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A (very belated) birthday gift for @tallangrycockatiel from their lovely wife (seriously, Dani, you are a saint)!

I absolute loved the chance to depict one of my favorite scenes from Bel’s wonderful story All That is Mine to Me, All That is Yours to You. If you want to see these two dorks attempt normalcy while navigating separate bodies and emotions I can’t recommend it enough. The writing is snappy and enjoyable, the push and pull between John and Arthur is top notch (they are never not going to be that bickering married couple), and the reveal of later things left me excited to read what happened next. Do yourself a favor, check out the fic and don’t forget to leave a comment!

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Parents really post stuff like this online and wonder why their kids don't trust them

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a while ago i saw an anti-cnc meme that went something like "if your boyfriend learns not to stop at "no", do you really think he's gonna stop at Pineapple?" and ive been thinking about it a lot. like, it assumes that words have some kind of mystical meta-meaning that persists in all contexts, that if we discard the word "no" we also discard the concept of saying no in a symbolic sense. It's a lingually prescriptivist argument in disguise.

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The majority of people are horny. People are always going to be horny. You cannot stop people from being horny. Throughout history there have been extensive attempts to suppress horniness and they haven’t worked. You can be mad about it all you want but horniness will prevail against any adversity. There will always be an aspect of horniness within society. Sexuality cannot be contained by having missionary sex with your spouse alone in the privacy of a dark bedroom.

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Setting the “Gender Mood”

When we have genders that shift or change, we do things to accommodate those changes. For some people, that means dressing to present as their current gender or taking on pronouns that reflect it. But let’s look at some more  unconventional ways to “set” the gender mood for ourselves.

How to set the mood

♥ Separate genders into theme songs:

Make a playlist on your phone or even several playlists.

Choose a song to be your Gender Song for the day.

Play your Gender Song while you try out the other things on this list.

♥ Change decor to reflect gender:

String up some colored lights.

Organize your desktop.

Paint something and then hang it up.

 Rearrange your belongings by color.

Decorate with less obvious things like plants or figurines.

♥ Incorporate gender with spirituality:

Make a gender altar dedicated to your gender.

Find spells or prayers that fit how you feel or what you want.

♥ Make a gender to-do list:

Write up some goals that are tied to your gender.

 Incorporate clothes, makeup, hairstyles, vocal changes, etc.

Try coming up with ways to be more masculine, feminine, or neutral even if it’s just in how you walk or what hobbies you engage in.

♥ Engage in sensory input:

Play with sights, sounds, tastes, etc.

Have a soft gender? Try keeping soft things nearby, like blankets.

♥ Practice your own pronouns:

Write down some practice sentences using your name and different pronouns. 

Say your pronouns out loud as if you’re someone else talking about you.

♥ Genderize your social media*:

Set your status to something that reflects how you feel.

Change the pronouns in your bio.

Change your profile picture or icon.

Change your profile header or banner.

Live-post about your gendered feelings.

♥ Color coordinate:*

Paint your nails different colors.

Wear clothes with a certain color palette.

Try changing something subtle like your shoelaces.

♥ Watch media that resonates with you:

Imagine yourself as a specific character.

Watch or rewatch moments that feel like you were there.

♥ Play dress-up with yourself*:

Try out new clothes and check yourself out in the mirror.

Take selfies and see what looks best.

Put on several types of outfits and remember which ones you really liked.

♥ Roleplay with friends:

Start a DM with a friend or two and have them call you by a certain name or pronouns.

Go back to your chosen piece of media and pretend to be a character who has your gender, name, or pronouns.

Roleplay as an animal if you’d like.

*Don’t do anything that might out you to people who don’t accept your identity. Keep things subtle and keep yourself safe. You can try out some of the less conspicuous ideas listed above, such as making yourself a playlist or watching certain types of media. You can even try to make yourself a private Twitter or Tumblr account if you know you won’t be discovered. The other things can be done away from home and with friends if you know you can do it safely.

♥ Having trouble figuring out what colors to use? Try out the color palettes listed below to tie them to different feelings of gender. A good go-to is to use colors from a specific pride flag to represent a gender.

Nonbinary - yellow, white, purples, black, gray, orange

Genderless - dark colors, gray, black, greens

Multigender - one color for each, a rainbow, or blended colors (such as teal or magenta)

Demigender - grays, pastels, white

Maverique - yellow, red, orange, white

Man - blue, indigo, red, brown

Woman - pink, lavender, yellow, pale green

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I know it’s not hard to point out reactionaries hypocrisy when it comes to like safe spaces or hug boxes or whatever but genuinely how much of an echo chamber do you have to exist in for you to think this is a reasonable thing to say

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I just want to remind everyone that is your civic duty to jailbreak your Nintendo consoles and pirate every Nintendo property until the heat death of the universe.

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so trans people should just be allowed to murder whoever they want?

your brain could revolve inside a peanut shell for a thousand years without touching the sides

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When the Scarlet Milkman comes walking in, covered in "Scarlet Milk", Francis Mosses is on the list, and the doorman can't tell if it's a doppelganger or Francis finally snapped:

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Poppy: Sweetie, are you okay?

Barnaby: *cheerfully* Absolutely not, but I'm funny!

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you can’t support autistic people and support the police. No amount of paint jobs or sensitivity training can stop police from killing with impunity

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What's distressing, but also important to understand, about JK Rowling hitting the "Denying trans people were targeted in the Holocaust" point is that it's kind of the last stop before she just goes full alt-right weirdo.

Joanne is denying the Holocaust (if a group was targeted, denying they were targeted is Holocaust denial) and that's going to lead to pushback from historians and experts. But Joanne is too deep in to believe what anyone who disagrees with her says, so she's just going to dismiss what those historians and experts tell her. And once she's disbelieving them about that one thing, well it's just a tiny step to start disbelieving them about other things.

This isn't by accident either, transphobic circles are swarming with far right agitators, ready to use hatred of trans people as an in to recruit people into their causes. They have handbooks for this sort of thing and they are, unfortunately, good at it. I suspect Joanne will be spouting coded versions of Great Replacement stuff by the end of the summer.

This is not a plea to try and pull Joanne out. She's too deep in, and even if she wasn't, she's already demonstrated an inability to examine her own prejudices, an unwillingness to hear criticism and a weakness to flattery. She is perfect recruitment bait for people who know what they're doing, and my impression is she's surrounded herself with people like that.

No, this is to understand two things: First is to use her as an example, to understand how a well meaning liberal can chase their own prejudices down a very dark rabbit hole. We are none of us immune to propaganda and even if we can't change what's happened to her, we can at least use it to protect ourselves.

And second is to understand that one of the main reasons you can't pull Joanne out of the transphobic pipeline is cause she is the pipeline now. She is the transphobic banner bearer now, she is funneling money and attention to these groups, she is their most famous celebrity and she is helping recruit people. Being able to show people how far she's gone, how deep into the right wing rabbit hole she's going, is important to help other people who still think she just "Had some concerns" know where her path leads.

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🌷 Spring's around the corner! 🌷

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Normalize using refrences and not being faithful to them at all 💪🏼

(ALSO reminder that Julie is genderfluid!! Please don't start arguments over a goofy doodle I got enough of that on twt😭)