT event, the Area A3 contest, singing! Hahaha, it was super fun, and making the beginning joke that 4 out of 35 people laughed, 2 of them I rehearsed the joke earlier. 

But I didn’t feel as nervous as the before, maybe because I’ve been quite hardened with it. Looking back last year, I have practiced 2, sometimes 4 times a week, failed and felt frustrated most of them. 

There is a good thing about it, I need to tell, it is it allows me to participate more, and catch the chance whenever public speaking, teaching opportunity comes. Whenever I fail, I can get out of the emotion and start asking more question of how to make it better, and surrounding myself with friends that I can learn from: skills, their attitude, and their conditions are just like me. Like knowing Uy Nguyễn & Thịnh: they seek for as many people as possible to listen to their speech in prior and giving feedback. It’s a progress, not a lone event. 

Being grateful for this. But being realistic helps me realize that all of these are my own effort also, to dare to show up,  dare to take action and ask for it. That it is my effort spending hours to prepare teaching content, accept the failures and move on, practice the speech, stay up late night to study IELTS, cannot sleep thinking about it. So...

Within 2 months but I’ve never been so alive, and learned so much in selling, perceiving my values, getting feedback, and being aware of the the need, the real money or value that people willing to give to me, that my current ability is super worth it. That it can contribute to the society.

I remember walking in RMIT campus, being showed around the school super facilities that I’ve only had chance to see it on American movies. And communicated with students in English and got connected, that my English fit in with people who study oversea for 6 years, and people who study in a school which English is the main language.

I connected , encouraged, lead instead of blaming or withdrawing or being afraid of what people think of me. And even turn it into positive when I proactively accept and make it better. 

Carrying that attitude and evaluating in STMC meeting yesterday, I had the ability to begin with people’s need explain the meaning and elaborated out from that. That’s huge. That gives me the self-confidence feeling, not the easy-to-be-extinguished feeling, like listening to music or mimicking other people’s style. But the feeling of understanding clearly what I’m doing, knowing where does it come from, and knowing that it’s a part of me, that it will last, or at least I know how to bring it up.

I guess that’s the way it is, that’s what the “Mastery” book mentioned. 

I remember practicing in front of the mirror, the beginning joke, dancing, loud my voice! and danced! Yes, I danced, and it looked so good, felt so great. That time I told myself to straight my back up, so I felt powerful, and worthy, and I deserve to speak, to state my own opinion, that’s when I choose whether to communicate with people or not. And saved my energy for speaking 2 evaluations the day after in Toast meeting.

The slow work and gradually built confidence brought me here, I know it’s fundamental, I have a direction to go, now it’s the time for me to ask, for myself, and knowing that doing it will also help people too, now it’s the time for me to take care of myself, listening to my opinion, the time for me to be independent, knowing the think line between connection of me and others. And accept, and act right. Now is the time to confront the reality, accept, and do something about it to make it better. Now is also the time to balance between self and people. Doing so allow me to create my habit and go for a long run. Now is just 2 steps only, thousands of steps waiting for me. Let’s keep walking, and knowing that whether I reach the destination or not, I will enjoy every step and learn from it.

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[?]Tại sao viết, vẽ tay lại quan trọng?

Tưởng tượng trong đầu mình có 2 thằng não, 1 thằng tía lia không ngừng tìm kiếm quan sát những thứ xung quanh, chụp lấy và quăng cho thằng não ý thức còn lại nhận xét, phân tích...

Có một sự kết nối siêu mạnh giữa cái não và cái tay, được phát triển từ thời ông bà nguyên thủy vẽ hang, mài dụng cụ... Đó là lý do tại sao ngoài nghiên cứu, Einstein còn ghiền chơi đàn violin hay piano. (Đọc trong sách Mastery - Robert Greene)

Việc đặt cây viết xuống, ghi, là hướng sự chú ý của thằng tía lia xuống 1 việc duy nhất, bắt nó làm việc, kết nối tất cả ý tưởng đang bị phân tán tía lia lại theo một dòng chảy có định hướng, dòng chảy liền mạch nhờ nét bút này, chảy tới đâu, quay lại thấy dòng chảy đã đi được, thấy khoái, lại chảy tiếp, tạo nên cái đà, hên hên hốt được những ý tưởng xịn trên đường đi, "sáng tạo" hơn.

Xét rộng hơn, viết chữ cũng là vẽ hình ảnh, mình vẽ những hình ảnh theo 1 quy luật được đồng ý chung, để người khác khi nhìn hình đó nhận ra ý mình muốn nói gì. Vậy lỡ như 1 người có một ngôn ngữ riêng của họ thì sao? Một số cách có thể dùng để diễn đạt là doodle - vẽ nguệch ngoạc nhưng diễn tả điều người đó đang muốn nói, hay vẽ tranh, cũng là một cách diễn đạt. Nó là một cách để tập trung, hướng chú ý của thằng tía lia về 1 việc duy nhất, 1 hướng duy nhất mà thôi, thay vì nhảy mỗi nơi nghĩ mỗi chút, làm thằng não ý thức xử lý chút chút, mệt.

Vậy nên mai mốt lúc nghe giảng, nghe họp chán òm, nhức đầu, hãy xách viết lên mà vẽ bậy, sẽ giúp thư giãn, thậm chí sáng tạo và họp học hiệu quả hơn, thay vì suy nghĩ tứ tung càng thêm nhức đầu. Có một ý tưởng, ý định gì đó muốn làm, đặt viết xuống viết nó ra, nó sẽ giữ cho mình tập trung hơn.

‪#‎Psychology‬ ‪#‎OneEssayAtATime‬

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Empathy

"Being able to place yourself to any degree in the mind-set of others is a brilliant means of loosening up your own thought process, which will tend to get locked into certain ways of seeing things. Your ability to empathize with others is related to the creative process of feeling your way into the subject you are studying." Mastery

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The human comedy

The world is full of people with different characters and temperaments. We all have a dark side, a tendency to manipulate, and aggressive desires. The most dangerous types are those who repress their desires or deny the existence of them, often acting them out in the most underhanded ways. Some people have dark qualities that are especially pronounced. You cannot change such people at their core, but must merely avoid becoming their victim. You are an observer of the human comedy, and by being as tolerant as possible, you gain a much greater ability to understand people and to influence their behavior when necessary.

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See people as they are: Social intelligence

“One of the greatest obstacle to our pursuit of mastery comes from the emotional drain we experience in dealing with the resistance and manipulations of the people around us. If we are not careful, our minds become absorbed in endless political intrigues and battles. The principal problem we face in the social arena is our naive tendency to project onto people our emotional needs and desires of the moment.”

Benjamin Franklin story:

“Complete and radical acceptance of human nature. People possess ingrained qualities and characters. Some are frivolous, or vindictive, or rigid... There are people like this everywhere; it has been that way since the dawn of civilization. To get upset or try to alter them is pointless - it will only make them bitter and resentful... Better to observe and accumulate knowledge on human nature, as one accumulates knowledge in the sciences. If he could follow this new path in life, he would rig himself of his terrible naivete and bring some rationality to his social relations.”

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“Playing on Norris’s emotional nature,...”

“Social intelligence is nothing more than the process of discarding the Naive Perspective and approaching something more realistic.”

“The empathic skill is super important, to put ourselves in other’s shoes. Not because of the selfless cause, but to accept the reality that people cannot be changed, it is to understand them and make use of the relationship. For good reason: cooperation.”

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What is said in Benjamin Franklin story is this:

Each person has the right to live life by their choice, and to satisfy their needs whether it’s considered to be bad in the moral perspective. And that’s untouchable, I cannot change them, judge them, or criticize them or holding resent and hoping one day they will change. It’s like comparing my family to others, or comparing my girlfriend to others. This attitude is a childish, naive approach: “I need candy, mom! Other children have it, I must have it!”. “I need listening, Mai! Why don’t you listen to me like Lan Anh!?” It’s like I need it, and I blame, coddling like a baby crying for milk. 

I think what’s great about me is I’m capable of empathizing with others easily, whether the staff in “Think in a box”, or my colleagues. And further is my girlfriend whenever I approach a situation, when she talks about her friends, Khoa, and Hien, ... If putting myself in her shoes. Maybe she wants to open her network, she wants to make friend and learn from people, she wants to care for each of them, she wants to feel connected in the crowd, but from the other hand to feel special, and that’s why she wants to have me a boyfriend, who understands her, and makes her feel special when the outside world’s gone, but to give her freedom when that world comes, to freely explore and enjoy time with others, and require me to be independent on myself, and so I become charming.

If understand that, and recognize that she’s hard to find, the core of growing and freeing each other but still keep in touch with each other. I would have acted differently, that must care when us alone, and connect with each other, giving her feedback and respect. But when hanging out with others, stay independent and cool, and handling myself. 

“How you saw in others qualities they did not possess, or how you ignored signs of a dark side to their nature. In doing this, you will be able to clearly see the discrepancy between your illusions about who they are and the reality.”

Write about my family, how do my parents act in our family way.

There is an untold things behind the scene that people connect, and if I’m calm enough, not to break into aggressive emotion, I’d get advantage from it.

And I have empathy, and on the way to do it. I think I’m on the right track, should be proud of it, perceive the reality is that and create my own path by getting people around to support.  It’s like I’m on my own in one hand, but having lots of support from the other hand.

Life not only requires you to get mastered at your true calling, inclination, but also dealing with the people around to not get distracted at the political game and media and rumors, but be able to take a calm observation, learn the way to cooperate and develop my career.

I’m aware of this, I already have empathy, I’m smart enough, It’s not too late, I have time. As long as I keep doing this, I’ll thrive.

Respectful, noble, talented, charismatic Alpha :)

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Mastery_Finding mentor examples

“He was not a teacher who told you what to do; he let you find your own way, including your own mistakes, but would lend you support when you needed it...

The choice of the right mentor is more important than you might imagine. Because so much of her future influence upon you can be deeper than you are consciously aware of, the wrong choice can have a net negative effect upon your journey to mastery...

Do not simply choose the first possible mentor who crosses your path. Be prepared to put as much thought into it as possible...

“If your path is in a more revolutionary direction, you will want a mentor who is open, progressive, and not domineering.”

 ... “In this case, the right choice can perhaps provide what your parents didn’t give you - support, confidence, direction, space to discover things on your own.”

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Finding a mentor

The connection between “Mastery” & “Blink”

“Tennis instructors, for example, can only reveal many secrets of their skills by demonstrating things before their pupils’ eyes. Instructors may not in fact be completely conscious of what makes their backhand so effective, but in watching them in action pupils can pick up the pattern and motion, exploiting the power of mirror neurons. But this process of absorption is also relevant to nonmanual skills. I t was only through constant exposure to Davy’s thought process that Faradayt understood the power of finding the crucial experiment to demonstrate an idea, something he would adapt later on with great success.

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Are you getting over this?

Walking in Lotte mall, feeling small when I see people being healthy, and comfortable: English teacher, beautiful girls, middle age ladies. No worries in their eyes, but confidence.  Walking upstairs, seeing employees, security guys doing awkwardly greeting customer, confusing, boss aggressively telling employees this, that should be done. Car holders don’t bother to help customers. 

Sitting in the office, people playing games, playing football table, reading newspaper, fighting animatedly. I feel really bad with no purpose, what the heck is this working environment? After working some jobs, seeing there are others taking it easy, finishing their works, enjoying the music and conversations, watching others a bit for fun. There is time I did the job very well, earned much money, teaching, having fun, earning award in speech contest, very happy and confident. This time again about to leave job, worrying about money, habit, feelings when being alone and being doubt. 

Right now, just finished a yogurt, feeling pretty relaxed, looking at the bright  sky and broad view, feeling loving life again. I remember few days ago, I’m well, doing each small task, feeling totally confident and excited with the free time ahead, actively seeking the job and pursue my learning facilitator career.

I guess it depends on the attitude, keep doing the work and I’ll get over this.

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Mastery, 7. Combine the “how” and the “what”

Santiago Calatrava’s story:

“He liked to draw - rocks, trees, buildings, people. Their outlines would slowly soften as the day progressed. Nothing he drew was ever really static; everything is in a state of change and motion - that is the essence of life.”

“After fourteen years of a university apprenticeship in art, architecture, and engineering.” - Einstein's Relativity Theory right here.

My perspective:

No matter what in school or job, business. It all comes down to actually doing the things. In school will give you time to slowly nurture and figuring out your talent. While outside forces you run with immediate feedback, and handling lots of criticism and real loss. And depend on different working sector: me is to work with real people, Santiago Calatrava is to work with designs & already existing construction and slowly analyze them. That’s real thing to study. In teaching, what’s real is working with people, each conversation, talk at a time.

Robert Green’s perspective:

“We humans live in two worlds. First, there is the outer world of appearances - all of the forms of things that captivate our eye. But hidden from our view is another world - how these things actually function, their anatomy or composition, the parts working together and forming the whole. This second world is not so immediately captivating. It is harder to understand. It is not something visible to the eye, but only to the mind that glimpses the reality. But this “how” of things is just as poetic once we understand it - it contains the secret of life, of how things move and change. 

This division between the “how” and the “what” can be applied to almost everything around us...

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We live in the world of a sad separation that began some five hundred years ago when art and science split apart. Just before this split occurred, it was the ideal of the Renaissance to combine these two forms of knowledge. This is why the work of Leonardo da Vinci continues to fascinate us, ... As Calatrava intuited, this should be a part of our apprenticeship.

We must make ourselves study as deeply as possible the technology we use, the functioning of the group we work in, the economics of our field, its lifeblood. We must constantly ask the questions - how do things work, how do decisions get made, how does the group interact? Rounding our knowledge in this way will give us a deeper feel for reality and the heightened power to alter it.

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Do we need to consider all criticism right away?

I have been out of breath these days. I don’t feel well. Sneezing every early morning, getting up mind lots of worries, especially when taking a shower. I feel cold in my throat, sore. Every evening feel restless, hard to sleep and ended up watching porn, or music videos. Telling myself that’s a good thing knowing another culture, street culture. But it damages my health. With too much information around I have to consider, and takes away my energy and effects the next day when I had to work on things I’ll be doing: touring, teaching.

Do Son Tung or Karik, Mr T, ones who got criticized had to take each of that seriously, right away? 

I remember reading a poem in “Pour your heart into it” - Howard Schultz’s book:

“ If you can keep your head when all about you       Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,   If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,     But make allowance for their doubting too;   ... If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute   With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,   Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,       And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son! “

Rudyard Kipling - a poet

If considering all of criticism right away, it will lower myself, and kill myself immediately. That’s when I need to respect myself, giving myself inner space and my own opinion. But from the other hand, their criticism is a good source of comments filling in a bigger picture of another aspects of an issue. If I’m able to listen to those, I’ll take advantage and better my works.

Everything has it’s balance. And my role is to control myself, give me space for my power, then recognize that I need those criticism to better myself.

Then those Son Tung, Karik, Mr. T, whenever hearing those underground criticism, or whatsoever, my advice is they keep their temper at that point, just trust themselves and continue doing works that they find fun, honest to themselves. And whenever they want to consider many aspects of their product, growing it, that’s when they need to thank those underground guys for giving them valuable feedback, of what’s right to create a work that connect true self interest, and unite people.