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10 Rules for Coping with Anxiety and Panic

1. Remember, feelings of panic are just exaggerations of normal bodily stress reactions.

2. Sensations are neither harmful nor dangerous - just unpleasant. Nothing worse will happen.

3. Stop adding to the panic with frightening thoughts of where panic will lead.

4. Stay in the present. Be aware of what is happening to you rather than concern yourself with how much worse it might get.

5. Wait and give the fear time to pass.

6. Notice that when you stop adding to panic with frightening thoughts, the fear begins to fade.

7. Focus on coping with facing the fear rather than trying to avoid it or escape from it.

8. Look around you. Plan what you will do next as the panic subsides.

9. Think about the progress made so far, despite all the difficulties.

10. When you are ready to go on, do so in an easy, relaxed manner. There is no hurry.

Each time you cope with panic, you reduce your fear!

Source: http://www.panicsupport4u.com/coping.htm

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listen. aging into your thirties rocks. yes your joints get a little creaky. yes you can’t sleep in a pretzel on the floor anymore after a concert or a convention. and you lose some friends. but the thing is that you sort out who your real friends are and you sort out who you really are. and you get to see your friends settling into careers they like, and adopt new dogs and cats, and you find a job you can stand, and get really good at arts and crafts, and maybe that book you loved as a kid gets a movie deal and it doesn’t suck, and you learn to like new food and bake your own bread, and you realize that the great portfolio of self harm scars you all used to curate are going white with age and not updated, and half your friends are a different gender now and so much happier and maybe you are too, and you know who you are, and that it’s a journey and not a revelation. it’s a direction you’re headed, and you’re enjoying the trip.

reaching your 30′s rocks. and i’m hearing good things about what comes next, too.

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Yay!!! Desi Miku!!!

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Any tips for how to do those fantastic DA:I tarot cards? I'd really like to draw one up but I'm not sure if my current skillset would make it recreate the 'look' the have. Any ideas/thoughts/tips? More breakdown the better, if you're willing!

Hi there buddy!I’m no expert in making tarot cards, but here’s some things I picked up trying to emulate one!

COMPOSITIONThe first thing you want to note is that with tarot cards, the most important part is that you nail a super strong composition. Normally with compositions, they’re usually guidelines that you follow somewhat, but here, they lean more towards rules.

STRAIGHT LINESFollowing up on composition, with tarot cards, you can use perfectly straight lines without making it look weird. Because you are trying to make it look weird! Step away from the world of reality, my friend, and embrace those oddly cool straight lines!

SHAPESWith tarot cards, shapes are godly tools. Where in a normal drawing you would have more assymetrical shapes, here you go bonkers with the pristine clean cut of it all. Look at how that moon circle doesn’t angle in any way, or how the robes of the armour just fall straight down. Shapes, my good friend!That said, don’t oversaturate with too much sturdiness, you gotta add in some curves like the gauntlets to ease the eye from thinking too much like cut out shapes.

FORMSpeaking of not everything needing to be shapes, most things in your card won’t actually have any form, but the one that almost always will is the face of your character. It’s kind of a cool effect when the body is in 2D, but the face is in 3D. Keep in mind not to use too much contrast in the face, or you will lose the beauty of elegance in the face!

BLOCK PATTERNSNow, as the cream on top, most tarot cards will have little shapes that seem unaffected by lighting/shadow. They will straight up be an opaque colour. Use these wisely, as they are as important as highlights. Use them too much, and they lose meaning! Just add enough to give that extra oomph!

Other than that, most of it’s just playing around and experimenting! Have a lot of fun with this, friend! Tarot cards are awesome because it’s more play than recreating reality, so go nuts!Good luck and have fun, my friend!(P.S. If you need to, here’s a link for a collection of the Dragon Age cards, for inspiration and reference! Be warned, some of them are kinda spoilerific!)

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Ok so my kid had an ear infection, right? As kids often do.

The doctor scraped out a bit of earwax to have a better look inside.

I was sent a bill for $200 PER EAR for this 5 second procedure which I did not give permission for them to do.

That was key- they did not ASK me if they could do this "procedure". And, as I OWN a medical practice (it's me. The medical practice is me, sitting in my house on video calls) I knew to call them when this bill came in to be like "You did not obtain informed consent for this procedure, and it was not en emergency procedure. You had full ability to gain my consent and didn't. I'm not paying."

And the massive hospital who owned the bill said "yuh-huh you do have to pay."

And I said "I own a practice. I know these laws. I do not owe you money for this."

And they conducted an "internal review" and SURPRISE! Decided I totally owed them money and they had never done anything wrong ever.

And so I called my state's Attorney General office, and explained the situation because, as I mentioned, I know the law. The AG got in touch within a couple days to say they were taking the case and would send the massive hospital conglomerate a knock it off, guys letter.

Lo and Behold, today I have a letter where said hospital graciously has agreed to forfeit the payment.

"How not to get screwed over by companies" should be part of civics class.

Know your rights and know who to call when they're infringed on. This whole process cost me $0 and honestly less effort than I would have expected.

May this knowledge find its way to someone else who can use it.

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You can't bully yourself into the life you want.

Digital illustration of an older white fem sitting in the drivers seat of a car. The sky is orangey pink, and there's a red canister labeled, 'self half' in the passenger seat. There's text that reads, 'If self-hate is the fuel you use to get there - you're gonna probably still hate yourself when you arrive.'

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This will never not be funny to me.

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god forbid 5000 year old girls do anything

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Cognitive Techniques To Change Your Thoughts ✨✨

Cognitive techniques are strategies used in cognitive therapy to help you identify and change negative thoughts and beliefs. These techniques should be practiced regularly so that they become habits.

Cognitive Restructuring: This involves identifying and challenging negative or irrational thoughts and replacing them with more positive or rational beliefs.

Thought Stopping: When you notice a negative thought entering your mind, you can mentally shout "Stop!" This interrupts the thought process and gives you a chance to replace the negative thought with a positive one.

Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. When you observe your thoughts without judgment, you gain insight into negative patterns and choose to let them go.

Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can help you process and analyze them. With time you can identify patterns and work on changing negative thought cycles.

Positive Affirmations: Repeating positive statements can help counteract negative self talk and reinforce positive beliefs about yourself.

Evidence Collection: When faced with a negative belief, ask yourself, "What evidence do I have that supports or refutes this thought?" This can help you see things in a more balanced way.

Decatastrophizing: If you tend to imagine the worst scenario, ask yourself how likely it is to happen and what other possible outcomes there might be. This can help you view situations more realistically.

Labeling: Instead of saying "I am a failure," label the thought as "a negative thought about my abilities."

Distraction: Engaging in an activity or hobby can divert your attention from negative thoughts and give your mind a break.

Scheduling Worry Time: Instead of ruminating on worries throughout the day, set aside a specific time to process them. This can prevent constant worry and allow you to focus on other tasks.

Challenging Cognitive Distortions: Recognize and challenge cognitive distortions like black-and-white thinking, overgeneralization, and personalization.

Visual Imagery: Visualize a place or situation where you feel calm and happy. This can help shift your focus from negative thoughts.

These are very simple descriptions and examples of cognitive techniques. I listed the ones we can put into practice on our own. There are more in depth methods and practices used by doctors on different fields of study and practice. I can list, as well as add upon the information listed here.

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when all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. when all you have is a paintbrush, everything looks like a canvas. when all you have is a cock, everything looks like the exhaust pipe of a 2014 honda civic. so yes, to answer your question, i am stuck. please call the emergency services

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The people who police your gender will police your gender even if you're cis.

Eat them.