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i made a generator for yall to see what ur genders are

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i'm sorry but this is the only submission to this trend that i'll consider giving any thought to

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yayyyy mutuals hiiiiiiiii reblog if you love your mutualssssssss hiii mutuals

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do me a solid and just reblog this saying what time it is where you are and what you’re thinking about in the tags.

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"The Stoppables"

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Black Satin Brocade Bodice with Yellow Flowers and Green Velvet Bows

c.1890

made by American designer Miss Foley

brocaded silk satin, cotton net, and beads

Phoenix Art Museum

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a lot of men really just seem to want to be able to victimize women without women getting upset about it. they'll say that women who take safety precautions have victim complexes, but then say the same thing about women who don't take those safety precautions. i saw this recently in the context of female travelers.

first, i saw a video of a woman demonstrating safety precautions to take on cruises, doing stuff like hooking things to her door to stop it from being opened, clipping the curtains shut, etc. personally, i don't feel the need to those things, and i feel like it's probably a diminishing returns situation- once you've done the obvious stuff like locking the door, any extra steps probably won't help you that much. but if it makes her sleep better, then there's no harm.

second, i saw a video of a woman talking about how she roadtripped in a foreign country with a couple of male travelers she met online. so the total opposite of the first woman, in the sense that she did something i think very few women would be willing to do.

the male comments on both videos were pretty similar, though. they both focused on women's so-called obsession with being victims. the first woman is paranoid, fixated on the idea of being a victim. one commenter wrote "me watching her do all this shit when i'm already hiding inside her room." the message is that women's precautions are silly and ultimately useless, if men really want to hurt us. comments on the second video contained a lot of assumptions that the second woman must have paid for her trip with sex. but many of the commenters were saying things like, "women will do things like this and cry victim, you wanted to be victimized." so they're acknowledging that being alone with random men is in fact dangerous for women. the second woman is a dumb slut who deserves what's coming to her.

i think men are, by and large, pretty aware of how men treat women. they acknowledge this with the argument that women need men to protect them (from other men). they treat male violence as a fact of nature that shouldn't reflect badly on men as a group, and shouldn't make women distrust men - except when a woman does trust men, no, that's wrong too. there's no correct way to behave that will make you a "good" victim, or a reasonable person, in their eyes, and i think that's the goal. if a woman's hurt, it's her fault. if she's afraid of getting hurt, it's her fault. the man is never the one at fault.

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While transphobes are vile and must be opposed, a lot of misogynists in progressive spaces realized they can get away with anti-feminism by falsely claiming all feminism is trans-exclusionary. It is not, and people in these progressive spaces apparently need to be reminded that nothing exempts them from having their views on women and feminism affected by the patriarchy. If you immediately view women talking about men oppressing them with suspicion and scorn (especially when there’s no mention of trans people in the woman’s post), you’re just sexist

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not now mom i’m wasting my life on a website the entire internet believes to be dead

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It’s an illusion

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Lovebirds in the saguaro.

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someplace like montana by Ada Limón