arlosworld91

[arlosworld91]

the way people on here jump to misgendering people they don't like is disturbing. it says everything about you, and absolutely nothing about the person you're misgendering when you do this. you're outing yourself as a disrespectful and potentially dangerous person to be around, not "exposing" someone else, or whatever. do better.

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Yasmin Benoit has won the LGBTA Award for the 'Outstanding Contributions to Communities' category! She's the first aroace activist and first Black aroace to win this award 🖤🤎🤍💜

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i think people who technically fit into queer labels but don't choose to adopt them are pretty fucking cool. if you're just out there doing your own thing, not fitting into any binary or label, just living your life, that's awesome. you are allowed to break free of the societal expectations placed on individuals regarding gender and attraction without feeling obligated to identify any certain kind of way. if you're just doing your own thing out there, i like your style. you're allowed to break free of the queer/not queer binary that some people choose to enforce. keep it up.

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as important as pride month is, if it's just not your thing, or you can't be out or celebrate, that's perfectly okay. some queer people don't like all of the commotion and drawing attention to themselves, and that's okay. you can be proud in your own way, it can be a quiet thing, it doesn't have to be a raucous celebration. treat yourself well this month, but you're not obligated to be out and loud if you don't want to, or can't be. it's your choice. happy pride to you if you choose to celebrate quietly, or even not at all, or if you just can't for safety or personal reasons.

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Ocean off the west coast of Africa

go to this random coordinates generator and say in the tags how you would fare if you were dropped where it generates without warning. i’ll go first i’d be dropped in the middle of the fucking south atlantic ocean and perish

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Cis people think trans people have this:

Deadname

Chosen name

But honestly we really have:

Name

Other name

Deadname

Business name

Old nickname only some people have rights to use

Online name

Extra special secret name you don’t get to know, unless… ;)

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Look, this is what moral OCD is like for me:

I walk past a piece of paper. I don’t pick it up because I had a long day at work and it’s very cold outside. This then becomes my internal monologue:

I didn’t pick up that piece of paper, I should have. Don’t I care about the environment? It’s not my trash, I shouldn’t have to pick it up. But also that’s how these things happen right? We place the blame on others as our environment degrades. It was just a piece of paper, it’s not like it can do that much damage. But also how do I know: I’m not an environmental expert. Maybe stray paper scraps are killing the frogs. You’re literally killing the frogs. You should look up how many frogs die a year so you know how shitty you are-No stop it.

I care about the environment, and I recycle and I joined green activism movements but is that enough? I could be doing more. I should be doing more. I should donate my entire check to charity. But isn’t it self serving to think that my one check could help that much? Do I really think I’m that important, how self entitled and-no stop it, reset! You are obsessing and if you fall for it, you will not eat dinner. Let it go.

Okay it’s just a piece of paper. It’s okay you skipped it this once: it could have had something dangerous on it. Yeah that makes sense. But also, that means I’m putting my own safety over trying to help the environment, which is very selfish of me. I’m just one shitty person: god how could I be so self absorbed. I should have picked up the piece of paper. I’m so selfish, and shitty and-no, no, stop it! This is not helpful. It’s fine.

It’s been a long day and I’m cold, that’s not a crime- no that’s being selfish again, you’re making excuses. You’re just a lazy piece of shit who doesn’t care about others, and selfish and God the fact you’re thinking this much about one piece of paper shows how selfish you are, you care more about if you’re a good person than anything else, you’re a piece of shit, you’re a piece of shit, YOU’RE A PIECE OF SHIT.

I get home and open up Tumblr. The first post I see says “if you don’t reblog this post about the environment you’re as complicit as an oil billionaire.” I close my computer and resign myself to looking up the state frog populations until I go to bed.

I don’t eat dinner.

The amount of frogs that die a year is somewhere from 200 million to over 1 billion.

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Unfortunately feel this too much

being afam means that you're CONSTANTLY so uncomfortable. biological* parents try to hug / kiss me? nope! i'm told to be kind to my biological sister and give her a hug? please god no. and it's like i'm the bad person for feeling uncomfortable around all of these mentions of family when they're the ones shoving it in my face T_T

*⠀i say biological because calling them my family as a whole just feels weird hhhh.

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[arlosworld91]

I want to sit in a boys lap and have a nice, soft and slow make out session, without needing it to turn sexual. Just sweet kisses and whispered words and pretty smiles. I think that would be nice

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"normal people" don't exist, btw. every person is unique. every person you talk to has at least one "weird" thing about them. people you haven't met yet aren't all clones of one another. "weird people" don't exist, either. every "weird person" you meet has plenty of "normal" things about them, too. people are just people. the faster you stop lumping people into "desirable" and "undesirable" groups, the faster you find peace with yourself and others. it's not helping you to look down on other people, whether it's for them being "normal" or "weird".

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i get that people are more comfortable with defined rules and structure but i also think queer people lost when they started resorting to dictionary definitions for what labels mean

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we were talking about the criminalization of homosexuality in class and my professor (who as far as i know isn't in any way queer) said something i quite enjoyed in that. well the exchange was more or less this: a student asked a question (doesn't really matter what exactly just know that i was rolling my eyes So hard internally) that i was and the prof looked at the student and was like (i'm paraphrasing here this conversation was not in english) Do you have any queer friends? and the student went Uhhhh in a manner that made it clear the answer was probably no and the prof said Actually statistically speaking you most likely do. If I had to divide this room into two groups the way to do it would not be "people with queer friends" and "people without queer friends" it would be "people whose queer friends are out to them" and "people whose queer friends aren't". And if you're in the latter category you should consider why that is--if maybe your behavior is indicating to the queer people around you that you're not safe to come out to. to come back to your question if you really want to know about queerness there's a very simple way of doing that: you make yourself a person queer people feel comfortable talking to about their experiences and then you fucking listen to them when they do (the fuck is not paraphrased) (there was a fuck involved) (frankly king shit)

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Reminder that you don't have to call yourself AMAB or AFAB. You don't have to say "I'm AFAB nonbinary." Saying "I'm nonbinary" is enough. You don't need to identify with what you were assigned as by some doctor however many years ago. Mentioning your ASAB is scarcely relevant to most conversations, even those about medical transitioning.

Nonbinary is enough, you don't have to supplement it with a binary system of any kind. It doesn't matter how many people want to know your "transition direction." It doesn't matter how many people want to know what your genitals are (which wouldn't be alluded to by your assigned sex anyway). It doesn't matter how many people want to binarise you. It doesn't matter how many binary people you confuse. No one needs to binarise you. Nonbinary. Is. Enough.

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aplatonic culture is not liking how people you're following are called "friends" on most social media sites. like. We just played a few games of FE2 together you are at "cool stranger" at MOST

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