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normalize luxury in your life. suffering is not an achievement.

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“A lot can happen in a year.”

— Unknown

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for halloween i’m gonna be sad

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I miss diwali celebrations in schools

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None of my mutuals should have to do assignments thats fucked up all of you are too pretty for that. I wish I could kill them for you

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falling in love makes me want to eat

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do you ever think really awful thoughts and suddenly become aware that you are not a good person

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my english is good and bad at the same time how do I explain this.

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some people are just memories and mistakes

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Informational Masterpost

Here are the links for my informational posts on abuse, Complex PTSD, and associated subjects:

Recognizing and understanding abuse:

Childhood/emotional trauma:

Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect

Things people with CEN often say

How immature parents emotionally neglect their kids

How childhood trauma can manifest

Healthy parenting practices

Parental criticism and self-worth

‘Dismantling the lies your parents told you’ masterpost

What is emotional abuse?

(For more, please see @furiousgoldfish​‘s Recognizing Abuse Masterlist )

Gaslighting:

What is gaslighting?

A sign of gaslighting

More signs you are being gaslit

Gaslighting children

Signs your parents are gaslighting you

Were you born under the gaslight?

People with disabilities: what gaslighting can sound like

Unhealthy relationships:

A list of your rights as a person

Signs of unhealthy boundaries

Signs of codependent behavior

Telling good friends from bad 

 Quiz: Is your family dysfunctional? (Take this with salt)

How dysfunctional families resemble a cult

Resources for male victims of abuse 

How to disappear online (If you need to stop a stalker or abuser from having online access to you)

Narcissistic abuse:

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?

All about covert narcissists

The narcissistic abuse cycle

Do narcissists believe their own lies?

Do narcissists experience shame?

What if narcissists can’t help it?

Complex PTSD

Recognizing and understanding C-PTSD

Recognizing Complex PTSD

Symptoms and diagnostic criteria of C-PTSD in children and adults

Symptoms of Complex PTSD

What are emotional flashbacks?

Developmental Trauma

Trauma and the brain

Things I didn’t realize were complex trauma symptoms

Emotional neglect in C-PTSD

Book recommendations for C-PTSD

A comic on how C-PTSD/emotional flashbacks form

Amygdala hijackings

Fight, flight, freeze, fawn: common trauma responses

Overlapping symptoms between PTSD, ADHD, autism, anxiety, and depression

More symptoms of C-PTSD and related conditions

“Fawning” and People-pleasing

Article on “fawning” and people-pleasing

People-pleasing and chronic illness

Link between abuse and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Perfectionism attacks

Why we self-isolate

Skin hunger

Creative slump?

Creative hibernation

Can’t seem to read books anymore?

Feeling hungry when you don’t actually need to eat

Forms of self-harm besides cutting

Building healthy relationships

Recognizing an unhealthy environment

How to ignore someone you live with

Grey Rock technique for dealing with narcissists and other abusers

Coping during the holidays

Scripts for setting boundaries with your family

Boundaries

Tips for setting boundaries

Setting boundaries by moving yourself

Empath with boundaries

How to respond to a gaslighter

Unconditional love: how to give it, and know if it’s healthy

Being “Sad enough” doesn’t help: how to get other people to care that you’re upset

Upsetting yourself as a cry for help

Symptom management

Getting help

Questions to ask before giving up

Mental health pain scale

App for avoiding self-harm

Emotional Flashback Management

Finding a trauma therapist

What to look for in a trauma therapist

How to tell if you have a good trauma therapist

Finding a therapist for DID/OSDD

How to know a therapist isn’t right for you

What is EMDR?

On hearing voices

Cognitive approaches

Depressive logical mistakes

When should you listen to your instincts?

Counting your blessings

Overcoming learned helplessness and boosting optimism

Cultivating positivity and a sense of safety

Laziness does not exist

Day-tight compartments (for anxiety)

Emotional/Somatic approaches

The healthy mood spectrum

Grieving instead of rationalizing

Listening to the body

Recognizing and validating your emotions

How to feel your feelings

Mindfulness 101

Accepting your feelings

Grounding techniques

More grounding techniques

Deep-breathing resources

EFT tapping 

Self-care approaches

Self-soothing thoughts

Website to help you figure out why you feel bad and what to do about it

Book recommendation: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff 

Self-care suggestions

A beginner’s guide to intuitive eating

Nine types of rest

Relaxing music recommendations

Little things to improve your mood

Suggestions for insomnia

House-cleaning groups

Recovery

Basic stages of trauma recovery

Uncomfortable feelings that indicate you’re on the right path 

Post-traumatic growth

 Defining forgiveness (Reminder: forgiveness is always optional)

Imagining forgiveness

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me, alone in my room, every 5 minutes: am i being myself? is this who i really am? who am i performing for?

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Don’t forget to drink water so you can stay hydrated while you suffer