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What is difference between 'aro non-ace' and 'alloaro' ?

I am pretty sure they aredifferent terms describing the same thing! iv never heard someone use aro non-ace before personally

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When people warn acespecs like me about using stuff like non-sam ace, or the alloace flag (the one based off of the alloaro flag), it’s not to say that those who feel that way and identify with those things are bad. Nobody is saying that being non-sam ace is inherently bad, or that being alloace and using the flag is inherently bad.

The problem is, a lot of things in the community originated from aros, and now are considered part of “ace culture” rather than something for all of us, made by aros. “Non-SAM ace” comes from non-SAM aro. The alloace flag is directly based off the alloaro one. But despite the clear inspiration from the aro community, there is no doubt that plenty of arophobes are going to end up using these things, and that a lot of people might not even recognize their origins.

When we use terminology that’s based off something aros made, we need to make sure we recognize where said-things come from. If we’re going to use things based off of their own creations, the least we can do is respect that they’re here, and deserve to be treated right in a community that’s been forgetting them.

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So here’s something I’ve been working on! A straight queer flag! For when you’re straight and also queer!

This flag is for straight trans people, straight aspec people, and mspec people who consider themselves straight. (I’m all 3!)

Free to use, credit preferred but not required.

(If you’re capable of it, go ahead an add an image ID, I’m very bad at them and they’re really hard for me to do)

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Pride/LGBT+/etc. blogs treat people with DID/OSDD-1 with the bare minimum of respect epic challenge

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Alloarophobia is a very specific and unique brand of fucked up bigotry that needs to be talked about on it’s own away from acephobia and general arophobia

When an alloaro brings up alloarophobia there’s always either someone trying to claim it’s also acephobia or just general arophobia and it needs to stop. We get to talk about our specific form of oppression and focus on just us and you need to let us

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Hi if you support the blog fuckyeahasexual, please consider: don’t.

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To to Asshole Jail, do not pass Go, do not collect 200

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Aroallos: *Nicely tries to explain why an alloarophobic term is shitty*

Non-alloaros: They’re just complaining, it’s no big deal, ignore them

Aroallos: *Get rightfully pissed off and upset that they’re being ignored yet again*

Non-alloaros: Wow, why are you getting all aggressive??? This is why we don’t listen to you. Maybe try being more polite. :/

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When ppl link asexuality with the lack of romantic attraction 😬 bro you're literally illiterate

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Positivity post: *Isn't about asexuals, focuses only on aros*

Asexuals: Mine now thank you :)

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Alloarophobes,,, why do you exist and somehow think you're not contributing to arophobia, sex shaming, and ableism-

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*grabs you by your shirt collar* for the final time. if a character doesn't feel romantic attraction, they are AROMANTIC. aromantic means not feeling romantic attraction. if you are talking about a character who mentions not feeling romantic attraction, getting crushes, etc, they are aromantic.

stop labeling aromantic experiences or characters as asexual ones. asexual means not feeling sexual attraction. many people are aromantic WITHOUT being asexual. not every aromantic person is also ace. if a character is aromantic, do not call them asexual.

if a character is both aromantic + asexual, it's still bad to just call them ace, as that erases their aromanticism.

stop doing this thing where you call aro characters asexual! stop calling aroace characters just ace + ignore them being aro as well! if a character says "i don't have crushes", they are not ace / coded. they are aro / coded. it's very shitty to continously shove aros under the rug. cut it out.

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Just so we are fucking clear

There is a difference between this:

Alloaro: hey person of a gender I am sexually attracted too, I dont want to go farther then having a sexual relationship with you is that ok?

AND THIS:

alloromantic allosexual: hello person of a gender I'm attracted to, I'm going to say I want a romantic relationship with you just to have sex with you but not actually go through with the romance part

BECAUSE CLEARLY SOME PEOPLE DONT KNOW THE FUCKING DIFFERENCE

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Hey can you give an example of talking like alloaros are privileged? I'm not sure what stuff exactly you mean

Really it's about online meta-discourse I've seen, but some people have been claiming alloaros are privileged in comparison to aces/aroaces due to their sexuality. This makes sense only if you treat identities and privilege/marginalisation as video game stats.

It's more complex than "alloaros have allosexual privilege because they're allosexual". Sexuality interacts with aromanticism - this is not an inert combination - aromanticism alters people's perception of sexualities. A hetero aro is subject to the arophobic idea that their sexuality in the absence of romantic attraction is perverse and callous. An alloromantic hetero person doesn't have to deal with this.

While aromanticism adds potential for discrimination based on orientation to a hetero person, it adds to and amplifies the queerphobia experienced by people with queer sexualities. Homophobic attitudes already say gay people are perverse - arophobic attitudes add to this for gay aros.

Basically tl;dr stop saying alloaros are privileged for not being ace. Being allosexual doesn't cancel out arophobia, it makes it worse.

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Dear ace people, do not be this person. I’m begging you.

[Image Description: The “is this a pigeon meme”. Over the butterfly is says, “Alloaros making spaces exclusive to alloaros”. Over the person it says, “Aces” and at the bottom it says, “Is this acephobia?”]

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Hate when i say something is arophobic and shitty and some alloace person comes into my replies saying “Well I’m ace and i don’t think it’s shitty! You’re just too sensitive.”

And then i just have to sit there like

[Image ID: the tired Ben Affleck smoking meme]

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Can we please start giving some love to aroallo

And while I’m at it if you don’t agree with what I’m saying please block me I don’t want any exclusionist following me