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Qualities of a GOOD SUBMISSIVE

Everyone on the internet is always talking about what Qualities of a good Domme but very few have raised the question about the qualities of a good submissive man. Those who have talked about this topic have mostly referred to things such as –

He should be willing to wear a chastity cage.

He should worship her feet.

He should shave himself.

Etc. Etc.

But these are actually not qualities. These are kinks. Representing them as qualities just gives you the illusion that prioritizing your kinks to your partner in the relationship is not wrong.

A real Sane Dominant Woman would not want to become a Kink Dispenser in her relationship. She would want a man who can think beyond his fantasies and is useful to her. So without further ado let us jump into what makes a submissive man desirable and what are the qualities of a great submissive man –

Obedience – The first and the most basic quality of a submissive man is that he is obedient to his Mistress. Obedience sounds easy but being obedient is difficult. If there is a man who nags at every task but ultimately does it would not be considered a good obedient.

Patient – A submissive man needs to be patient. He should let his Mistress take her time. He should always make sure that is in her comfort zone. A submissive goes through various phases where has to be patient. The time when he asks his vanilla partner for a Female Led Relationship, he needs to be patient so that she can embrace her dominant side at her own pace. He needs to be patient with the sex toys he wants to bring into the relationship. He needs to be patient to get well-trained under guidance. He needs to be patient when he supports her and carries her bags while she shops.

Knowledgeable – A good slave/submissive man is always willing to acquire knowledge to serve his Dom better. He will learn any particular skill that will make her life easier be it Home science, Cooking, nail-painting, hair care, etc. He would also want to be able to make rationale decisions for his Dom whenever asked to. Thus, having good knowledge is a very desirable quality in a submissive man. It makes him more reliable for the Dom.

Respect – A submissive man always and always respects his Mistress. In real life and in his thoughts, a true submissive never gets disrespectful ideas about his Dom. Even when he is disappointed or angry with her, he is patient and never loses his calm and talks to her disrespectfully.

Self-Respect – Self-respect for a submissive man is as important as respect for his Mistress. A man cannot be a good submissive if he cannot take a stand for himself. If you are a slave, it does not mean that you have to blindly and mindlessly agree to everything she says. Disrespect is not tolerable. If he cannot take a stand for himself, he cannot take it for anyone else when the time comes.

Communication – Sharing his thoughts, opinions and feelings is an essential quality that every submissive man must have. Doms are not mindreaders. They need to understand what is going on inside their submissive’s head in order to dominate properly. Thus, communication is a pre-requisite for being a good submissive.

Honest – A gentleman never lies. A submissive man is a gentleman. He is always honest. Even if he knows that the truth is going to hurt his Mistress, he will still let her know because he knows that the lie is going to hurt her even more. To add, hiding the truth or lying by omission is equivalent to lying.

Willing to Change – He should be willing to adapt to his Dom’s style of things. He should be willing to change his habits if his Dom tells him to. He should be willing to be shaped and molded by his Mistress. It is not the big things but the small things that will make him look well-trained. Not keeping wet towels on the bed, keeping the home well organized, keeping things in the place decided by his Mistress are just a few examples that are difficult to change but he should be willing to change.

Consent – A submissive man never forces his fantasies on his Mistress. Everything that happens in their Female Led Relationship is consensual and mutually agreed upon. He always prioritizes her needs and wants over his. Her comfort zone is far more important to him than his fantasies.

Loyalty and Maturity – He should be an alpha man who is under the control of his Woman. A knight who only bends in front of his queen. He should be a mentally strong man who can make important and decisions maturely. His Mistress should be able to trust his decision-making skills. A good submissive man is loyal as well. He has eyes only for his Queen. He is always faithful to his Mistress because she has gifted him his dream dynamic. He has been gifted a Female Led Relationship that he has always craved.

Prioritizes her – The most important quality of a good submissive man is that he prioritizes her always and under every scenario. Whether physically or emotionally, whether inside or outside the bed, she is his priority. For Him, her needs always supersede his. In return, his Mistress acknowledges this fact and takes care of him and makes sure that his needs are met as well.

There are many overlaps between the qualities of a desirable man in a traditional relationship and a submissive man in a Female Led Relationship. It is because, at its core, every relationship is based on some basic pillars. D/s dynamic is just an add-on over a traditional relationship. Even if your husband/boyfriend/partner is submissive to you, he is still your best friend, your confidant, your teammate and your soulmate. You two are a team. You both complete each other. His submission is incomplete without your Domination and your dominance is incomplete without his submission.

Until next time.

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