Anyway, I knew I could never really make any headway discussing fatphobia and grooming cause nobody really takes fatphobia seriously as an "ism" in the first place.
I could be sitting in a room talking with other survivors and the second I say "Yeah, maybe if I had a better support system and wasn't constantly being told that I'd have to be really good at sex because I was fat for anyone to love me, I wouldn't have been so quick to jump into a relationship with someone that was way too old for me." immediately its "Oh well, that's not exclusive to fat people!"
Like, okay? I want to talk about how fatphobia affected MY experience right now? I want to think about how when a society reinforces the idea that SA is about attraction, not power and that fat bodies are inherently unattractive, Fat survivors are automatically either not believed or told to be grateful that anyone would even look at them in the first place. And sure, these conversations have been going on for years but it still does aggravate me that we can't have them without the inevitable interruption of "Oh well, it's not really an issue of fatphobia, is it?"
guy who tried to impress me with card tricks and failed every single one of them
old man who attempted to get my number when his wife walked away and slipped me his email address ending with “@ aol.com” when i said i don’t do that
cute gay couple that came back to tell me i was cute and then called the shop to ask me out
older professor who i talked to about folklore and told me he dressed as a wizard for recitals saying “this is really embarrassing but umm.. i’d love to get to know you more..” and gave me a receipt with his email address on it
dude in his 40s asking me on a movie date and me saying yes but then he kept starting text conversations with “ahoi hoi”
military guy who said it’d be hot if i killed him with a baseball bat
most notable time a customer did not ask me out:
a man who i knew had a wife and children getting really flustered and saying “um. ive been, uh.. idk if you remember me but um. i come in here a lot and ive uhhh haha umm ive been wanting to ask you for a couple weeks now.. um. have you read the green lantern issue i recommended??????”
US official accuses IDF of systematically sexually abusing Palestinians
TW: Rape and Sexual Assault/Israeli Propaganda Rag trying to deflect
So this rag cites a general in this article in which the general tries to get the states person fired. In hindsight, this propaganda confirmed that the IDF has a mass rape policy of Palestinians.
Before you swarmily say “We knew,” shut the fuck up. You did not know this outside of anecdotal accounts and witness testimonies. This is an Israeli Hasbara Propaganda rag confirming that an Israeli general tried to silence a US official from revealing that the IOF has systematically raped Palestinians on fucking Israeli radio while trying to frame the state department of the United States spokeswoman as some Hamas loving extremist. This is an admission.
The State Department not only believes the UN report, but Israel knows it and is trying to control the spin outside of Israel.