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Shout out to aroallo transfems btw. I never see anyone talk about y'all and how the usual hatred towards aroallos is multiplied by a million for you.

To all aroallo transfems:

You are not dangerous or perverted for desiring sex without romance.

You are not a bad person for desiring sex without romance.

You are allowed to want sex without romance.

There is nothing "wrong" with you.

You are not "broken" or "dirty" for your romantic and sexual identities.

I care about you and I want you here. I want you in my community. I want to make this place comfortable for you. I want you to be happy. I will do everything I can to make sure the spaces I share with you are welcoming.

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Made my gimmick blog

U kno the drill, submit characters you think are nonamorous!

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I do feel like, as the cost of living crisis skyrockets, non-partnering aros are going to get hit harder and harder. There is no framework built into the infrastructure of our society for people who don't have a dual-income household, and it does become more difficult as you age to reliably live with friends.

There is, of course, the option to live with strangers, but that has it's own varied and dangerous downfalls. Hit just as hard, or perhaps even harder, are going to be those in abusive households who's chances of being able to afford to leave grow slimmer.

Like, this stuff IS grim, so we've gotta start making good financial decisions, and supporting each other where possible.

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You don't have to give romance a chance. You don't have to give individual people a chance romantically.

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More Aro Pines because I love dem 💚🤍🩶🖤

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You know the character isn’t cosplayed much when you scroll through google images and find yourself from 9 years ago

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It's pride month so I'll allow myself to express one opinion on the internet :

There are no "exact color" of pride flags.

I see more and more sites and posts talking about the exact hex codes for the lesbian flag, or the right purple for the ace one, and how it should be more or less saturated and I just want to say: pride flags were meant to be sewn in your kitchen. To be spraypainted and to be recognised.

There are no "exact colors" of pride flags because you should do them with what you have ! Nobody should care if you use a crimson red instead of a cherry red or whatever ! Be free ! wave your colors ! The colors you have !

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Okay one more pass on my nonamorous flag redesign, circle or nah?

I kno it was a while ago but i really appreciated everyone’s feedback on the not element of vs null symbols! I like the e more now too

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Thought about doing these Magical Moths as LGBTQ+ flags colors as individual posts too🌈🦋 if you repost please tag me @chiaralbart 💖

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I wouldn't need pronouns if bitches weren't talking about me behind my back

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100% everything on this post, people were so vile that i get all shaky and cold sweats whenever i gotta talk about my identity to someone irl STILL bc deep down im scared they’ll turn on me.

Personal discourse anecdote:

I followed an aspec positivity blog in 2015 that would routinely get attacked and harassed so eventually they gave the blog to somebody else and retreated back to their main. I followed them there and realized they were somebody i actually went to high school with. They were a year under me and i never talked to them in person about it bc who wants a stranger coming up to you asking about your tumblr blog.

Anyways over the course of a year i watched them fall into being an ace exclusionist, just as vile as all the rest of them. I unfollowed obvi but i would see them all the time going after mutuals and saying nasty things in aspec tags. I remember them harassing ppl with hivliving if that tells you anything. It was horrible to see somebody who spent time defending us fall like that.

After i graduated i saw that they were made my ex high schools gsa president. They would make snide posts abt it from time to time but eventually they made a post that was basically “some acey came up to me and asked what we were doing for ace week or whatever. I just laughed in their face, why would we do anything for virgin week?” A friend of mine who used to know them screenshotted all of their ani ace posts and reported them to the high school. They then got kicked out of the gsa. They were sooooo mad too, blamed all the butthurt cringe aceys bc they didn’t actually kno who had reported them lol

Anyways, i think about this a lot. I kno that person is still out there, my friend gives me updates on them from time to time. I think it shows that as much as people liked to say this was just an online thing, it wasn’t that big of deal, the people who were doing this online were also the ones participating in irl queer spaces too, sometimes with authority. I’m glad it’s a lot better now but the blogs who screenshotted my post to call me mentally ill for being aro in front of their thousands of followers are still posting and popular. They just know to be quiet about aspec ppl for now. We cannot let them ever feel comfortable expressing that shit again bc i kno they didn’t actually change their mind.

I don't think younger/newer users fully grasp the shit show that ace discourse was around 2014-17

It was so hostile that, to this day, discussions that begin to derail just enough can make me physically nauseous, some specific mockery trigger crying sessions years later. We lost most accounts with any sort of ace positivity. There was no information, no support, and all this damage was done predominantly by other queer people.

All this to say that you, however you identify yourself, should be engaging with aphobic comments the same way you do any hate. We don't sugarcoat or try to be comprehensive with people who are blatantly racist, homophobic or terfs, so why give it a pass just because it's coming from a queer person? I see how this tolerance goes and it's done enough damage as it is.

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Aros have the most obscure blorbos I have ever seen (compliment)

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I shan’t be beholden to online introvert propaganda

I’m an extrovert and you got my order wrong!! I’m saying something!! (polite)

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Idk I'm just so happy that i'm aro. Im meh about my asexuality & most of the times i don't remember that i have a gender oh I'm agender jflhfkggk shit..i don't have a gender 💀

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Curious, I haven’t really seen any real trend among aspec people and the ship tropes they do like, however I think I kinda seen a trend in what they dislike. So in the tags tell me if you’re aspec (ace and/or aro) and if you dislike soulmates, and I mean the most straightforward romantic non subverted kind (but if there are versions you like feel free to elaborate)

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is that a fucking mindhunter reference????

i have a problem