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we've been friends for about a decade and and we've used that time really to help each other through the issues that have come up the challenges and life challenges that have come up over there is last period of time and realized that we had very similar tools for dealing with life issues and yet at the same time still reached out to each other and needed each other and other friends in order to maintain a degree of Hannity under that the pressures that we were feeling in our own lives on a daily basis and I myself have been started therapy when I was 14 years old and pretty much every city that I've lived in I've had a therapist and and and honestly really truly don't believe that I would be alive today if I didn't start some form of self searching very early in my life a lot of what is in the book is not so many of our trials and tribulations but I guess some of the Frank admissions of the fact that we still find it hard one of the things we say in the book is that we'd like the p-word perfectionism to be banned completely because um all of us certainly I have used it as a stick with which to beat myself you know and I don't compare myself with the woman who is struggling more than I am I compare myself with the person who looks like they've got it all together and I compare how I'm feeling on the inside with how someone is feeling on the outside and then on top of that we have you know the expectations of how we should look and the pressure that's put on us to conform to the male gaze still I mean it is absolutely extraordinary that despite all our decades of feminism the levels of grooming that's expected from women before you know they in a metropolitan environment before they can go to work have got work I mean what is that about intelligent educated women and yet everywhere and we're told that that if you fit into this bikini or if your body looks like this in the summertime or refute leads it's food this particular fluidity it really cleanly or if you recycle perfectly or if you buy this gadget you will be okay you know that you will fit in and you will be okay assuming that if we don't if we don't fit up to those standards then we're therefore not okay and so the levels of self-harm in women of all ages is quite well documented in teenagers a recent for us early in 2014 they had judged that self-harm had tripled between 2007 and 2014 but they're also starting to realize that it is women of all ages who self-harm and so much of that is about lower levels of self-esteem and not knowing how to practice self-care and not feeling you know as a female feeling like our responsibility is to everybody else but ourselves and that somehow it's selfish to take care of ourselves if we're all struggling with this if we're all having these same issues new same pressures you know why aren't we turning to each other to try and find solutions for what's not working there's clearly things things in society that aren't working there are things in our own life about how we're taught we must behave that aren't working and yet we passed each other on the street and we don't reach out and try and figure out and and be friends of fellow females to try and figure out how them we can make a difference in our own lives and other people's lives and so I mentioned that to Jennifer because right and and she said well funnily enough I've been thinking about the same thing here as a feminist I've spent so much time fighting for 50% of a system but the system that I've been fighting for 50% of is broken and it's not enough that we as women just came rightful place in our rightful share because the world of work is designed around a predominantly male workforce and when we get there we're having to fit ourselves into the man shaped hole and maybe we can just feminized it a little bit but the truth is that that all of us men and women are served by the existing structure you know it's based on you know on a model it's the model that is predicated predicated on intimate growth when we have finite resources it's a model that is binary you know either you're a winner or you're a loser either you have or you have not you know and this world despite absolute levels of wealth you know being higher than ever is more unequal than ever so how can this system be working so rather than leaning into a system that's broken you know what I wanted to talk about was how do we create a new paradigm you know one that we all want to inhabit and having been involved in politics you know it was clear to me that unless we deal with our own woundedness we're just going to take our stuff out into the political arena as we can see happening all around us and act it out on those who have less power than we do so much of what we're talking about in the book is the importance of being face to face of having real human connection which so many of us don't have today you know we spend so much time on screens and in these you know these fashions these many fashions little worlds of ours that is we often don't look up and make eye contact and connect with the people around us and for me one of the reasons that I think the me culture has gained such purchases because of the withering of religion from the collective space and and you know I had a lot of problems with the word God as a child has God existed he was definitely male and definitely caused a lot of suffering that he didn't seem to be intervening in and and since then you know I've realized that that man is responsible for most things that I blame God for and that spirituality you know spirituality is for people who've been to Helen and and religion is for people who are scared of going to hell is the best explanation I've ever had you hope other women will meet face to face and because it is so much easier to try and implement these changes if you're sitting in a circle with other with other women a number of circles have sprung up and women are gathering together we've got a picture from the states and it makes me cry actually because I know you know I know for me that the power and the comfort I have of having other women that I can really really be honest with about how I'm really feeling why I don't have to pretend where I can admit how messed up I'm feeling I think I started meditating in high school and I don't know why or where that came from and so I think that in working on this book is very much strengthened my already existing faith but part of what has strengthened my faith too is is the you know over the last few years particularly a lot of personal challenges that that I've really needed to rely on my own save for and and practice you know many of the things that are in the book you know including an unbelievable degree of letting go which to me you know part of that is a letting go to what it is you know to something greater than myself and the book itself feels like it is very much that it is so it is beyond the two of us and the path that it's going to take is not up to us and it feels you know I I have another job and and would like to continue to do that job and that's probably when my focus is going to go but it felt like such a necessary thing to be a part of old person like necessary thing to be a part of that I couldn't not do it you know I couldn't not be as honest as I've been I couldn't not put the help to launch it out into the world but it's it's beyond us from this point out I think it's a great temptation when we are faced with what's happening in the world is is to move to the Garrick lightness you know we we look at and we judge those who are making political choices that we would not make but you know hate doesn't conquer hate and if we build walls of righteous indignation that's just going to deepen the chasm that's dividing our world and so yes so so ego because ego comes in many different forms it doesn't just come in the form of you know a large wounded boy who finds himself in charges you know the most powerful nation alive you know it also comes in the form of me shouting slogans of righteous indignation in the face of someone I actually need to form a connection with

Gillian Anderson and Jennifer Nadel discuss their new book WE: A Manifesto for Women Everywhere

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my name is Gillian Anderson and I have suffered from anxiety and/or depression since I was I think in high school and it's it's manifested in various forms over the years and there have been times when I have felt incredibly alone and that I'm the only person in the world who could be feeling that bad or that anxious or that afraid or and some of the the thoughts and manifestations of it the physical manifestations of panic attacks have been very scary and I guess what I'm here to say or what I'd tell my younger self is that they do pass and that even though it may feel like you're going to die or lose your mind that you won't and that it will pass and and that it's okay to to take on things that contain what I would consider risk to take on life challenges that are daunting and anxiety making that just because you have anxiety or you have panic attacks doesn't mean that your life has to get any smaller and that you can live a very full beautiful and even peaceful life regardless of the anxiety and that there are so many people out there who are are there to help whose jobs it is to help so many people who are compassionate so many people who experience anxiety and fear and depression themselves and that there are resources out there everywhere and that it's okay to talk about it it's okay to search those people out that there's nothing to be ashamed of or afraid of in that respect and that your life can be as full as you want it to be and you can pursue your dreams with as much gusto and ambition and courage regardless of the anxiety because the two things can coexist it is possible to feel it and to do it anyway that's been my experience you

Anxiety and What I Would Tell #MyYoungerSelf | Gillian Anderson

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The Mother

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Umbrella + Bear

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Umbrella + Bear

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Baseball Bat + Fork + Remote

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Baseball Bat + Fork + Remote

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Ruin Rodeo Desert

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Ruin Rodeo Desert

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Lagoon + Kindergarden

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Lagoon + Kindergarden

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Slum

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Slum

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