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Hi. I was wondering if you (or any other person with autism reading this) feels overloaded when listening to with earphones in. When I listen to music loudly, even without headphones, my emotions ramp up and my emotional state begins to feel very extreme. It's kind of like a high, but can turn into sudden anger/screaming/overload, especially with music I feel really connected to. Is this common?

Not usually overloaded, but I do tend to get very intense emotions from music. Often it’s completely unidentifiable emotion too, just a huge amount of raw emotion. I have no idea how common this is

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I know we like to talk about as autistic kids who’re geniuses with numbers, or beautiful musicians, or incredible artists. But that’s really not the norm. Autistic kids aren’t all savants. I have an autistic sister, and have worked with people on the spectrum, and most of the time you’ll find that autistic people are just autistic. And they don’t have to make up for it by having a brilliant mind. They don’t have to prove their value by being special in certain areas. They’re valuable because they’re people. Don’t spread the idea that autistic people have to be savants. That’s just perpetuating the idea that impairments are something to be ashamed of

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punk is the ultimate subculture for autistics!

sensory friendly haircuts (is it bothering you anywhere? shave it off)

heavy boots for weight stimming

heavy leather jackets for pressure stimming

patches give different textures to rub

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not so commonly talked about autism traits

~poor/abnormal posture ~trouble with left, right, and other directions ~disinterest in sports/physical activity ~rituals with no outcome ~large or unique vocabulary ~lack of organization ~intense compassion/empathy ~intense anger or no anger at all ~connections with animals ~difficulty understanding pop culture, styles, trends, etc

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Growing up autistic often involves not being believed. Your experiences of being tired, stressed, and overwhelmed are constantly minimized. “How could you be tired? You haven’t done anything all day.” “How could you be stressed? You’re eight.” “Look at the other children, how much fun they’re having. If we go home now you’ll miss out on all the fun!” If you find certain tasks particularly challenging, you are told it really isn’t that hard, you just have to [brief and unhelpful description of task].

There are no upsides to denying or minimizing someone’s pain, except that it frees the person doing the minimizing from having to deal with it. Even if the child is “only doing it for attention”, worst case scenario they give their child attention. What’s so terrible about that? Because the alternative is that they are teaching their child not to value and trust their own experience, and that is immensely damaging. It can mean the child might not recognize when they’re being emotionally abused. It can lead to mental health issues, burnout, and many other problems.

Not everyone responds to a given situation in the same way. If someone tells you something bothers them, just because you’re not bothered by it doesn’t mean they’re lying or exaggerating.

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Me: this seems like a reasonable amount of time to get an assignment done

Executive dysfunction: hi

Me: oh no

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“assuming autistic people don’t know what things like sex and romance are is infantilizing and ableist” and “let asexual, aromantic, and aroace autistic people exist in peace” are two opinions that can coexist and some of you really need to Know

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Yes. Usually I need a significant disruption and change to change them. This happened recently with food actually; my routine food was unhealthy, and to change it literally required someone else coming along, disrupting my everything, and then feeding me good food until that became the routine instead

To other autistic people, do you ever find yourself having routines you dislike and want to change, but just can't?

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So, apparently, people with autism have really really bad emotion regulators... Like that mechanism is a wee bit broken.

An NTs emotion line will look like this :

1--2--3--4--5--6--7--8--9--10

Whilst those of us on the spectrum are more:

1--2--3--8--9--10

We have next to no middle ground for our emotions. So we're prone to outbursts or sudden euphoria.

So if you're like me and always wondered why you seem to experience emotions on such an huge scale... This may be why.

Add our difficulty in understanding our own emotions... You end up with someone who can't comprehend their own feelings at all.

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Quick PSA from you’re local Autistic Dude

So I’ve seen a few allistic bloggers using This symbol for LGBT+ pride

This is the Rainbow Infinity Loop, and is not tied to Pride but to the Autistic Rights Movement. The rainbow gradient is a representation of the diversity found within the Autism Spectrum and Nerodiversity in general. 

Autistic people are allowed to use it on their pride posts obviously, but this is OUR symbol first and foremost and allistic LGBT+ people shouldn’t erase the meaning behind it.

Allistics Can Reblog This But Don’t Add Anything.

Terfs/Truscum/Transmeds/DDGL DNI

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Autistic people are not a burden to society.

A society as we know it exists to reach out a helping hand to those who are in need of it. That is one of the very main points of it; that those who are able to help will help those who need help.

Yes it costs money but that is exactly what that money is supposed to go to. It’s meant to help those who need it.

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executive dysfunction be like *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels bad* *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels bad* *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels ba

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That autism feel when you discover a new special interest and you suddenly don’t want to do anything except stuff which involves that interest.. thinking about it 24/7

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Teacher: ok, class. We'll be doing group work now.

All the undiagnosed autistic kids: FEAR

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*learns basic social skills well into my 20s that most people know by the time theyre like 11*

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Listen, if you give me only verbal instructions, understand that I will not understand a word you said no matter how good they were if it’s more than one or two steps

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undiagnosed neurodivergency as a teen is just *wakes up late* *procrastinates on taking a shower* *rushes out the door with half your backpack missing* *has sensory overload on the bus bc you forgot your headphones* *daydreams in class instead of taking notes* *sits alone at lunch reading/drawing* *eats the same food you eat every day* *forgets homework* *has That One Class that makes you actually care* *stims in public* *gets bullied for stimming in public* *asks for clarification on sarcasm and gets laughed at* *gets yelled at by parents for being weird* *has sensory overload at the grocery store* *stares at the wall under blankets until midnight* *hyperfixates on something on wikipedia* *crashes at 4am*