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[asknevaehrileys]

Hiiiiii my boyfriend is white and i'm black. My dad doesn't really approve of him and I don't know how to change his mind. I love my boyfriend and I love my family I don't want anything to come between us and I want everyone to get along. Did your family always approve of your relationship?

Eeeeek this is a bad position to be in, I’m sorry hun! I don’t know how serious you are about this guy but if you are, trrrrry to explain to your dad how you feel. Have you tried having a sit down with your parents and your boyfriend? It’ll give your dad some insight into who your boyfriend is and it might chip away some of the ice on his shoulder. If that doesn’t work, really sit and reevaluate how much you love this guy and what you’re willing to sacrifice for him. That really sucks about your dad not approving, and no I didn’t have this problem. It’d be hypocritical of my dad to say something like this when he has me, a daughter from the product of his own previous interracial relationship.

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Do you see yourself getting married soon? Maybe to josh?

Do I see myself getting married soon? No, I wanna have a career before I cross that street. As for that last part....awkward!

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so why did you date a white guy over a black one? most mixxed women model their partners after there father and yours is black so im just urious

Uuuuhhh, I’m laughing because idk how to answer this question lmao sorry let me be serious. This was sent when I was with Josh but I just like who I like. If you treat me well and I think you’re cute, then I’ve got my eye on you. Plus you don’t know my dating history well enough to say this but just know I’m attracted to ALLLLL (fine!) looking men lol

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How do you feel about teen moms?

I personally don’t know any but if you’re in a healthy/stable environment with support financially and physically it’s not the worst situation to be in...I think lol

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Do you ever feel cheated out of a real relationship with your mom and your dad?

Nooope because I do have a “real” relationship with the both of them. Love them both they just didn’t work out well together and that’s okay. They still love me and believe it or not, still respect and have love for each other now, just not the INLOVE type of love lmao

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i broke up with my bf a couple months back and i ran into him today at a kickback since we have mutual friends and he looked really good and he was trying to come onto me but i kept it cool and told him we could be friends. we didnt work out the first time for a reason so i know it would be a bad idea to try anything again but i do miss him. do you think its possible for exes to be friends?

Aaaah I dooooo. But I think you should give yourselves some time apart before trying that out. I’m probably able to be proper friends with my ex now but not really a few weeks ago. So just take it one step at a time lol

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I'm mixed race too (Filipino/White) but I identify as only Filipino because that's usually what people see me as & I'm closer to my Filipino side since I grew up with my mom's side the most (parent divorced yada yada). I know that you're biracial but I wanted to know if you identified as one or the other or if you claimed both. Hopefully that made sense!

Hey whatever you’re comfortable with works for you, as long as you acknowledge both of your heritage it’s whatever. I identify as biracial because that’s what I am, it’d be weird for me to choose because I’m literally half and half haha.

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Yeah Nevaeh so I need some advice about my best friend. So basically we've been best friends our whole lives, went to the same schools summercamps you name it. she wants us to go to the same school but I have my heart set on a school that she doesn't wanna go (I'm talking about college btw jsyk). I got into the school I wanted and now idk how to tell her the news

Speaking from experience I think you should just be honest with your friend. Nothing good comes from hiding things from the people you care about.

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are you the type to think all babies are cute? not even gonna lie, I'm not xD

Lmao you’re trying to get me crucified I see. But I’ll be honest and say no, I don’t find all babies to be cute but that doesn’t mean they’re ugly either. I’ll take it one step further and say that I also don’t think all babies are a blessing. If you have sex without any form of protection a baby is gonna come out of it boo! Nobody come for me!

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yeah i'm really curious about your family life. So like, how does it work with you living with your dad over your mom? Also is it weird being the only one that's obviously not a product of your dad and step mom? Sorry if it's too personal but I'm curious like I said

It’s not too personal babe, you’re fine. To answer your question, I find it nice living with my dad. I get to spend more time around my siblings and I appreciate my mom more when I see her. Our relationship wasn’t the best before moving in with my dad so I’m really happy about the progress we’ve made these last couple years. And no I don’t find it weird at all. Angel and I are both products from previous relationships our parents had before meeting each other, so I’m not the only one “left out” lol. Our parents don’t treat us any differently and they don’t have any favorites (that they show) so it’s all good over here.

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I’m starting 10th grade in the fall but it’s at a new school. I noticed that since I told me friends about it we haven’t been as close. How do I go about making sure things between us stay okay?

Talk to them about how you feel. It might be hard but if you truly care about the friendship you’ll push yourself to do it to see where you guys stand. Hopefully you guys can work it out but if not, this is a great opportunity to make new friends. And who knows, they may be the friends you needed all along.

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Okay so what do you think about people that hit their kids? Personally I hate it bc I feel like there are better ways to get a child to do better than to hit them. It just screams lazy parenting

Ooooooweeee this is such a touchy subject but I’ll bite lol. Personally my answer might be a little biased. See, my daddy is Jamaican so I’d be lying if I said I never gotten a few licks. I don’t agree with beating your child to the point they have bruises but a moderate lick here and there does get the job done. I spent most of my childhood with my mom. Maybe if I lived with my dad earlier I wouldn’t have done the crazy things I did because he’s a lot more strict while my mom is a lot more loose. The things I knew I could get away with while I lived with my mom, I QUICKLY realized I couldn’t get away with living with my dad.

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Are you nervous about your first year of college? I want to know everything!

Suuuuper nervous but I’m more excited as well! I can’t wait to live in the same place as my friends and I’m so ready for the parties. I’m gonna miss the comfort of being home, the home cooked meals, seeing my boyfriend every day, being around my family but it’s not like I’ll never see them again. I think I’m ready to really give this my all.

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Hey nevaeh, I need some advice about my younger brother. He turned 14 3 months ago and he's been down because he isn't maturing as fast as his friends. How do I go about talking him up so that he gets that he's still just as cool as the rest of his friends?

I’m sorry to hear that hun. Puberty is a tough time to handle, I remember it myself. Reassure him that it’s better to enjoy the body he’s in now because with puberty things get more complicated, it’s a sign of getting older which means more responsibility and even less time left to not have a care in the world. I’m short, it’s overrated and there’s plenty of time to stress about body hair, growth, and a voice change! Tell him that lol.

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If you and Josh break up will you date someone straight away?

This month makes it a year that Josh and I have been together. That’s a long time to invest your heart into someone and with my feelings right now I can’t say that I’d be able to. I’d need time for sure. Hopefully I never have to face that.

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I'm tired of guys out here living life like they don't have responsibilities, and I mean GROWN ASS MEN that act childish, spend all day with their boys, treat their girls like trash, neglect everything in their life that should mean the world to them. My baby daddy treats me and his daughter like we're invisible and only remembers us when he gets into it with one of his other chicks. I don't know what do do? how do I get him to change?

Preaaach babe. 

I don’t have kids but it doesn’t sound like you can depend on your child’s father to be consistent so stop expecting him to. If he isn’t mature enough to co-parent willingly, then either forget him altogether, or get the strength to get him on child support so that you aren’t the only one financially responsible for your child because you did not make your daughter alone. You gotta get tough mama. 

But before you do any of this you have to be honest with yourself because it sounds like you still want to be with him and you need to start asking yourself why and what he’s done to give you the idea that he deserves more of your time than he’s already wasted?

Keep me posted and good luck.

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Hi do you have any advice on how to stay skinny? I'm trying to lose as much weight as I can within a month thaaaaanks

I stay fit mainly by genetics and dancing. But sweetie how much are you trying to lose?? Be careful. Crash dieting is not the way to go. Just take your time and change your eating habits to a healthier alternative. Try yoga to build body strength and clear your mind, you sound like you’re stressing yourself out and no me gusta! Talk to your doctor about setting a healthy weight goal for your body type and if you can see a nutritionist. Stay beautiful love.